Certs and how important??

This subject is always a tricky one. Not quite a double standard, but I don't ask for certs because I feel it is up to the individual. But as a single male, often certs are wanted or needed to even be considered, so it is interesting to see the back and forth. I do not have any current certs, but I have had amazing fun with couples and singles that I have met. I've sent them certs, but they choose not to post, which is fine and their call...
Just meeting cool & fun people is the goal, if certs are posted, great, if not, that is cool as well.

Have fun and play safe!

I'll just use an analogy. Businesses still use references; they know a reference is likely to be flattering. The whole point of asking for them is to see if they can be produced to begin with.

Being able to deny certs is neither here nor there for us; it's just a little piece of information that suggests someone is legit. Certs aren't the only piece of information we take into consideration either, and is not a substitute for intuition and chatting, much like a reference doesn't supplant an interview or skills tests.

RK, huh, I guess even positive certs can give the wrong idea unless they are detailed about the play involved (could still be untrue, I suppose). And we wouldn't want any detailed certs on our page. Even among many the couples we know at the resorts we have frequented, we wouldn't tell anyone who we've been with and ask people to be discreet about having been with us. Part of the reason is that they all know each other and we only choose to spend time with certain couples. We like the other couples as friends and wouldn't want them to feel bad that they weren't a couple we chose to spend alone time with. The other part of the reason is it's none of their damn business.

Not at all "that they play".. we know several couples in the Georgia area who meet for lunch, dinner and never PLAY but TRADE Certs !

I say lets do a Yelp type of review 1-5.. If you want to see if we play and are real then when we decide to meet we will open our XXX Photos.. Now we do see singles needing some sort of Certs.. but an over amount of 20-30 Yeah okay ! We dont need to brag about who or what we do or are we bed notch collectors.. and YES swinging well over 20 years with our select sensual fun FWB!

Can't the user choose not to allow an unflattering cert on their page? If so, seems like all you're going to find are flattering certs, defeating part of the point. At least you might be able to assume certs show that they actually play. I can see that point.

The point of certifications is to a) get third party verification others actually meet up and bang b) another person's perspective about someone c) get an idea for the types of people others get with d) a host of things I'm not thinking of.

What is the point of a certification? Conversely, adding humor, who approves a negative post? Seriously, if a couple is discrete and respectful enough to maintain everyone’s privacy , wouldn’t the profile narrative provide all the information you must know about a couple? The rest when you meet and get a feel for the in person exchange. We belong to another site as well, and we have received certifications there. Humorous as we have become real good friends with those individuals. Something that would have happened without the certification. Somewhat humorous.

In the past we have posted our certifications but had a couple who didn’t want to connect because one of our certs we had listed they didn’t approve of (that’s fine, you’re not the one we want to meet with either). So we no longer post certifications. When we look for new playmates the number or lack of makes no difference to us. If WE have a connection then why does it matter who they’ve been with?

@wild, I'm with you. I agree in that the more information the better, and Certs do offer more info.

"Cert whore". I resemble that remark. Lol. We all have to remember, this is for fun, and too many take this LS far too seriously. :-)

I like to check a persons certs and more importantly the profile of the person who sent the cert. I am a BBW and not everyone's cup of tea and that's ok. Some profiles do not indicate if they are BBW friendly or interracial friendly, so by checking the profiles of the cert giver it "may" give me a better idea to if they are BBW or interracial friendly.

Onehourcouple aside from the mentioned it's nobody else's business aspect there is one thing you may be missing about the cert process. The one receiving the cert has to accept it. That means anything they don't like about one does not get accepted or posted so a cert is already biased information. Then you get to the fact some people are cert fanatics for lack of a better term (I almost said whores but that is not the best description). Some people give a cert to everyone they meet or have heard their name while at a party. We even had someone try and cert us that we actually could not remember talking to and later found out they had done the same to others using the attendee list and never were at the party. One can only assume they did so in the hopes people would not notice and cert them back. The simple fact at least one couple was doing it likely means others are and it works. Just because someone has a cert or a few does not mean they are any more real than someone who has none. In fact for us the folks who do not accept or send certs are saying a lot about themselves especially how they just might be old school enough to keep what happens in the bedroom and who they did it with in the bedroom. Not everyone in the lifestyle is as discrete as many have found out.

Have you ever seen a bad Cert,? Nope....most of them are the greatest fiction written..lol

Every time I visit this thread, Barney memes ring through my head.

We cert you, you cert we, then we’ll both be happy as can be.

With a great big cert and a public confession from us to you, won’t you confess you fucked us too!

:-D

~Allen

Onehourcouple .... I support people who take certs seriously. Everyone have right to believe in what is better or not .... I miss couple of time chance to meet some people because that but i feel more ok if no one know who was with me.... in any case guys wish you fun here and stay safe (bdw cute sexy couple)

I can understand Bobby's concerns so there should be anonymous or hidden names for certs then.

Hey my friend how you are....hope u have fun here.... wish you to be safe happy and have a lot of sex ... :) (I insist to be without certs) like that keep my discussion and people who meet me.... don't mean anything important to me my friend.....

Bobby, you got that International Man of Mystery, Russian/Ukrainian accent to fall back on. Us mere mortals pale in comparison. That’s why you can get away without a single cert ;-)

Always good to see you post, my friend!

BT

I m single guy and here for long time... don't have single one certs..... why? Because don't want. Like that keep my and people who know me discreet... maybe someone think about that... for me certs mean nothing than to see who f... who... with all love and respect.

Through we hadn't been on the site long profiles that have been here for years without certs comes across as a red flag, especially single males.

Good one EdandBritney!! :-)

If the profile doesn't give me the information that I need to make a decision then a cert is important.

A basic profile and a torso picture doesn't get my attention!

Certs arent that important to us as usually tic-tacs do the job just as well.

"I think some people on this site dont like giving or receiving certs with people they played with because they feel like its "kissing and telling ""

You are correct. We are a couple that have only a very vague cert left after deleting more than a half dozen last year, however, we have never retracted a cert given as we feel we would be punishing our lifestyle friends for our privacy decisions, so if someone finds them considering the amount of people out there, they probably won't find but one or a couple, not the whole shebang of them.

~Allen

I think some people on this site dont like giving or receiving certs with people they played with because they feel like its "kissing and telling "

I think a few relevant certs (nothing too old) are a good way to show a person is real and will show up. Especially since so many single guys give us a bad rep, by being no shows. I prefer to limit mine to protect everyones privacy, including my own. People who collect them I usually stay away from since I prefer ongoing friendships. So it's a good gauge for that. That is just me though...quality fun with repeat quality friends/encounters over quantity with another notch on the bedpost has always been my mindset.