Actually looking like your pics

“ Do you stay and have dinner, or get up and leave?”

We probably stay because we are polite. Also, if we’re meeting for dinner we’ll probably be hungry. Do NOT get between me and a meal!

A friend of mine met a girl on a dating site.
When they met in person she wasn't even the same race as her photo .
She honestly could not figure out what he was upset about.
I have seen profiles on dating sites where the profile photo is her dog or 16 year old daughter .
I have no desire to meet a woman that uses her 16 year old daughter's photo, just in case she is using her daughter as bait .
On dating sites I get her phone number and text, then when she she says she is doing whatever I ask for a selfie and as long as the background matches what she said she was doing, I feel pretty sure I got a real, recent photo .

People are also way, WAAAAY more picky about appearances online vs IRL. It's why we've thrown our hands up with online approaches

Our first profile used to say that we weren’t Ken and Barbie nor were we Dan and Roseanne.

Along the same lines, why do people still use Ken and Barbi as references, ever???

Josie and the PussyCats

Or Erin Esurance.... Velma and Daphne...

Ok, we will make an exception for Jessica

We recently ran into a couple where we said right away "you guys need to update you pics. You are both way better looking in person"

Then there are the ones that put filters on all of the pics. It's like, hey we aren't into fucking cartoons.

We have run to the ones that actually looked better than their pics which was surprising in a good way, then we run into the ones that if they did not introduce their self, we would not know who they were. In fairness they had close on and just looked different dressed...

We do have older pics, but the default area has them sorted by year. In fact when checking out our 2022 folder, we were damn, this is the best we have looked in the last 5 years. Cutting carbs and sugars has made a huge difference

Speed of Light has nothing on how fast a SM can ruin his cred with anything not trembling a truth.

As a mature SM I take health, fitness, hygiene and nutrition on a more consistent or serious side. For SM like myself accurate pics and specs are crucial in order to maintain a Positive profile and regular Play-Dates within the SLS lifestyle. It appears Negative SM info travels among the SLS couples community rather quickly... just keeping it real.

8in - I’m talking about where the face is there but they applied those ridiculous filters that makes them look like something out of a Pixar movie with smooth skin.

My guess is the filter on the face is so they aren't completely recognized and their pics are not copied by someone they know or work with.

We agree and a huge pet peeve of ours. Next would be the filtered pics, why can’t people just post what they actually look like. Pretty sure once we meet, we will realize the truth and most likely things will not improve from their.

With us it has always been what you see in our pictures is what you will get. Not surprised.

We also have met couples that their pics are far different than their current appearance. I honestly don't understand how they think that someone will be ok with that. If you can't be honest about your appearance, how do you expect people to be trusting in anything else you may tell them? Each and every time there was a big difference, we politely bowed out.

For me the SLS profile pics don't mean much at all. I've also met people who've used 5-20 yr old pics !! They are Not even close to the 5'4" 130 lbs profile pics they post? Also I personally don't think I photo well tbh... some people the camera likes more than others. I would much rather invest in a short 30-40 minute local Safe place meet n greet to see if there is chemistry & attraction over a (Cat-Fished) picture swap.

I am a big fan of dates on pictures. Most of us are that way.

Every picture we post is no more than a couple weeks old. It never occurred to me to post anything that wasn't accurate to how we look IRL now (except I think we look better IRL than our pics, but a lot of people probably feel that way). Yeah, false advertising is not cool.

Male half never looks like his pictures, as he is not photogenic at all.

This is a good thing in that when we meet people IRL from offline, they are pleasantly surprised. It is a shitty thing because it makes getting people online wanting to meet more difficult.

We try and keep our pics current AND have some that show our faults to a degree. Posting nothing but the perfect pics is somewhat misleading in our books. Having old pics is BS in our book. On the sideways picture issue, I turn the pics til the dang service shows them correctly LOL. So sometimes uploading a sideways pic ends up right ! Sometimes not. So it is tougher than it needs to be!

I keep our stats current or close, pics are usually pretty current. I took all of ours down a few months ago after my surgery and I replaced them with the public one. There is also one in a personal folder so potentials can see how bad my scarring is. But, I doubt we will be meeting anyone anytime soon so I'm not too worried right now.

Y'know, there's a part of me that says "Yeah, I could pass for 43 years old and 165 lbs, I just need to get the couple to squint while I break out the smoke and mirrors.", but that would be total self-delusion. So I tell the truth about my age and weight, not because I'm some paragon of virtue and honesty, but because lying about it is a hell of a lot of WORK. At my most elemental level, I'm lazy, and keeping the lies straight is devilishly difficult. So I just lay it out and if folks are attracted, cool. If not, no worries, and no hard feelings.

Funny thing, that sometimes works against me. Like right now, I'm fluctuating from 183-186 lbs but I'm simply too lazy to get in and change my profile to a somewhat more accurate 185. So I'm still listed as 190, even though I haven't hit 190 in over 8 months. And most of my photos are of me at least 10-15 lbs heavier. Meh, I'll procrastinate updating my photos next week. shrugs

Wow. That's a big difference! Hubby varies from about 275-315 (keep in mind he's 6'4"), depending on the time of year and what we've been focusing on in our lives. But I feel like he's pretty close to the same visually. Maybe it's because I see him every day. I don't vary much, staying within about 15 pounds of what is says in our profile, which I update pretty close to our birthdays and if one of us changes our weight much. I don't want to have to be in the receiving end of the "you don't look like your pics" conversation.

But almost DOUBLE the weight? Yes, that's a big deal. Kind of feels like a lie. Oh, that's because 200 is NOT 120!

I also believe the lifestyle requires a degree on honesty that is ABOVE vanilla interactions. Certainly within a couple, but that extends to those outside our relationship too. It's really a time-saver!