Well you really should start your on topic to get feedback but I will share this. The one pic of you with the hat, long hairy and sloppy faded jeans does nothing for us as being attracted to you. Dress to impress and post accordingly.
Hi. Please look at my profile and tell me honestly what is wrong. Many view my profile but say nothing. Not even, not interested. I know I'm single and only text those that "say" single males ok. I would seriously like some pointers with my profile before I write this site off as redictulas. Thank you
Hello I really appreciate everyone who has replied to my post. I'm 2.5 years as a SM after a 22 yr marriage (mostly Happy) so this has been an adjustment period for me. I take All of the advice & tips in a positive manner and I will apply them moving forward. Thank You All & Best Wishes- Calvin
My wife suggested that you get photos taken of you where you are smiling at the camera, and NOT where you have obviously cropped other people out. Also, she urges you to please call women WOMEN, not "females".
And from both of us - lower your expectations of this web site. Online dating is bad enough in general. This site makes it worse.
Hi. I hope you read other threads here and have some idea of the very direct responses you'll get. It can feel uncomfortable, so be forewarned.
First, you say this here: "I'm Not big on chats, text, talking about myself, or photos..." And this in your profile: "Sorry I don't really chat/text or do Selfie pics..."
Here's my interpretation: I get that this is begins as both a written and visual method of contact, but I can't be fucking bothered to do my part.
So, really, anything you've written after that is kind of pointless, don't you think? I mean, you don't chat or text or do photos (although your photos are fine, even if I'm not a fan of pointless shirtless pics or unsmiling faces) and if you aren't willing to make an effort, why should anyone else?
If what you mean instead is that those things make you feel awkward, where meeting people in person does not, that's a different story and nobody needs to know that because you're an adult and you can do difficult things without whining about it here or on your profile.
If it's the latter case, then prune some of your certs, leaving only those where you've actually played with those giving them. And even then be judicious. It really is a pandemic and the sheer number of certs over a very short period of time indicates you're not careful, regardless of the use of the word safe in your tagline.
Also, taglines are meant to invite people to open your profile and learn more about you, which yours doesn't. Try short and clever instead.
As for the rest, capital letters aren't used the way you've done it. They're only for the beginnings of sentences and people and place names. So, please fix that. Also, it's women rather than females for reasons of grammar. And please stop SHOUTING ON THE INTERNET, which is what all caps indicates.
Looking For, even when you remove the part about what you won't do that will discourage more people than you would like, isn't very appealing, but you can help it by reading what's left out loud and fixing the syntax error. Oh, and those exclamation marks can go to the same trash can as the capital letters.
In Description, the only part that is at all interesting is that you're a former college scholar/athlete and remain a gentleman. The rest is like scattershot of everything you've ever seen on a profile. There may be useful stuff there, but it needs to be dialed down to a simple statement that you are disease and drug free and only play safe. If someone cares if you're cut or have had a vasectomy, they'll ask and you can use your profile instead for talking about the things that are actually interesting to most people, which generally revolve around what sort of person you are. Surprisingly, talking about how you sex isn't a selling point (honestly, while there are differences between one guy and another, the important differences aren't usually about any of the things that get highlighted in profiles). What kind of guy you are is a selling point.
In Fantasies, after you eliminate those random capital letters, consider talking a little time to talk about your experience.
Eliminate that entire stupid warning. If you won't just trust me that it's nonsense, look up that statute and show me the part that applies to what you've got there.
Other than that, change your default photo to the one of you smiling and wearing shorts. That is by far the best of your photos.
If you need more help, that's available, since everyone's success makes the world a better place.
Good luck.
I've been in SLS lifestyle for less than 1 year and I've met some Great people. I do pretty well at local SLS home events but Poorly on the website. I'm Much more comfortable with in person meet n greets. I'm Not big on chats, text, talking about myself, or photos... I would love to find local FWB regulars ... Help... What's wrong with my profile??
