Prevent / report single guys?

Being new... I thought having your profile state couples only would be part of the filtering of profile listing. I don't bother with couples with messages or friend requests. I figure if someone wanted a threesome or add to a party, they would drop a message or friend request. For a single male such as I, its a waiting game, not a spammer drop messages thing.

[quote=Cactus1979]We will commonly run across single guys pretending to be a couple. There are some in the feed right now. It would be nice to have a simple way to report them as fakes.

Additionally, it would be great to have an "Interested" / "not interested" button on profiles of people I am interested in or would prefer to never see again. Once "Not interested" is selected, they never show up in the feed again and I/we never show up in theirs again w/o having to go through and block them all...which I do.

Fakes and single guys who are "thirsty" are an issue in the LS, in general, as they aren't actually ENM...just NM...and end up being noise for the cool singles who are real and actually live an ethically non-monogamous lifestyle.[/quote]As a solo male now I would agree completely. It’s hard enough transitioning from a thrupple to a solo but to have guys out faking is a disaster. Please don’t think all solos are a problem :)

[quote=Single_again1960]Problem with some sort of "Fake" identifier is it can be misused. I'm a single guy and have seen my fair share of what I think are fake profiles, but what if I publically mark it as fake and I was wrong, or I meet a couple, we don't click they could mark me as fake?

The easiest for me is to block profiles that I think are fake or married guys looking for action away from his partner. I also use the "Notes" feature when I want to remember something about the profile.

I wish there was a colored icon or something that would let me know I have a note added to that specific profile. I also cull my blocked and friends list on a regular basis[/quote]IMO anything that puts a negative flag on a profile has potential for abuse and misuse. These need to be very carefully considered before being implemented.

Just look at how folks review bomb an entire business over an individual's word or actions if you need examples.

Problem with some sort of "Fake" identifier is it can be misused. I'm a single guy and have seen my fair share of what I think are fake profiles, but what if I publically mark it as fake and I was wrong, or I meet a couple, we don't click they could mark me as fake?

The easiest for me is to block profiles that I think are fake or married guys looking for action away from his partner. I also use the "Notes" feature when I want to remember something about the profile.

I wish there was a colored icon or something that would let me know I have a note added to that specific profile. I also cull my blocked and friends list on a regular basis

[quote=RonKathy]So for us its easy we BLOCK them.. all sorts , fakes, flakes, wanna bees who talk a big game but never show up, people we have no interest in, those who have lied to us... guys couples, really married when claim they are single when we meet.. and all sorts of people who bring drama too the forums!

Makes our journey on SLS that much more pleasurable,[/quote]You need to change your age from “99” to a real age. Just saying.

<p>We are working on options for this.</p>

@RonKathy ... there is certainly plenty of ick. For me/us, these non-ENM dudes are just noise in the feed. I'd like to not see them in my "viewed me" list after I've blocked/reported them. Once filtered, always filtered everywhere. It's sad that such actions are necessary.

@ImAWanderingSoul, you are absolutely right...but that requires going INTO the profile to do that. The suggestion was to make it easier take such actions directly from the feed rather than having to go into each icky profile.

you can use the report button on their profile and just put it in the notes

So for us its easy we BLOCK them.. all sorts , fakes, flakes, wanna bees who talk a big game but never show up, people we have no interest in, those who have lied to us... guys couples, really married when claim they are single when we meet.. and all sorts of people who bring drama too the forums!

Makes our journey on SLS that much more pleasurable,

We will commonly run across single guys pretending to be a couple. There are some in the feed right now. It would be nice to have a simple way to report them as fakes.

Additionally, it would be great to have an "Interested" / "not interested" button on profiles of people I am interested in or would prefer to never see again. Once "Not interested" is selected, they never show up in the feed again and I/we never show up in theirs again w/o having to go through and block them all...which I do.

Fakes and single guys who are "thirsty" are an issue in the LS, in general, as they aren't actually ENM...just NM...and end up being noise for the cool singles who are real and actually live an ethically non-monogamous lifestyle.