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We are on many sites all around the world, and here are the things that ALL OF THEM DO and SLS does not. - email notifications. Every site in the world gives you options of being notified by email when you get a message, a like, a friend r…
We are on many sites all around the world, and here are the things that ALL OF THEM DO and SLS does not. - email notifications. Every site in the world gives you options of being notified by email when you get a message, a like, a friend r…
we are members of about a dozen swinger sites all around the world. Every single one of them has message notifications. Yes, international not subject to US rules. Still, surely there is some consent or waiver that one might click to compl…
Who's been? We have been to Hedo, generally prefer Desire, but might consider for that week. How was the crowd?
hi guys. SLS will not be very helpful to you there. there are other sites that are much more useful, one is a big international site, one is an Italian one. I don't believe we are allowed to post them here, so PM me for the names.
Fun couple - - we didn't know it was a thing! But you can imagine our reaction ??
Wife is amazing at it... She can find spots that make me come from fingering alone. And once or twice... the weirdest thing... I could have sworn that I (the male) squirted... She was fingering me while narrating a fantasy, my cock twitche…
Our first full swap was at Pearl where a bi/bi couple took us all the way in all the ways. That was our first night of our first time to a clothing optional resort, and a hell of an introduction to swinging. Rookie mistake - I was pretty d…
We are very discreet about LS and mostly play on our travels abroad. We have a vanilla friend in LA who recently separated from from her husband. She was visiting NY and we arranged to meet her for dinner. She was being a little weird abou…
Is there a reason there is no option to have an email notification of a message? I realize some people may not want it for privacy, but others would love to know they are being contacted.. After all, isnt what we are here for? Why not give…
@ghecco - are there any NICE hotels/resorts outside of Cap d'Agde? Looking at most places, lots of camping/motel/3* star hotel kind of lodgings. Anything higher end?
there is often availability not listed on the site. call or whatsapp, esp on short notice. All of our trips are 3 nighters within a couple of weeks time. Usually can get a room.
We are big resort fans, and get out to one of them every 3 months or so. There are 3 clothing optional resorts in Mexico/Caribbean. Desire Pearl - about 40 min from Cancun, nicest facility, large pool and hot tub, spacious rooms and decent…
I believe the Bi week is canceled, as it's absent from the Hedo site and no longer on the biweek site either. We changed our trip to Desire with Swingset group in November. It's not specifically bi but I believe they are open to that aspec…
Going to Provence and Cap d'Agde this week, wanted to find new friends nearby. When we change our location to France, the nearest coupe is in .... Maine. Umm... OK. I know the other site is more active internationally... but no one in Euro…
for those of us unable to quarantine at home, a week quarantine for a weekend away makes for a very costly trip. Even if the risk of a false positive is low. If we worked from home, we'd be there tomorrow.
We can go, but coming back is a problem. At this time, CDC and NYS don't give any special treatment to vaccinated or otherwise immune travelers. We still need to have a negative test and quarantine upon return. The quarantine on return is…
"www DOTyahooDOTcom/news/nudist-mexican-paradise-zipolite-great-100754287.html" Saw that earlier. Never heard of Zipolite before, has anyone been?
Actually, if you can go back and forth between resorts if you like. I don't know if it's easy to transfer at night, but I know people moved around during the day. If you're going for a while you can probably do both. Probably the best idea…
we only have been once in each, but in late 40s we found ourselves much younger than most in Pearl. Actually in Hedo as well (MLK weekend). RM we fit right in, most people seemed to be in 40-60 range (Labor Day weekend). One time is not in…
Many years ago, when my wife and I were dating while living with our parents, we used to go to Loop Inn in Avenel NJ to have fun with each other. It's a motel but rooms are massive, beds are huge, and jacuzzies will fit a small group. To m…
First time going to Fantasy Fest. Any recommendations on hotels? I'm guessing no nudity allowed in any of them, especially chain ones? What about bringing friends back to the room?
What hotels do you recommend for first time visitors?
We went to Pearl in April 2019, RM Sep 2019, and Hedo Jan 2020. Pearl was our first c/o resort. The nicest of the 3, although still very far from luxurious. It is very quiet during the day. We are not big dance club people and prefer to ha…
We are hoping to get vaccinated in the next few weeks, and second shot some time in late Jan/early Feb. Planning to go to Hedo or Desire the weekend after :)
When we get requests to open our pics, we open one private gallery. App users constantly tell us the pics aren't open. We have another account that we use sparingly. When we open a gallery to our other account, we can't see opened pics on…
All of our travel plans have been put on hold, so looking for have fun closer to home. Are there any upscale clothing-optional / naturist/ nudist resorts in the Northeast (NY, MA, CT, VT, NH, ME)? All the resorts I've seen are more like ca…
Last week I started receiving msg notifications from app for the first time. I didn't know it had that functionality, and when the app was first released was told my tech support it didn't . The notifications appeared sporadic, happened fo…
The wall is taking up so much space with useless posts, we started blocking people Really through no fault of their own, they'll probably be wondering why they are being blocked by people they never contacted. So far though, we haven't see…
Coming back for some advice... I think our profile should be shorter. it's too long, and maybe too meandering. Asking for editing help - what looks extraneous to you? Which parts did you like, and which parts would you cut? Thanks!
Sorry, I didn't mean to question the validity or usefulness of the certs. That's not really what I was wondering. I was wondering what exactly the long term members were doing. We are very new to the site, so I use it to find people. Once…
I am really puzzled by this. When I look at who's on, at least 25% are long-term members (5-10 yrs or more), few if any pics, and no certs or one from 2010. A polite intro message receives no response. Yet I always see them on the site. So…
Well, we watched a bit of OMG Yes videos, mostly about masturbation and some couples techniques. They are very nicely done, in 2-3 min chunks, and the girls demonstrate what they like. (one thing I will say that most of these women would s…
OP - Not sure exactly what you were looking for regarding classes but there is a wealth of info here in the forum. We are new to the lifestyle, and only now are beginning to experience other people. Before that we really didn't have the op…
I'm pretty well practiced, but in my experience most women aren't very clear in giving post-game play-by-play reviews, unless you can go to videotape. And they are even less enthusiastic to provide real-time step-by-step instructions :) Fu…
While I had no complaints, I'm always looking to improve my sex game. Recently I bought a subscription to OMGYes, and while not earth shattering, certainly picked a few tips. Does anyone have any recommendations for videos/podcasts/worksho…
thank you Wayne. is there a way to apply a similar filter to Who's On?
New to the site, trying to understand how it works. I see we can mark our interest by selecting the number of stars... does that do anything at all? It doesn't seem to affect WHo's On display in any way,which is where we've been finding mo…
To clarify, the dinner is $580/ couple. Not sure if that's including tax and tip, but if so, that's pretty close to what a meal in a fine restaurant would be BEFORE wine. Since most restaurants like that start their wine lists at $100, if…
Harnmel, I agree with most things Velma said. Your profile text is very warm and caring, and very inviting. I think it will attrac the very people you're looking to attract - kind, genuine, fun folks who may be uncomfortable reaching out t…
"We've taken to adding the amount of time they've been on the site to their stated ages to come up with their real age" We're doing the same. Which is a problem if the join date is 10 years ago, there are no pics, and no certs. We have no…
@GGM - we recently saw several full bushes at Desire. Probably well groomed, I don't know maintenance specifics, but certainly covering the entire pubic area. I have to say, even though we are very much in favor of Brazilians, that looked…
I just wanted to say that your profile has gone through the most amazing transformation. My first impression of your original profile was "ugh, these guys are such douchebags". I know it wasn't your intent, but that's how it came across to…
We've been to Desire Pearl and RM, and really enjoyed it... RM much more than Pearl. Planning a trip to Hedo but more difficult logistically, especially as I believe they require 3N min. How are Caliente or Paradise compared to the Caribbe…
@mayhem - yes, I do enjoy writing. Definitely like a good turn of the phrase, and have been known to read entire books with no discernible plot because they were written so well (pretty much describes Salman Rushdie's entire body of work).…
should be *good wine... not hood wine... although it depends... Is "terroir" French for "hood"? :)
thank you. that part looked oK to me too but I added a blank line anyway in case it renders differently on different screens
@GGM- on my screen it looks well formatted... see below.. does it look different on yours? We love our play at lifestyle resorts. One night, you may find us in the jacuzzi bed, with our playmates de nuit - kissing, sucking, licking, finger…
We recently went out with a couple who had attended the dinner. They said the dinner was nice, good food hood wine... Couples were seated across the long table so that they spoke mostly to people seated next to them. As for the other guest…
Thank you all for your suggestions. Out of curiosity, we decided to change the focus of our profile. From "we are a fun couple, meet us and maybe we can click" to ... something else. Might be an interesting experiment. For those who care,…
Any suggestions for interesting documentaries on swinging, BDSM, sexuality in general? Watched James Franco's Kink, thought it was pretty boring. Any others, preferably with links?
I didnt read your original profile, but I love it now. I would absolutely contact you if you were in my area. It's inviting, friendly, and very positive. It won't scare this lifestyle newbie, and hopefully will attract veterans as well. I…
Nope, not that. Although it might have caused initially, but the cert is approved and visible, as far as I can tell.
Does anyone else get that? Last 2 days, the Archived Mail counter is at 1, bird is flapping wings, but no mail. The flapping bird is pretty annoying if there is nothing there. Support says no way to fix that,might go away in a few days. Do…
Made some changes to the text. Still not sure if the new pics combine well with old ones. Perhaps you could suggest which pics to keep and which to toss.
Wow, I was expecting at least some criticism... thank you all for your kind words. And thank you for your very helpful suggestions as well. I've made the recommended changes to the flow of the text, but they are taking a while to populate.…
Please take a look and let us know your thoughts. Thanks!
We just watched SNCTM on Netflix, so we are envisioning something like that...The reality is likely to be disappointing, but we are ever the optimists...
I agree. Most of our encounters have been at Desire resorts, but we never saw anything like that. We are decidedly NOT all-inclusive resorts people, mostly because they are so goddamn boring. But people at LS resorts are the friendliest, m…
I generally refrain from commenting on profiles of others, because we are new to LS and don't have a lot of experience, but this line struck me as funny. "Any "alpha-type" behavior will not bode well". The entire profile suggests that if t…
@mayhem - loved the part about bowling :)
We like people who we have a lot in common with. I guess if some people think our profile is too wordy or too long, they wouldn't be the ones we'd click with anyway. So we'll leave it long for now... Thank you all for your suggestions.
thanks for your replies everyone. Including hobbies is probably a good idea - we'll add a few lines about that (hopefully drinking counts as a hobby around here). Thank you, Catchy - we aren't in TN often but now have a reason to go!
The selection criteria are obviously Limited to whoever is willing to pay $580 for a meal. Once you pass that hurdle, I doubt they look at anything else. Overpriced? Of course. But no more overpriced then desire let's say. It's a three- st…
good to know, thanks! Looks like it's 3 nights minimum though. I'd rather fly out first thing on Fri and get back on the last flight on Sunday.... 3 nights are much more difficult for us...
After a recent trip to Desire, wife has developed an interest in spanking, both giving and receiving. The spanking she enjoys can be hard but sensual and erotic, and definitely not degrading. So, to oblige her interests, I've looked for vi…
We are new here, and since we met in pre-internet age, new to online dating as well. It seems different people choose to represent themselves differently. Some profiles are very long, and others are quite laconic. Out of curiosity, do long…
Well, I applied. Don't know how "elitist" they are, but if they accept us, must not be too much so :)
I applied for an invite. Might be worth checking out.
Saw an ad for Just for Dinner Wondering if anyone has attended their events, and how they are. thanks!
We recently started traveling to c/o resorts and love it. Saw an ad for a Naughty Beach - not sure what it is... is it more geared towards nudist crowd, LS, a bit of both? For those who've attended - is there a lot of play there or is it m…
We went to Pearl this April and liked it. We went to RM this Labor Day and loved it. Now thinking about Hedo. Getting some conflicting reports on it - some say it's awesome, others say not so much. We are not really daytime pool party peop…
Admittedly, I am not up on social media lingo. I don't snapchat, instagram, or have a facebook page. So maybe I'm just being a fuddy duddy, but what's with all the LOLs in profiles? Do these people actually consider themselves so funny tha…
We are finding so many profiles that are obviously outdated... For instance, one talked about going to Hedo3 (which closed 10 years ago) and Desire Cancun in 2008. That might be a bit extreme, but we did chat with a couple whose were 8 yea…
A few weeks ago, at Desire RM, after having a "late" 8.30 dinner, we went up to the jacuzzi and found it was empty at 10PM. The wife fell asleep and told me to wake her up "when everyone is fucking".... when the real party started at midni…
@bridge tender- plausible, but probably not very common, I would think. @mayhem - kind of like TripAdvisor reviews, I guess :)
We are new to the site and trying to understand the lay of the land... We are primarily interested in couples but may entertain a single male on occasion to ... ahem... test our more far out fantasies... Many SMs seem to have been on the s…
