Happy New Year
in Open Forum ·
Happy New Year, yet again.
JCcpl2
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So, whatcha drinking
in Open Forum ·
Drinking Woodford Reserve at the moment, switching to Dom Perignon closer to midnight.
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
It’s pretty simple to us. Be interesting. If you have at least put effort in we usually respond. We received today a opening message from someone that simply said. “I want you” and the profile picture is a hoody with the face obscured by s…
How do most couples feel about a fwb situation with single males?
The Mrs has had a couple guys play the part of FWB in the past that were good. After a visit she would feel sexy, alive, desireable, everything she wanted to feel. She would relate the experience while being devoured at home and I loved se…
swinger clubs in amsterdam
in Clubs ·
Not sure if overnight stays were an option, but regardless, we spent the night at a club ages ago and swore we’d never do it again.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
Whatever it is, it should also make sense. We still have not figured out what this message we received means. “ Disregard females, acquire currency!”
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“Side note, Wow eating p*ssy AND intercourse?! Kinky indeed!“ LOL, I guess kinky, like beauty, really is in the eye of the beholder.
Newbie threesome question
in 3-Some ·
“I would rather hear "I love you " and you make me feel special " rather than "b@#$h suck my @#@%. That's pretty sad“ When judging someone’s style as “sad” it’s good to remember what most vanilla people would think of Swingers in general.…
Good or bad to mention political persuasion in profile?
in Getting Started ·
We won’t play with anyone that is talking politics either in their profile or in their communications with us, we figure they are already fucked and there is nothing we can do for them.
French Polynesia 2023
in Travel ·
We’ll be spending a week on Mo’orea starting April 8. If anyone is going to be there and is interested in meeting for a drink drop us a note.
Vegas clubs?
in Getting Started ·
We heard that the Green Door gets a lot of lookers, Bachelorette parties looking to be “crazy” by going to a swing club but all they do is gawk and run away, so we passed, We ended up going to a “Purrfect party” but it was loud and there w…
swinger clubs in amsterdam
in Clubs ·
It was a long time ago, we went to Fun4Two in Rotterdam. We were staying in Amsterdam but they had a car service that took us both ways right from our hotel. We had a great night.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
Perhaps, we tried the app ages ago and ditched it. Regardless we just delete the unwanted requests.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“Worse is the Private Image request now with not even so much as a hello. Just for the hell of it we looked and it was a two line profile with no pics.“ People using the app often send the picture request by accident and aren’t even aware…
Newbie threesome question
in 3-Some ·
Can honestly say that it has never been an issue when with a single. If they find the bond that we share uncomfortable then we are not the couple for them.
Does anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
We read every message that comes our way. Whether we respond to it or not depends on what it says. We’ve gotten plenty that just say “hey”, those get ignored. Like passing someone in a hallway and saying ”sup”, it doesn’t really demand a r…
Friends/Friend Request
in Open Forum ·
We only send friend requests to people we’ve chatted with, and we generally decline requests that come without at least some basic conversation.
Kik
in First Contact ·
Google voice, it’s free, kind of like a virtual burn phone. We’ve used it for a long time now.
Kik
in First Contact ·
Are we the only ones using a separate phone number dedicated to their LS activities?
Single males
Lol, no, it wasn’t you
Single males
We wouldn’t say no just because someone is single. We prefer couples but would see a single if they are appealing. If the first line is a normal thought out greeting, not vulgar and the person is appealing we’d reply and see where it went.…
Single males
“Why not just block them at that point?“ If they keep on bugging us, sure. But otherwise, why bother? We just hit the back button and move on to the next message. If we blocked every person that sent a one word message, we’d have an insane…
Single males
“People should treat people like they exist, and acknowledge them, and they do owe a response, even if it is just a block” We do not feel we owe a response to everyone that messages us. We also don’t get upset if we don’t get a response to…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
Glad the block still works.
Kik
in First Contact ·
We’re not a big fan of Kik, but the SLS messaging can be flakey. The disappearing message problem is worse some days than others, when it starts happening, we get into the habit of copying our message, then when it vanishes we paste it bac…
How long did you date your significant other before you got physically intimate?
in Swinger Advice ·
First date. We were both easy.
All I can say is wow
in Open Forum ·
Received this the other day. “Hey”
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
Wildwidow, it is our understanding that it cannot. It simply can detect if it has been in your system. Aside from finding the smell about as pleasant as a tire fire, we are also subject to random drug screening, It isn’t worth it.
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
We don’t really want smokers either but easily would tolerate cigar or pipe over marijuana.
Advice
SF, We think you should rewrite your entire profile and try to make it less hostile and more inviting. It really seems to be pretty negative and a bit hostile. We generally give people that have profiles with that tone a pass and just move…
Cert Etiquette question?
in Open Forum ·
That may be the intent, but anyone trying to “scam” could certainly get certified. We’ve certainly seen certs that seemed like they were most likely placed by a shill before. With that in mind, they don’t tell us a thing and we ignore them…
Cert Etiquette question?
in Open Forum ·
We had certs, but we deleted them and no longer accept them. If someone stays away because they don’t see a cert, meh, we’ll get over it.
Are you lying about sexual orientation in your profile
in Open Forum ·
We’ve been around long enough to have blocked the OP because the world would be a better place if they just stayed shut.
Happy New Year
in Open Forum ·
Hope everyone has a Happy New Year.
Bullshitters .
in Finding Playmates ·
You need to evaluate each situation as it comes up. If it feels like BS, then treat it as such. You don’t own anyone here a thing. The downside to being too stingy is you will without a doubt turn some legitimate couples away, but nothing…
Swinger Symbol clothing
in Open Forum ·
If that was us we were just telling you to go faster.
Girls are the prize, guys are the price?
in Getting Started ·
So if a couple feels this way, they must certainly be saying the same about themselves. Why would we be interested in meeting them if they both aren’t a prize? Neither one of us is willing to take one for the team.
Anyone prefer to hunt couple in the vanilla world?
in Swinger Advice ·
Sometimes when we go out we’ll wear our black rings, dress a little more etc. but we don’t actually hunt others and we’ve never spotted ls folks “in the wild”. Once years ago before we were part of the ls, pretty sure we were targeted by a…
No Show
in Open Forum ·
We won’t travel that far to meet for a few reasons. If we do go that far we already have another reason to be there or we are going to a ls club. We don’t like asking someone else to travel a long distance to meet us because we generally w…
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
“Sounds like a club...”. We’ve been to lots of clubs, our abs experience was not like any club we’ve been to, it would have to be the crappiest club ever.
Fakes, Flakes and Time wasters
in Swinger Advice ·
Thanks, we often think geography is a bitch too.
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
“because it could be so much more if someone wanted to put some effort into it.” Some sexy low lights, instead of the only source of light being the porno movie or the fire exit sign. A towel dispenser and sanitizer dispenser. Some clean s…
Fakes, Flakes and Time wasters
in Swinger Advice ·
We’d never meet DD, we won’t jump through that many hoops for someone.
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
Didn’t feel dangerous, just gross.
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
So we have heard from others about the ABS scene near us and we finally broke down to go check it out. We should have simply trusted our instincts. It was a large dark room that cost 20 dollars to get into. No sheets towels or sanitizer in…
belly up to the virtual bar
in Open Forum ·
Was told today that a family member has previously undiagnosed lung cancer, that has metastasized to the brain. Now there is swelling in the brain. So with that news, allow me to raise my glass to say “Fuck cancer!”
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
E And B, We love packo dogs, get it with everything, it includes mustard, onion and sauce, skip the cheese. Pass on the bowl of chili, but the chicken soup with dumplings is delicious.
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
Calcan, glad you had a good time, but wow that’s a long trip for a game.
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
“JC, Not hostile at all, so you do have clubs near you?” Nope, we’re in Toledo Ohio. The closest clubs would probably be the Detroit area, but they were slow to reopen, we used to go to ft Wayne until Champagne got closed, we’ve heard they…
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
Someonescoming- “ Sure JC, when was the last time you were at a club, or SLS for that matter, and received an "affiliate" card, never mind, you will just come out with some nonsense”. Not sure why you are feeling hostile. But to answer thi…
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
“ e have learned that the internet swing sites are a small part of the community, many, I might even say most lifestylers will not maintain a swing site account, for many potentially compromising reasons”. This again has to be either anecd…
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
“ Most people are on SLS to catch up with previous acquaintances and get activity updates on clubs”. This is about the opposite of our experience. There really aren’t any local lifestyle clubs and the best way to meet people we’ve found is…
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
“ How about not what they say in their profile, but the profile itself. Finding so many profiles on the forums claiming so much experience and imparting their knowledge yet they have zero photos and no certs. Seems super suspicious to us.”…
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
“We aren’t bed hoppers; we prefer everyone in one large bed, it helps to keep from going bed to bed.”. If you have multiple beds, do you pretend the floor is lava?
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
Thanks for all the opinions on bed hoppers, it sounds like many feel similarly to us. It’s nice to have found a group of like minded people (nod to mayhem). Perhaps the reason the phrase bugged us, is that we see people more active than ou…
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
What bothers us is the vague term with no real definition. We’re probably guilty of some of that in our own profile. It’s probably time to read through it again and make sure it’s clear.
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
A phrase we’ve seen a lot and recently started to ponder is “Bed Hopper”. What does this mean to you? We’ve been in the lifestyle now for a couple decades and we’ve been in numerous beds in that time, does that make us bed hoppers? How man…
Covid Light - Hold the insults
in Open Forum ·
“ They have never been higher” but to date only about one percent of the vaccinated population has experienced a breakthrough case.
Covid Light - Hold the insults
in Open Forum ·
“ You’re braver than me” J here, I doubt it, they usually ask which arm but when I asked one which was better, it was suggested non-dominant. The reasoning was, if there was pain or other local side effects, it would have less impact on da…
Covid Light - Hold the insults
in Open Forum ·
“ Both shots in the same arm?” Yes, typically get shots in the non dominant side.
Covid Light - Hold the insults
in Open Forum ·
When J got the booster, his arm was sore the next day from shoulder to the wrist. Much worse than the previous two. All three were Pfizer. A complicating factor though is that he got a flu shot at the same time. So there were multiple thin…
Singles or couples wanting to meet without seeing face pictures
in Swinging Single ·
“ If you aren’t willing to provide a facial picture, then what else are you hiding or not forthcoming with?” We couldn’t even begin to guess the answer to that without an in person meeting. Meeting is way more important to us than pictures…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“ I think it's normal for people to cut a bit more slack to people they may be interested in” Of course, and that is where filling out the profile well can come into play. If we get the thin boring message but see a detailed interesting pr…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“ We haven't really encountered guys who get huffy after "no thanks" responses. ” We have. While many will either say, ok, or no problem. Some actually seem like they think they are owed some sort of justification.
Photos
in Other ·
Depends what you mean by explicit. Most photographers will do boudoir photos. If you mean action photos or intimate close ups, that may be another thing. I’d suggest google searching boudoir photography and see who comes up. Call and have…
Would you use an NSA only hookup site?
in Open Forum ·
Tinder does have a profile, but many users don’t fill it out. Oddly enough despite its reputation as a hookup site, it seemed a lot of people are there seeking a ltr.
Would you use an NSA only hookup site?
in Open Forum ·
We tried Tinder, for about an hour. Swiped left on almost every profile. Got over 100 “likes” in minutes but they were all people we did not want. We didn’t pay for the upgraded services so couldn’t tell you anything about that. After all…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
DBcooperMN, C says that a man in a good suit or a tux will always have a chance to prove his worth. Every girl is crazy about a sharp dressed man as the song goes and she feels the wait will always be worth it.
Who likes to Kiss?
in 3-Some ·
Like we’ve said before, it’s foreplay, it fans the flames and gets things going. It gets her revved up, it gets him “up”. And it gets us both turned on seeing the other get passionate.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“I actually want more than someone who can just do the job, because I have sex toys for that.” First thought of this here was, C has a Sybian that can leave her a shaking quivering wet mess for a while in need of nothing but cuddles and hu…
Is the lifestyle aging out?
in Open Forum ·
Fokkers, I don’t know, we’re in the same age group as you guys and we’ve been having as much activity as we ever have lately. You two would look good at the clubs we attend. Maybe Geography is your enemy, not so much the years.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“As to why most single guys try the LS, I rather suspect that most of us started with the idea that it was easy sex. I'm only slightly ashamed to say that I thought that way at first.” There is nothing to be ashamed of saying I used to thi…
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
“We have never done glory holes, and the wife has no interest in them” for us glory holes is probably something that will be left to the world of fantasy, and we’re fine with that. Too many ick factors involved.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“ Further, I suggested mosy single guys should probably abandon the site.” As a couple that plays with single men, we hope they don’t.
Search Options
in Website ·
It might be nice to have the ability to search by keywords in a profile.
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
Holly, we were not being sarcastic at all.
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
SC, just hard to wrap our heads around an abs like that. We’ve definitely been to other parties, house, hotel and club with various levels of complexity, some can be pretty phenomenal.
Pic Advice For Single Males
“ We see it in couples pics too. Why do guys think they shouldn't smile?” We see it too, best guess is they are trying to look tough or cool. It ends up looking more disinterested to us. An easy grin or smile is much more appealing and loo…
Pic Advice For Single Males
“ What is a guy supposed to do about a receding hairline in pictures? Something like 25% of men have male pattern baldness and start losing it before 21, and another 66% have some form of hairloss by 35.” Fortunately this is not a serious…
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
Fenced decks, overhead foam machines, disco balls, food? That is a club, we’ve been to parties at clubs where the things you mention constitute the main party. Are they calling it an ABS to get around local legal restrictions against “sex…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
Again Jodie, you are very wrong. We understand that nothing anyone says will change your mind because you are convinced that you know everything. But you don’t know us, You don’t know what we want and you never will because you frankly don…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“ If it was a female packed party, you probably would have stayed a lot longer” You are welcome to think how you like, but you are quite wrong.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
We went to a Purrfect party in Vegas, we will never make that mistake again. It was a sausage fest with music so loud that there was no opportunity for conversation. We stayed a short while watching people stand around looking at each othe…
Is the lifestyle aging out?
in Open Forum ·
No, the lifestyle is not “aging out”, it is changing and evolving, but if anything it is becoming even more prevalent.
People who love huge clits
in Fantasies ·
Big, little, just happy to be invited to see what can be done with them.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
JD, it is simply that you appear to represent everything that is wrong with single men in the lifestyle. You are what make it hard for the polite legitimate single guys out there and hard for the couples or single women looking for them. Y…
Can a quiet reserved SM succeed here??
“ Also can a SM have too many CERTS ?? -- No.” that is one person’s opinion, we would say, limit it to one, maybe two at the most. After that it’s gratuitous and will do more harm than good.
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
We’ve been to a foam party, never again. Couldn’t have burned the eyes more if we’d poured acid in them.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“ Go to your next swingers party and look at at all the couples and see for yourself if the men dress on par as the women.” That is where we do most of our activities, so yeah, I think we know how it works. Get a grip and own what you are…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
FYI, Jodie, Neither one of us will “take one for the team”. Nothing turns him off more than the idea of her “taking one for the team” and she feels the same way.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“ Look at how the average husband dresses in comparison to his wife at your next swingers party” You’re such an asshole it isn’t even funny. We both put our effort in, she wears her dress or costume, he wears a suit or appropriate costume…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
“ If women are the “prize” on the lifestyle,” That opinion will not get you anywhere with us, and not with a lot of couples. This isn’t a game show and there are no prizes. “ Bc if a man approaches a woman at a party with her tits out he m…
So, whatcha drinking
in Open Forum ·
Elijah Craig - bp
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
And another, today a message with no message. Just a picture, of a guy in a white undershirt and boxers. In the bathroom with the toilet seat up, the counter visible with all of his crap on it, messy shelves on the wall, and his limp dick…
Halloween
in Open Forum ·
Anyone looking forward to Halloween parties? How early to you decide what kind of costume to do and how much effort do you put into it? What are you going as this year?
Covid Light - Hold the insults
in Open Forum ·
“Ooh! Ooh! JC can still see RK” not anymore, We’ll get over it.
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
A party at a bookstore with food? Pardon my skepticism, but that sounds less like a bookstore and more like a club.
Covid Light - Hold the insults
in Open Forum ·
Breaking our own rule, Ron, if a nurse or doctor refuses to get vaccinated, then we’re fine with them quitting or getting fired. There is something wrong with someone practicing medicine that doesn’t believe in medicine. We fully expect, t…
Adult Bookstores - Love, Like, Leave?
in Open Forum ·
We really despise ABS. Around here they are just dirty places that usually have some junkies hanging out nearby. The only people besides the workers hanging out in them are typically lonely desperate old men looking for hookers. There is a…
Advice
What constitutes dressed sharp or smart certainly will vary depending on where you are at. Here a cowboy hat might be ok, but will draw some looks, now if you wear the hat instead of it wearing you, that might not be a bad thing for what y…