Profile review please

Thanks all, we do appreciate the input.

The brain trust that is SLS Forums is obviously right, as always. The main reason you're not deliriously happy and getting propositioned 10 times a day is because of "clutter" in 2 of your pictures. The one in the kitchen shows a pot on the (clean) stovetop and a red bowl in the sink. There's also a crock holding kitchen gadgets in view. The woman with the nice figure, great ass and pretty blonde hair is all but invisible amidst the apocalyptic mess!

As for the bathroom pic, OMG! Is there even a woman with a beautiful bare ass standing there? All I can see is part of a blow dryer, a towel or two and some small grooming items that you'd expect to find in a.....gasp...bathroom!! Christ, were you people raised by wolves???

The forum "experts" mean well...mostly, anyway...but please don't put too much stock in anything they say. Also, look at their profiles. Nothing terrible, but I'm certainly not overly impressed. Be yourselves, don't give up entirely on the club scene without trying a few more and, most importantly, have fun. That's what the Swing Lifestyle is, or should be, about, and it's wonderful when it works.

But what do I know? I actually have TWO pots on my stove at times.

Your profile mostly needs a lot of rearranging/organization and some pruning - and you've gotten some good advice about that already.

In addition, I'd suggest adding some vanilla information in Description as you revise your text. We're all here for sex, but it's not always about sex. I'm going to be more attracted to outdoorsy geeks rather than the dance & drink crowd. What makes you interesting people that we'd love to meet?

Finally, it would be nice to see some photos of y'all together - use a timer & tripod or have a friend take a couple photos next time you're out somewhere. Pay attention to background (clutter can really be distracting) and smile. A smile affects all of your body language so it's important even if you obscure your faces.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Not much to add beyond what GGMM said, other than to check out the Generic profile advice post about a dozen before yours. Once you make the changes, post something here and I'll take another look.

That said, it really sucks about the LS event you went to. Generally LS parties/events are going to be your best bet at breaking into a new location, but if people were cliquish and pushy, I can see why you'd not want to return. Perhaps there is another venue near you that you could check out.

Also, if you usually enjoy house parties, you can mention that in the Additional comments section and you may get lucky and get an invite to one.

Like IrishRose, we'd not hesitate to reach out if we were within your age preference. It could be as much the area that you're living in as it is anything to do with you personally, as I didn't see anything particularly off-putting with you or your profile as-is. It can always be improved on, but unfortunately it's not like the changes are likely to make a huge difference in your activity, or lack of it.

I'm not one to critique a profile, there are others on the site who are a lot better at that kind of thing but I (OK, we) love the tagline.

Does MN qualify as a distant/exotic land? We have lutefisk...

Thanks very much for both your time and you constructive criticisms. They will be taken to heart!

As far as parties/clubs go, we tried. Went to a hotel takeover halloween party with another couple. It was objectively awful. Lots of pressure and extremely cliquish. Came away from it feeling angry and ashamed. Kinda hard to get over truthfully.

We play with our friends back home when we go visit but they all pretty much dropped out of the lifestyle. They also said it changed a lot over the course of the pandemic. Seems to verify what has been said here.

Don't think you are really missing anything, just some better organization like Molly said.

You guys sound like a couple we would be interested in if we local to you.

Hi there. Your profile could use organization and editing, but it's not terrible. It might mostly be that small town Oklahoma is a very different scene than Fresno. I know COVID has changed things too. Clubs are doing fine but finding other couples online seems to have gotten way more difficult. Whatever the cause, changing your profile won't be a complete solution. Maybe consider taking your approach - hang out and get to know one another - to one of the OKC clubs periodically. Think of it as building a community, maybe.

On to your profile.

First though I want to be rude about your photos. There are two photos of her that are full of clutter and that is just not a great look. Be really careful about your backgrounds. Also about your age range: Young enough to be your child on the low end isn't a great look either. Try to center your ages in the range you use instead.

In Looking For, you can toss that first paragraph, either entirely or into Description. This section is about the people you're looking for and a little about what, not centered on you.

The third paragraph in that section is basically 'we swing together except when we don't.' That's just confusing as well as an invitation for people to question whether you are clear about what you're comfortable with.

Description has a lot of what you're looking for. I didn't do a word count, but it feels like a good third of it isn't about you, which is what this section is for. You're basically making a pitch here and that means you'd be better served by trimming the parts that belong in the previous section and fitting them in there (you don't need everything you've written, just some of it). Instead of focusing on sex - it's the thing we're here for, but also the least unique thing about anyone - concentrate on you as people/a couple. Let people get to know you a little.

Fantasies makes men seem like an afterthought. Not a great look.

Additional comments was a bit of a headscratcher. Do you mean you live in a remote area or that you're rather chilly as people?

Also, that Sydney University thing is nonsense. There's no such place, it's an old internet hoax, and the rest of it is unenforceable. Eliminate it, please.

This is a good place to say you're D/D free, etc., even though I'll probably never not give a little side eye to 'but 420 friendly' as the coda to that statement.

Good luck.

Hello all. We’ve been here since about 2015 (different name when we started) and had great success until we had to take a 5 year hiatus starting in 2019.

We decided to get back into the swing of things late last year and it’s been…disappointing.
We moved half way across the country during our break so we were ready to change our profile to better reflect our new locale as we received input from other members here, but we can’t get anything. We’re not shy either-if we like your profile we let you know, but it’s been crickets.

So please, if you have the time, check out our profile and tell us if we’re missing something.
Thanks very much.