Achieving Single Male Success
Community discussion of Achieving Single Male Success on SwingLifeStyle — visit reports, recommendations, ongoing conversations, and shared experiences from active members. Each thread reflects on-the-ground input from couples and singles in the lifestyle. New posts welcome from anyone with a verified account.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
Dear single males If your opening line is "how are you", "what are you up to", or is some sort of similar "barely minimal word question" that requires me to type a paragraph to an…
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Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
Couples and single women – assuming you’re open to single guys, what makes you read a message or open a profile? The screen name? The picture? The stats? The tag line? After almos…
by Ringo21298replies12,177viewsmarried and looking
That might not be the right thing to put in the subject, but will have to do for now... I have been in an intimate-less marriage for about 8 years. the reason is medical on her pa…
by washaw96replies10,412viewsJust some advice guys
As part of a couple that isn't opposed to single men. Actually we seek them out for my wife so she can enjoy 2 or more guys at once. I do want to take a minute to offer up a littl…
81replies8,654viewsHow to be a successful SM in the Lifestyle
MrTrainer here! If you're a single swinging male - as I am - then you know that the bar is lifted higher for you (as it should be), when making connections and having memorable en…
by MrTrainer193replies8,499viewsWhen couples look for SM
Is it just me or are couples who are looking for a single men not reading mail they are sent? Perhaps it's just a bug on my end but 95% of the messages I send are still labeled un…
78replies8,267viewsCouple blocking single male profile
I understand their desire to do this but why are they able to view single male profiles? Kind of like 1 way mirror interrogation room. Anyone else feel the same way?
by wildcardnn82replies6,799viewsFrustrated
I am a single straight guy and i don't understand why certain couples block single males and then not long after i see they just visited my profile. I just think its funny anybody…
by MikeBar2377replies6,258viewsWhat would be your first line message approach?
I would like to ask you single men ( including me ) what would be your approach when you write to someone you are interested in ?
135replies6,247viewsDo Not Be This Guy
So for reference all you SMs looking to find play partners, please keep in mind that first contact is important. And that a no today doesn't mean a no tomorrow. I'm paraphrasing t…
by ncwv111replies5,858views- 33replies5,556views
Single Guy Guide to Success
As we read the fora here and see the many opinions of many tastes and proclivities, we thought it might be useful to all to start a blog about what can help a guy be successful in…
by fraunhubby68107replies5,555viewsCan a quiet reserved SM succeed here??
Hello I'm 1yr in the SLS lifestyle. How can a reserved & quiet SM compete here ?? Also can a SM have too many CERTS ?? I feel obligated to post CERTS if people take time to write…
by Zulu008102replies5,487viewsOlder / single / limited experience equals Waste of Time?
I’m curious to see if there is anyone out there that could HONESTLY give something other than the expected response. I’m a 50 year old single (divorced) male, a little overweight…
96replies5,343viewsHow do most couples feel about a fwb situation with single males?
I am just curious to get the thoughts of couples on whether they consider a longer term friendship type situation with single males of if they prefer more of a one-night stand typ…
42replies4,624viewsSaying hello
I guess I need to put this out here. It's gotten to that point. As a single male in the lifestyle since 04. It appears that starting a question with a hello or good evening is ins…
by DRKPRNCE83replies4,563viewsWhat not to do gents
Anyone who reads just the first sentence or two of our profile should know we are not in FL now. Regardless, we have just received the second message today from a guy "visiting Ve…
226replies4,178viewsInitial Contact
Hi Lifestylers, I am a single, straight male (oh bother) who is eager to learn all there is to achieve ongoing meetups with a Hotwife couple. In order to do that, a great first me…
31replies3,819viewsWhat would be a couples advice on a single guy messaging a couple?
What should be covered in the first message?
by LiveOnceWell25replies3,685viewsHow to be a Successful SM in the SLS Community
Years in the making: I've seen the real homemade videos. Ive seen the documentaries. Ive talked to countless people about their own experiences and have been lucky enough to exper…
by Mr_E_3318replies3,678viewsTips for younger guys
Looking for some tips/feedback to be successful w hotwives and attractive older women on here. I'm 23 yo in college, traditionally handsome, in pretty decent shape and endowed.
by pequarockgod47replies3,575viewsMessaging Etiquette
I am a single guy. I find an interesting profile. I check to make sure I fit the profiles parameters and send a message. There is outright rejection or some conversation back and…
by Sewyoguy2144replies3,515viewsWe need a DEAD BEAT section
I love that we can leave certs. But I really wish we could have a warning system for the dead beats or pic collectors. I have had a few over the years who stood us up , no call ,…
72replies3,185viewsThe clowns have finally beaten me down
All you single males we already know, we assume you still have our phone number. Our playtime is very limited now, but stay in touch. We are still around and still interested in r…
43replies3,175viewsHere's one reason why
This is just one reason (but a biggie) that you may not be seeing the success you are hoping for. This pretty much falls into many of the previous topics that came before. This is…
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Single Gentlemen, What would you do?
So we are looking for single gentleman. After turning the Single Men switch on in settings it took about .2 seconds to get a couple of emails. Doing searches seems a little daunti…
by Fokkers18replies2,921viewsPic Advice For Single Males
Maybe it's just us but we have had a recent surge in single male views, hence triggering us looking at more SM than usual. An overarching theme of profile pics is that most that s…
by ncwv39replies2,693viewsMayday! Mayday!
The messaging system is awful. Send a message as you would a regular email. As for smoking, a while back when you would update your profile for whatever reason profiles would defa…
by cacpl_2640replies2,686viewsAre single males actually swingers?
In another forum a single male posted about his experience in the lifestyle. He stated he had never been married and had been in the lifestyle for ten years with little to no succ…
by 2hotnwtx43replies2,668viewsTHE RULES PT 1 .
*Put effort into your pictures, especially dick picks. *Your hygiene must be impeccable *Show up when you say you will, most couples have a sausage convention to choose from, you…
by Thaiger21replies2,616viewsIs it just me lol
First off little back ground I'm married to a great woman we have played with both men and women in past.recently we have ventured out on our own to explore more about the lifesty…
by Tel087243replies2,529viewsNewbie!! Need help finding companions
Don't assume that the lack of certs is the problem. That is certainly a factor, but not necessarily the most important. The biggest problem is simply that you're a single male. Th…
by sorillo100032replies2,497viewsYoung Black Single Male
I'm fairly new to the lifestyle. I need help with my profile and I'm hoping to meet Fwb. Im extremely humble but I came to terms with having a big cock. When I say big I mean she'…
by GLDNTKT14replies2,465viewsAdvice please.
Hello all, I joined this site about two years ago, kept the membership going for about 2 months and then left as life got busy. I recently rejoined about 2 days ago and have been…
by Tsarlupin24replies2,272viewsSingle Male Friendly
Hello people, Just have a question to ask here. I use to be on SLS back in the day and think that I was able to hold some good conversations and meet some nice couples/People. How…
by onetime6617replies2,243viewsAdvice for young single males
Not new to this lifestyle but also don’t have the best/most experience in the lifestyle. Anybody have any advice?
by javigmz12replies2,224viewsSome Of You Men Claim To Be A Couple
For some of you men that is single, if you say that you have a girlfriend and you both looking for a couple or a single female. How come you switch over and say " do any couples a…
19replies2,212viewsA Sure Thing For Single Men To Get Laid
I don't believe in "a sure thing". You still have to put some effort into it. And in my experience it's actually more difficult to simply "get laid" in the lifestyle than it is in…
by sorillo100011replies2,193viewsHot husband seeking helpful advice!?
I'm really not sure how to go about this. My woman and I have an understanding and she is supportive of me playing to say the least. But I can't seem to find any woman or couple t…
26replies2,186viewsIs there such a thing as too many or too little?
For a single guy, is there such as a thing as too little or too many certs? If a single guy has a lot of certs, when does it become too much that he’s seen as a bed hopper or too…
by HungVet10replies2,183viewsNeed help in getting anyone to reply
First off, I know being a single male is very hard in the lifestyle. I joined the site knowing not to expect overnight success; however, I've been here about a year and have had v…
14replies2,177viewsRule #1 guys, don't miss out when you get a chance
Friday this week the wife and I stopped in at a local tavern/sports bar for lunch. There were a handful of younger guys sitting at the bar beside us (guys in their 30s) who were d…
14replies2,168viewsA dime a dozen.
I have to say, we, single men are a dime a dozen..: couples get dozens of messages daily from single guys. I do read the profiles, I only wrote those where I see fit and meet the…
20replies2,157viewsWho pays?
So spoke to a couple from here. Who was quite rude. Regardless, they didn’t want to meet because I only offered to split room fare and not pay entirely. I feel as a single guy, if…
by CarsonClout26replies2,080viewsStraight and bi curious
Hi. When I was part of a couple, we (me really) were only interested in threesomes with men and women who were bi/bi-curious. I'd have given your profile a pass because of the lin…
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So I am not sure why but I seem to meet a lot of fake couples on here or ones that are not serious about meeting. I live in nova, I mean I know there is an abundance of single mal…
by guygato880816replies1,937views- 10replies1,888views
Widower Wedding Rings
I'm 61 and single...widowed, unfortunately. My wife and I were active swingers for 20 years or so. I still wear my wedding ring all the time, even though I've been solo almost 3 y…
by Ringo2118replies1,883views
