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SLS Wayne: There really needs to be a "Banner or Notice" telling people to check messages regularly. I have replied to several received messages with No Reply... bc I assume the members haven't checked for "New" messages... Frustration !!!
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What a mess !!! I had (4) messages received today and a (0) on the message counter... I happened to check my messages out of habit. Is there a website Notice or Banner informing members of this issue?
Profile changed
Hello SLS website: Can we edit photos on this site eg: edit, crop or blur??
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
Hello All: I was able to find a work-around for my local SLS HOT-Dates thru the SLS "Events" tab... Then I clicked on "SLS Groups" and I was able to locate the SLS Hot-Date events I'm signed up for in my area. Please let me know if this wo…
hot dates not showing up
Hello All: I was able to find a work-around for my local SLS HOT-Dates thru the SLS "Events" tab... Then I clicked on "SLS Groups" and I was able to locate the SLS Hot-Date events I'm signed up for in my area. Please let me know if this wo…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
SportnBerr: I hope you both have a Great time at the party!! I attend local SLS home parties pretty frequently with little or no incidents observed. Most hosts (that I know) take their events Very seriously and make sure All the guest are…
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
May8: I Strongly agree with you on this one. As a SM, I focus 99% of my time on the SLS website looking for parties, meet-n-greets, or events to attend. The results (for me) are MUCH better then using the message system on this site. I've…
Kik
Mot1974: Understood ... For me as noted many times before, I use this site Only for Hot-dates, party events, meet-n-greets, or member profile info... I don't use this website as a messenger service. I attend as many SLS events/parties as p…
Kik
Mot1974: I recently Deleted KIK... I tried using KIK for 18 months, but I was mostly getting nothing but annoying "Bot or Spam" activity. Also most anyone (girls/guys) who did contact me thru KIK were Pro$$ offering "Paid" services Only ..…
Lost Underwear!
LOL !! Worse than losing your undies is getting the Wrong undies !! That almost happened to me at a recent SLS home event... we corrected the error prior to leaving the room. I now were my lucky blue or red Calvin K undies to most all SLS…
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
Atip: I have recently (3 weeks) discovered a local "Upscale" wine-bar in my area. The number of (35+ yr old) single women who were open & ready to explore was Amazing!! I was very surprised to see this as I never frequented the bar scene i…
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
Atip: I stopped sending "Blind" messages on this site (18+) months ago "Waste of Time". I Only send message to SF/couples that I have met (in-person) at SLS lifestyle events or those who've messaged me 1st. You need to attend SLS events/cl…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
Soro1000: I no longer attend the Madera event after (2) tries. I did attend the Hanford SLS event this past weekend (70+ attendees), I enjoyed several meet-n-greets with multiple Playtimes!! I Strongly recommend you attend the Clovis SLS e…
What do you find appealing about people who say they are shy
Ringo21: Great take on this topic... I do consider myself somewhat shy in that I'm Not "Loud or Aggressive" around people in general. More in my case I'm "reading the room" or person on how to proceed and to see if there is connection or c…
Lying about Weight
Esper911: Agree with you on this one!! As a mature SM I take health, fitness, hygiene and nutrition on a more consistent or serious side. For SM like myself I understand accurate pics and specs are crucial in order to maintain a Positive p…
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
I was introduced to the SLS lifestyle just after my divorce (18+ months ago) by a Unicorn friend. I was (mostly) happily married 22+ years prior, so I had not explored the bar or club scene at all. To your point SLS has been "Extremely Fun…
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
HeelsInAir: I Strongly agree with you on this one!! Nothing like a in-person meet-n-greet to see if there is connection or chemistry. I have recently found a local upscale wine-bar in my area and I was honestly "Completely Overwhelmed" wit…
Requesting your husband to suck cock
MsRand: Once again another "Fantasy Couple" located 1800+ miles away!! I've been to Florida once.... AMAZING !!! Florida seems to have All the lifestyle Hot-Couples !!! Enjoy your lifestyle journey...
Single men and why we are blocked.
BobUSA: Agree with you on this one!! ALL "Paid Memberships" should have the same or equal benefits and access. As with many SM's, I also get views from "Blocked SM" members (couples/unicorns). The website admin needs to take control and fi…
Bikes
"Never thought I would see a ‘bike’ discussion on a swinger site." My bike Profile Pics have been working Wonders for me on this site... LOL !!
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
NativeSF: Agree with some on this one. I do make it a "Priority" as a SM to be respectful at ALL events and to connect with the Party or event host in specific. I'm fortunately now at the point to where I'm an "Auto Invite" to about (4) di…
Sports: Football, UFC, Boxing, Wrestling, Golf, BasketBall, Baseball, soccer,etc Or any other Sport u would like to Discuss
8inch: May I suggest you bounce down to Florida as soon as you get the chance... I'm headed to Tampa then Miami in late-Sept for family & Play events. Sounds like you need a change in scene Fast!!
Sports: Football, UFC, Boxing, Wrestling, Golf, BasketBall, Baseball, soccer,etc Or any other Sport u would like to Discuss
Yikes bro!!! I get it... I assume your career, family or other life issue brought you to that area... And I complain a little about the Cali SLS lifestyle scene (as compared to Florida)... Not anymore !!!
Sports: Football, UFC, Boxing, Wrestling, Golf, BasketBall, Baseball, soccer,etc Or any other Sport u would like to Discuss
" I know I had a sex addiction for 2 decades. I can easily admit that. Moving to Wisconsin cured that right up." 8Inch: I have (2) college buddies who attended U of Wisconsin and quickly found their futures wives in WI. Granted they were i…
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
Ringo21... I mostly agree with Sor1000 on this one. Your best option is to attend SLS or lifestyle events or parties (local or travel). My personal success here is based on in-person lifestyle party or event meet-n-greets Only. I use this…
Do SMs Want SFs?
LMK: Thanks for the insight from a SF (unicorn) perspective. "Not to beat a dead horse" but my in-person meet n greet success is 100X better than my online presence. The eye test and personality connection can't really be appreciated thru…
Be shared by a cuckold couple
LocoGeo: You would be my Fantasy Couple !! I'll keep looking ...
Be shared by a cuckold couple
LocoGeo: Of course you live across the country... just my luck on this site... Enjoy!!
When is it the time to quit swinging
SlowHand: Absolutely Right Sir!!! The way things are going please Enjoy every minute you can while you can!!!
Do SMs Want SFs?
I find that trying to reach out to SF (Unicorns) on this SLS site is useless. A Unicorn friend of mine told me that she gets an min of 50+ messages here a day from SM or couples. How can anyone sort thru that daily? She also mentioned that…
Soundwave therapy
64Golf: Yes- Sir I would have to agree with you on this. I have been on a vegetarian or low red meat diet for years. But I find that mixing in some red-meat really makes a Huge difference in my overall energy & performance levels. I have r…
Kik
I recently Deleted KIK... I was getting nothing but Bot or Spam activity. Also anyone who contacted me was a Pro $$ offering services... I'll Pass !!
Actually looking like your pics
As a mature SM I take health, fitness, hygiene and nutrition on a more consistent or serious side. For SM like myself accurate pics and specs are crucial in order to maintain a Positive profile and regular Play-Dates within the SLS lifesty…
Actually looking like your pics
For me the SLS profile pics don't mean much at all. I've also met people who've used 5-20 yr old pics !! They are Not even close to the 5'4" 130 lbs profile pics they post? Also I personally don't think I photo well tbh... some people the…
Why only 1 profile pic?
I guess there is no wrong answer here. For me it appears my online pics are Left swipe... in person meets Right swipe !
Why only 1 profile pic?
SF & RK: As I may have mentioned before my success here on SLS is based 99% on in person meet n greets (Hot-Dates or SLS events). The same people who "BLOCK" SM or don't reply to my messages are the same people I meet at an SLS event and g…
Singles or couples wanting to meet without seeing face pictures
For me pics don't mean much. I've met people who've used 5-20 yr old pics !! They are Not even close to the 5'4" 130 lbs pic they post? Also I personally don't think I photo well ... some people the camera likes better than others. I would…
Why only 1 profile pic?
For me pics don't mean much. I've met people who've used 5-20 yr old pics !! They are Not even close to the 5'4" 130 lbs pic they post? Also I personally don't think I photo well ... some people the camera likes better than others. I would…
Please review profile
FYI- I was in Florida this past March... OMG!! Florida is the Mecca for the SLS lifestyle!! Plenty of lifestyle clubs & events there. I wish CA was the same...
Please review profile
Madd... May I suggest that you attend several SLS events or parties (local or travel). My personal (and other SM) success here is based on in person meet-n-greets. I use this SLS website Only for the SLS lifestyle events info & schedules..…
Outed
Well put Medicpapa... I'm Not a lawyer, but spreading private/personal info at the workplace is a serious legal issue. I would definitely contact your HR Dept about the situation or if need be get outside legal counsel. I'm sure the offend…
Alcoholics
Agreed... I made the (over-drinking) mistake at my 1st SLS party event. I'm not a drinker to begin with, but my Bad encounter was due perhaps to nerves and Not knowing anyone. Since then I have a 1 drink MAX and walk around with a water cu…
Does anyone else find it hard to find local playmates?
LickerClit... May I suggest that you attend several SLS events or parties (local or travel). My personal success here is based on in-person meet-n-greets Only. I use this website primarily for the SLS lifestyle events info & schedules... I…
Sports: Football, UFC, Boxing, Wrestling, Golf, BasketBall, Baseball, soccer,etc Or any other Sport u would like to Discuss
Bravo Currentrider !! I'm a Pac-12 parent ... my 2 daughters attended Pac-12 schools. As noted the history, tradition, and nostalgia of college football has gone out the window. College football is a Big $$ Billion business and treated as…
Saying hello
BallofFun... May I suggest that you attend several SLS events or parties (local or travel). My personal success here is based on in-person meet-n-greets Only. I use this website primarily for the SLS lifestyle events info & schedules... I'…
bi guys
BruWayne: I Agree with you on this one!! I've been in the uncomfortable situation with a couple where the guy appeared to be a little to interest in me... Not my thing!! Just sayin.
Do SMs Want SFs?
I agree with a prior post. I find SF (aka Unicorns) to be Much more receptive at SLS events or parties (meet n greet) with SM... I feel online SLS contact that SF are overwhelmed with messages or creepy profiles. One SF (Unicorn) told me s…
Doesn't eat pussy?!!!?
OMG ... Eating pussy to orgasm is the Best !! Loves to eat PIE ... LOL !!
Meeting single guys
Hello LmK: As a SM I prefer to meet n greet with new SLS couples/singles at small local house parties or events. I mostly use this SLS website Only for the "Hot-Dates" feature. I send/receive very few messages. Perhaps try some Hot-Date ev…
Can a quiet reserved SM succeed here??
Thanks RK & DTHD for the insightful info & tips... For the most part SLS has been a Very interesting learning experience for me considering I never knew the SLS lifestyle existed 18+ months ago ... LOL !! RK- talk soon ; )
Can a quiet reserved SM succeed here??
I do feel CERTS are much more important for SM at the start of the SLS lifestyle. For couples perhaps Not so important. Again I use the SLS website mostly for meet n greet (Hot-Date) parties or events. I have Very little message success on…
Can a quiet reserved SM succeed here??
Thanks RK & TV ... Thank you both for addressing My original post. I considered myself to be a very "Apprehensive Newbie" at that time. TV is on point with his SM advise. I have become much more confident and comfortable with the SLS lifes…
BBC licking kitty
Hello SLS members: There appears to be a myth out there about BBC's Not liking to lick kitty (Not true). Frankly licking kitty to (2-3) orgasms is Required fore-play for me. Such a Huge turn-on! I have met several ladies who were surprised…
BBC Bull or Romantic fool ?
I have been in the SLS lifestyle for approx. 1 year. My time here with SLS has been in my opinion Exceptional !! I have met some really Fun, educated, and Sexxy people (singles & couples). However recently I feel the need to be in a more T…
BBC bull or Romantic fool ?
I have been in the SLS lifestyle for approx. 1 year. My time here with SLS has been in my opinion Exceptional !! I have met some really Fun, educated, and Sexxy people (singles & couples). However recently I feel the need to be in a more T…
Can a quiet reserved SM succeed here??
Wow!! I started this post as an innocent "Newbie" question. It has appeared to have turn into something much Darker... I'm OUT !! ** I attended a recent local SLS event (with play-time) and now have 2 Hot-Dates lined up... In person contac…
C-19 sent me here . anyone else?
I've been a SM for about 2yrs. Mostly happily married for about 20 prior years. My SM sex life was mostly active and fulfilled prior to Covid-19. With C-19 things changed quickly and I have been part of the (SLS community) ever since. I ap…
Profile Help Please !!!
Hello I really appreciate everyone who has replied to my post. I'm 2.5 years as a SM after a 22 yr marriage (mostly Happy) so this has been an adjustment period for me. I take All of the advice & tips in a positive manner and I will apply…
Help!!! Looking for local regulars .
Hello I really appreciate everyone who has replied to my post. I'm 2.5 years as a SM after a 22 yr marriage (mostly Happy) so this has been an adjustment period for me. I take All of the advice & tips in a positive manner and I will apply…
Can a quiet reserved SM succeed here??
Hello I really appreciate everyone who has replied to my post. I'm 2.5 years as a SM after a 22 yr marriage (mostly Happy) so this has been an adjustment period for me. I take All of the advice & tips in a positive manner and I will apply…
Do people read SM CERTS??
Hello I really appreciate everyone who has replied to my post. I'm 2.5 years as a SM after a 22 yr marriage (mostly Happy) so this has been an adjustment period for me. I take All of the advice & tips in a positive manner and I will apply…
Can a quiet reserved SM succeed here??
Hello I'm <1yr in the SLS lifestyle. How can a reserved & quiet SM compete here ?? Also can a SM have too many CERTS ?? I feel obligated to post CERTS if people take time to write them...
Do people read SM CERTS??
Hello I'm a SM less than 1 year in the SLS lifestyle... I'm just curious how important are SM CERTS?? Do couple read them at All ??
Profile Help Please !!!
I've been in SLS lifestyle for less than 1 year and I've met some Great people. I do pretty well at local SLS home events but Poorly on the website. I'm Much more comfortable with in person meet n greets. I'm Not big on chats, text, talkin…
Help!!! Looking for local regulars .
I've been in SLS lifestyle for less than 1 year and I've met some Great people. I do pretty well at local SLS home events but Poorly on the website. I'm Much more comfortable with in person meet n greets. I'm Not big on chats, text or phot…