[quote=DanAnLoli]Hello, I'm writing to get some advise. Loli and I have been together for going on 7 years, it's been great! My first marriage was sexually absent. After my divorce I determined I wouldn't do it again. As our relationship grew we got much more open and adventurous and started exploring swinging based on sharing our fantasies and our foreplay would always include dirty talk of adding others. She would often talk about adding additional men and/or how many she could handle, very hot!!. We had a couple MFM,MFMF and plans for others that had didn't workout. It was exciting and I liked the way we were heading. We got engaged back in November and since then I feel we are going backwards. She is Catholic and preparing for wedding has become more religious, and wants me to be also but not my thing, not a believer. She is not interested in pursuing swinging at least for now, which is ok, we only had a few experiences. We had exciting time between us anyway but we have become boring and vanilla. I love her but I do crave some excitement. Don't wanna end up in one of those sexless marriages or only on Tuesdays in the bed with lights off. I don't want to lose us either. I'm hoping its just a phase that will pass[/quote]You have to talk to her. Not us.
Ask her what changed. Ask her if she will ever play with others again. Tell her you are afraid you are going to be in sexless marriage again.
She may have decided swinging is not for her and that is that.
