In our opinion, "No answer is your answer" is both rude and immature. Can't count the number of friendly introductions we've made, people view us ignore the greeting. It's no different than saying good morning to someone and get no reply back.
Many times we have answered with "thank you for your interest but we don't feel we are a match. Best of luck and have fun!"
Can't change people's manners, but we all could be a little more cordial.
We agree that not every user suggested idea is a good one.
But on the other hand, not every idea & feature conceived & implemented by the SLS owners & developers are good ones.
I know this is a lesson it futility, but it would be really nice if we had the option to search the forum on "titles only". I had to go through 2+ pages to find the "Recipes" topic. The only reason I bothered is because I knew the topic existed, but most will likely just create another similar forum topic leading to topic sprawl.
Wayne is not wrong. Just because a suggestion is popular, does not mean it is right. However, the SLS could be more transparent why it was wrong.
Have the suggestions been forwarded to them?
<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">How about what the site users are wanting."</span></p>
<p>In the end, the business and site owner make the final decision. Not every suggestion is a good one, even when lots of people may be suggesting it. </p>
How about what the site users are wanting.
<p>I read all the posts in this Website area. I just don't always comment, if I have nothing really to add to the discussion. </p>
<p>Getting the unread message counter back in real-time is one of our goals for the new year.</p>
<p>Adding some sort of notification for when someone reads your message is also on the list. The old system gave the member the option to mark a message as read or not. They could read your message, mark it as "Read" and not reply to it or they could not even read the message and mark it as "Read". It was up to them. Since the site has couples profiles, it is not so straight forward as to what "reading" a message means.</p>
<p>Some of the other suggestions just are not what the site wants to do. </p>
“I can see the bi play posts by people listed as straight going both ways.”
I see what you did there lol.
I can see the bi play posts by people listed as straight going both ways. IF someone saw that on the forum and IF the person seeing it lived close enough to matter, it could turn off some and open the door for others.
There are other examples of this as well. I know others have messaged me saying they like my posts and others have blocked me without ever having an exchange of any kind. C'est la vie.
Got ya.
But not only could Forum posts make people lose interest, they could create more interest. Along the lines of what I wrote previously...
I see many people posting in the Forum about their participation in bi activities but their profile lists them as Str8 and there is no mention of their interest in bi activities in their profile- but there is in their Forum posts.
Or it could be an interest in ANYTHING- sexual or otherwise that may be a starting point for introduction/discussion.
Anyway, recommendations typically never happen. As in most businesses, owners/sellers tell the customers/clients what the clients want.
" The politics posts say a lot, but, for example, ..."
I agree...which is why I said especially. I see all that stuff you mentioned as well.
"...does anyone actually use that?"
I use a combination of Notes, Stars and Favorites to keep track. Favorites is where I park potentials as well as those we play with and far-flung forum friends. Contact dates and my thoughts go in Notes. I mostly use the "no interest" Star but occasionally will use the one, two or three Stars.
It's a lot easier to see the "no interest" star at a glance than to read Notes - that print is tiny! Plus I think you can exclude those you've marked with the "no interest" star from searches.
@ Irish- The politics posts say a lot, but, for example, so do "Str8" posts about their frequent bisexual activities and that all people who list as Str8 would enjoy and reciprocate in Bi activities if they would just allow it. There have been some revealing posts and arguments around that discussion in the past.
And then there's the people who always argue about people listing as bi but "really aren't Bi and there's no such thing as Bi-curious".
Politics isn't the only place you can get an understanding about someone that may turn you off about meeting them.
@Phoebert: does anyone actually use that? Anyone that would be a “yes” would end up in Favorites with a quick note.
If SLS wanted to add our star rating to the flyer, great. It would work the same way as a thumb. Right now, it’s a feature without purpose.
Onehornywife, I too noticed SLS has not responded to anything in this thread. It is not only disappointing, it validates previous claims that SLS will not act on any of these suggestions.
"...Thumbs Up or Thumbs Down button..."
There is already the star ratings for you to note your interest in a profile that wouldn't take up much space on flyover.
Exactly Ed & Britney. We've wanted this for a long time. We don't want to start blocking profiles.
Even a Thumbs Up or Thumbs Down button visible only to the user would be easier to fit on the flyover and easily tell you that you've seen the profile before, and they are either interesting or not interesting to you.
When hovering over a profile, and the flyover comes up, I wish that the info on the flyover would also include any notes that you had added at some time for that profile. It saves clicking on the profile, thereby showing up on their "Who viewed me", only to discover you had put a note there that said you werent a match.
" had once suggested a button on a profile to see a profile's recent Forum posts- like the one you see when reading a post in the Forum."
I feel like I would lose interest in a lot people if I saw their posts, especially from the politics forum.
I had once suggested a button on a profile to see a profile's recent Forum posts- like the one you see when reading a post in the Forum.
Not everyone looks at the Forum. Reading their Forum posts, if any, may affect whether or not you attempt to contact them.
Kinda like how their current Hot Dates and any current events they're signed up for are on their profile.
Ringo I have had posts gone missing. Several times it was sent to someone we were playing with or were making arrangements with.
Twice it was with someone that I had posted and out of curiosity I posted and asked it they had received my post.
Those I take with a grain of salt , but the others I am confident of.
I think a read-receipt would be especially helpful when responding to "Hot Date" ads. I've answered quite a few where I seemed to check every box on their ad and profile wish list...age, location, body type, interests, etc...and still didn't hear from them. I agree with the concept of "no answer is an answer", so I don't persist with repeat messages or by badgering people. I simply figure that they met someone else, didn't like my something about my profile, worked with me, or maybe my pictures simply reminded them of their FUGLY green-toothed second cousin.
Whatever the case, and with all that being said, I've had 3 separate incidents over the past couple of years where I know I sent someone a message and they never received it, and I've seen quite a few people here in the forums with the same complaint. A read-receipt would be a nice positive for the sender while being harmless and completely effortless for the recipient.
"But when they block you, you can't see your notes anymore."
There can't be any contact while they have you blocked so I'm not sure you really need your notes. And if they unblock you and make contact then your notes should still be there.
Only problem would be if they block you before you have a chance to make notes.
But when they block you, you can't see your notes anymore.
That's why some people recommend a spreadsheet. :-)
