Certs and how important??

Thank you all for the opinions!
Also the advise to get rid of the shirtless pic?
Appreciate the thought.

Good analogy.

I see them as sort of the SLS version of a "like" or "love", up cummies basically. And I must have all the up cummues

I can definitely understand why people would want certs. Especially since there are many more men than women or couples. So the latter two have the luxury of greater choice. It is only natural that they will try to pick the best prospect, someone who's been verified by others.

On the other hand, I can also understand people's (mostly single men's) frustrations. It's like job applications, right? We need someone with X years of experience. But how do I get X years of experience if I need X years of experience to start my experience? Haha (I'm just putting on a brave face).

In the end it is a number's game. I would not suggest you wait passively to be contacted. But I would also caution against just contacting everyone all at once. It's a learning experience. The rejection from the first, second, third contact can inform you how best to portray yourself and give you areas of improvement.

Had lady that would only chat if I had certs and recent ones at that.

I dont roll over and ask for certs from those I have met nor do I really go out of my way to write certs.

Ohh I get the reason for it.. Tis like a Resume of you as a person and you sexually..

So for those asking for them, I respectful just Keep it moving..... to each is own

There's no need to ridicule or put down a solo male who's just trying to figure things out. I'm 66 a bi swinger since the mid 80's. I know why younger couples are not interested in me or very selective in their choice of solo bi males

There's no need to ridicule or put down a solo male who's just trying to figure things out. I'm 66 a bi swinger since the mid 80's. I know why younger couples are not interested in me or very selective in their choice of solo bi males

Can anyone decipher what he said? Never mind, not worth it

Uhhhhhh......lol

@ AndreaRobin Whats Your problem ? Why so hostile? You attack me Because .?? You are A major smart ass .With your Sarcastic behavior.
You have no sense of humor .Are you a College Douche Bag ?? All this Because of a Missed spelled Word Go Eat a Turd Jusr Eat your Own Shit Bud I know You Have Met you in a few Clubs .

Certs are only important to us when we are meeting a single guy for the first time.

LOL

dick4u2,

Even if you wrote a cert for someone, nobody would be able to read it.

For me to open pics, certs are a deciding factor. I won't open our pics to anyone without certs or people who have been on the site less than a year. Unless.. unless we became friends at a party and we now know you.

We like to meet people at events and not two on two.

Ron you are right as rain! I don,t Kiss and Tell.! l But I will Kiss a Tale If I like It. Wink Also don,t Do Certs Its None Of ant,y one Baseness Who I play With.

The reason I look at certs is to get an idea of what the person/couple are interested in especially if they do not indicate that information on there profile. Are they interracial friendly, BBW friendly, do they connect with others that are older/younger then themselves....etc etc

When I first started as a rookie in the lifestyle on here, I use to tell people who I connect with would they give me certs. Some people rather not and you cant help that specially coming from a SM like myself. Since I been on here for a few years from now, I don't demand it from people that I met because it becomes very desperate.

Back in 2016 it was a random couple who I never met before asking me to give them a cert, and I never met or seen them in my life. They had like 50 worth of certs and it was coming from blank profiles with no pics, and in different locations.

Certs. I say B.S.#$ I have been conversing with folks and found it to be about 50/50 for or against. .seems the older crowd swears by them. And the younger of the crowd could care less. I did this because I was wondering after over 4 years not one. ThinkI got it we are to busy having a great time to deal with it. We have a great circle of wonderful people we see year after year and add to it every year. So guess there are cert sluts. And some people having fun..

W e also look for certs for a single guy, if they have no certs we usually pass them by.

We always use certs when seeking out another male. When we are looking it's for a specific play and the certs help to determine who might be suitable for what we are interested in.

Certs are a big part of our decision making on SM’s but not as big a part when looking at couples. All in all, the more info on any potential playmate the better we feel about initiating a meetup.

I certainly understand where you're coming from AndrewRobin, and for myself I generally offer certs when I get together with someone. It is pretty common though for people to say that they prefer not to advertise who they've been with. For single men like myself having some certs is valuable for the validation that I'm not an axe murderer, but you can't take it as a measure of just how often someone is active.

We only accept certs from, or give them to, people we have played with. We don't accept the party certs, or what I call the "pity" certs, the ones people exchange when they met at a bar but it didn't go anywhere.

We are cert snobs. If you've been on here for more than 2 years, and haven't collected even one cert, there's probably a reason, and not a good one.

If you say you don't accept them because you don't kiss and tell or some shit like that, we don't believe you.

Certs are very useful in deciding which couples we will initiate contact with. We look at the certs to see what kind of people they have already played with. If we fit into that group, then we will message. If we don't then we won't waste our time.

Certs are intended only to prove someone is real- i.e. not a fake profile.

Some people see/use them as notches on the bedpost or indicate playtime activity with a particular person/couple. Whatever floats your barge.

Certs are also a good way to 'network' with other like minded people. We have had success in posting Certs, then be looked at and conversations started from posting a good Cert. They do work.

And, they help in looking at how active a person/couple are.