Sorry for all your loss.. but one must try and get back into what they enjoy and enjoy life or well sit on the couch and vegetate and we all know what happens then ..
Good luck, enjoy and YES even though I have dealt with death my entire career, I cannot fathom losing my spouse who is my best friend, lover, confidant etc..
in the same boat. my late wife and i were in this from 2003-2019, id like to get back into this too
Interesting topic.....I would include divorced swingers too who had been in the lifestyle together for years....
Why not post a Hot Date and see is you get any takers or interest that way.
I dont know where to go hear in Ronoake. But I like to for a man like me a Widow to go meet Ladies or couples to play with I still want sex and peop[le to party with! anyone in the vally know of places to go too?
Ringo 21- you have to search on here for places that allow SM. I know of one place in CT and one in RI that are private but they allow SM. Both are probably too far for you to travel. But clubs and groups that allow SM are out there.
My husband and I were swingers for the whole 14 years we were together. After he died, I asked myself if I wanted to stay involved and it took about five seconds to decide that I did.
They are at least out there at times. Several years ago now, the husband of a couple we played with routinely, sadly died in an accident. The widow stayed in touch with us (and some other friends) and after a brief hiatus played for a while as a SF with friends she knew well. Probably a year or more later, she started getting serious with a vanilla guy. I have no idea if she never shared this part of her life with him or if he simply had no interest (we never met him), but she just faded away. We've not heard from her or of her for years.
Ringo21 - "...and we're barred from most clubs and events. "
It seems this is common in a lot of places, but not by us. Granted, they do limit the number of SMs so that it's not a sausage-fest, but most of the house/hotel room parties by us allow SMs. These are NOT the parties you generally see advertised on SLS.
The larger hotel take-over parties generally don't allow SMs, but we tend not to do those due to the added expense and the lack of actual playing compared to house or hotel room parties. Like anything else, we prefer to get more bang for our buck. Plus, we actually prefer a party with some SMs vs ones with couples only.
"...wondering do widows who lost their partners stay in the scene.."
We know of 2 widows who did, so, yes. Some do.
Yes, we exist...and my condolences on your loss. I've been widowed almost 5 years, and have stayed in the Lifestyle, although without much success. Unfortunately, widowers fall into the generic "single guy" category, so most folks won't even look at our messages or profile, and we're barred from most clubs and events. Once you explain your situation to people, they're usually very welcoming, but it's hard to get your foot in the proverbial bedroom door. You still have a Couples profile, so maybe you'll have more luck than me.
Good luck and please let me know if you find any groups, or have any "helpful hints" for success.
Ok as a widower who lost his partner and now after a time would like to reenter the scene. Is wondering do widows who lost their partners stay in the scene and at some point want to. Is there a way for them to meet up.
