Picture Rules
Has SLS considered a rule that bans the display of money. Perhaps it is just me, it seems someone fanning money is sending an implicit message of soliciting prostitution.
EastSideandBi
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Relationship status
Wayne, I am reading it as the “attached/single” as an identification that the person is in a relationship but playing single. The problem I see is that the large majority of singles on here are male. How many of them would actually be hone…
Cpl to cpl
Because this lifestyle, at least within the SLS community, is female focused. That can be seen with pics as well as with how accepting the community is of bi -females and phobic it is of bi-males. And someone eluded to it earlier, the fema…
Site Recommendations
Wayne is not wrong. Just because a suggestion is popular, does not mean it is right. However, the SLS could be more transparent why it was wrong.
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“I can see the bi play posts by people listed as straight going both ways.” I see what you did there lol.
Clubs in Kingston and Ottawa Ontario
We have a free night coming up and are considering heading to Canada. Does anyone know of an good lifestyle clubs in Kingston or Ottawa?
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Onehornywife, I too noticed SLS has not responded to anything in this thread. It is not only disappointing, it validates previous claims that SLS will not act on any of these suggestions.
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I like the read receipt option. I would also like the option to like that comment.
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Agreed. I remember those days. This is our third profile. Our first was created in 2003.
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Another recommendation. I just saw a picture to approve that was of the golf influencer Grace Charis. Although it is possible it is really her, it is unlikely. We should have a button to click for celebrity which would then get further rev…
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2much, you are probably right. It is nice to dream though :)
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Also, how about being able to like someone’s comment in the forum? That seems like it would be a nice addition.
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Mayhem, That is fair. I think having blocking an account counting as a reply would help. Because yes, there are profiles out there that do not read profiles or take into consideration preferences. I also think having a quick reply option w…
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If you had the power to change one or two things on this site, what would it be? SLS is already working on the age auto updating. What else would you change? The top two I would change are: 1. Making a specific guideline in the picture app…
this site protects liars
I have reported many profiles of singles posing as couples and SLS routinely corrects it. Here is a tip. If it is not clear in the profile then get them to admit it in chat. Then, file a report and cite your evidence (e.g. profile explicit…
Why cant we like pics on here
Perhaps liking a picture would be faster, but it also may add to confusion. I may enjoy a pic and like it but am not interested in the couple. If writing a short message for clear communication is too much work, then it would not be a good…
Why cant we like pics on here
I do not see any value in liking pictures on this site. This site is designed to connect people in the lifestyle together, not gain a social media following. If I like a picture and feel an attraction with potential we are compatible, I se…
Who viewed me
I see Goodgollymissmolly answered your question. I am curious. What is the appeal of seeing who you have viewed?
Kamala Harris
8inchcable, Oh the lengths people will go to instead of admitting they directed their message to the wrong person.
Kamala Harris
8inchcable, You do not understand the definition of snide, you refuse to go back and acknowledge your mistake, as predicted, and now you are making homophobic comments on a swingers site of all places. Well done.
Kamala Harris
8inchcable, That was not a snide remark, but a statement of observation. Clearly you did not go back and read the comments to see your original comment was misguided at me. So far, the evidence points to the probability you will not go bac…
Kamala Harris
8inchcable, If you are asking me, you failed to understand the conversation.
Kamala Harris
Wow.
Kamala Harris
Well, that took 15 minutes to resort to an ad hominem reply. You also do not have to keep convincing me you have no understanding of white privilege; I got it the first time.
Kamala Harris
@marioncouple “ And before anyone starts down the rabbit hole of my white privilege, I'll give you a few quick facts: 40% of my ancestors came here under contract of indentured servitude. 20% of my ancestors came here from Germany after WW…
How may married bi males are looking for a male playmate?
We would love to find a local single bi make to play with regularly. The problem is single men are an aggravating to deal with and they reach out to us without any regards to our interests. It would be nice if this site allowed us to view…
Single Female Profiles
The old adage that if it seems to good to be true, it probably is, would apply here?
Single Female Profiles
That checks outs. I saw a pic for approval recently that was an advertisement for someones OF and provided rates.
Single Female Profiles
I am not sure what can be done about this, but am bringing it up anyway. I have approved a lot of pics recently of single female profiles with public face pics. These females are typically younger and attractive too. Of course this is poss…
WE NEED ACCURATE LABELS
What proves it to me that the site is not LQBTQIA+ allied is the inability to have a same sex couple profile. Sure, those are rare, but they do exist.
WE NEED ACCURATE LABELS
CurEUS_Cpl, Have you considered that too many options will over complicate the search process by creating hyper specific searches, resulting in few to no matches? It also does not reflect the fluidity and situational aspect of sexuality ma…
Date listed that a picture was uploaded
No the logic does not compute for his response to me either. Wayne literally advocated for putting public pictures on a sex site of someone not affiliated with a profile.
Date listed that a picture was uploaded
Wayne, I get you disagree on the ethics, and I think you would find yourself without much company on this issue with those in play in the ethical arena.
Date listed that a picture was uploaded
There are a lot of East things they can do, they just don’t. And it’s frustrating. What you are recommending is easy and fair. I also recommended clarifying picture guidance. Take your profile picture for instance. That is clearly a pictur…
Entitled couples
We are on here to meet potential playmates, not to be exhibitionists. If we are not interested in single males not interested in any form of exhibitionism, then why would we have our profile open to a population we are not interested in an…
WE NEED ACCURATE LABELS
How much money would it cost? I thought they had a coding team already. I do get some of their hesitation with making changes. If there are too many inputs when searching, finding each other can be more difficult because the searches becom…
WE NEED ACCURATE LABELS
It is frustrating that SLS does not make some of the easy changes. It is 2024 and they have been at this for about 25 years. How has SLS not adapted to allow for same sex couple profiles?
Entitled couples
Still not as easy as updating ages, yet here you are.
Entitled couples
True. The problem is if you do not have many pics here, then they need to be replaced. We simply do not take a lot of pictures of ourselves. That is the process we do not want to deal with. So we are very discerning that the pics we take a…
Entitled couples
Our pictures have not always been recent. We are not investing that kind of time to cull pictures. We are very discerning around our pictures, age, and weights accurately reflecting who we are and what we look like. Our Zion picture is fro…
Entitled couples
Mayhem, I agree that it would be nice if there were last updated dates for the profile. Add to that dates for when each photo was uploaded. Our first profile was from Oct 2003. There was a couple who joined a few months after us in 2004. T…
Stealing Content From Your Proifle
I think a lot of people copy and paste the passage at the end of many profiles regarding not giving permission for their profile to be used in research. I personally do not have an issue with that. The description of who they are, their pi…
People seeking random people to watch
I have visited it in the past. It wasn’t for me, but I am aware of it.
People seeking random people to watch
The best place would probably be the Chat and not Messages. There is always someone on there and he would have no problem finding someone to watch him.
People seeking random people to watch
Jack, Watching is literally one of the interest levels listed on everyone’s profile. Ignore people who don’t understand the lifestyle, especially people who clearly lie about their age. You do your kinks your way. Best wishes in your searc…
upgrades desperately needed
I thought I posted this but must have did something wrong. The two changes I w out of make if I could are: 1. Remove the add a friend link from the default photo. This reduces the likelihood of accidental requests, while leaving the option…
upgrades desperately needed
So they tried something with the wall and it was a flop. I don’t mind about that because at least they are trying something new. I can see one’s interest in a flirt, but it has no appeal for us. A flirt seems like a passive way to approach…
upgrades desperately needed
Is the site perfect? No. Are there upgrades that could improve the user experience? Yes. Keep in mind that doing so may be very expensive. This was a site built 25 years ago and may be limited in what can be upgraded. To meet what users wa…
upgrades desperately needed
I think it was $99 for a lifetime when we had our first profile in October 2003
WE NEED ACCURATE LABELS
Labels are a bit dated. Accurate labels do not change the reality that the large majority of bi/bi-curious/bi-comfortable men on this site are listed as straight.
Ghosting
Them being cheaters is a grand assumption. I am not going to say people cheating doesn’t exist or that one half of a couple acts without the others awareness, because it happens. But there are many other plausible explanations, such as the…
Someone Favorited You
SLS does exactly that. I think you are confusing Favorites with Friends.
Bathing Suits in Photos Approval Question
I have used Wayne’s guidance on this. If it is at a pool or beach with no suggestive poses, it’s child safe, other it is not. My approval rating has been 100% for a bit now so that guidance seems to be working for me.
Ghosting
We recently were contacted by a couple. They gave three greeting in a row. When asked if they want to chat beyond greetings they said “yes.” I told them that this was painful and best of luck. They said it was painful too and blamed the ch…
Alternatives to SLS chat
We just text. I know not everyone is comfortable with that. It’s just easier and we are not more protective of our phone numbers than who we sleep with.
Males posing as female only sites
I think there is a difference between single males fraudulently posing as a female, or couple, and a trans person identifying differently than their biological anatomy. There is an opportunity here for SLS to make some well needed changes…
Approving Public Pics of Multiple People
Wayne, then why not ban payment and donations in hot dates phrasing?
Leaving negative feedback on profiles
FF, do you have an example of a profile that would need to be warned that couldn’t be accomplished through reporting the profile?
Approving Public Pics of Multiple People
I suspect the issue with gangbang is it’s racist undertones. However, if gangbang is censored then so should BBC due to its horrendously racist origin. Yet BBC is in the Lifestyle Definitions. This is all worthy of discussion, but we can a…
Approving Public Pics of Multiple People
It seems like everyone is in agreement that public face pics should not include those obviously not part of the profile. Seems like a simple rule change on approving pics is in order.
Approving Public Pics of Multiple People
I feel like we are knowingly being complicit when we approve public pics with multiple faces showing that obviously exceeds what the profile is.
Approving Public Pics of Multiple People
Maybe it could fall under no person. I don’t like Wayne’s answer to this. This feels unethical to me. This life is stigmatized. If a single male, for example, has his arms around two friends, male and female, posing for a pic, one might th…
Profile Approval
The other day I clicked on the link for 4 pending profiles. The first profile was in a language I do not speak. My only options were approve or disapprove, neither of which were appropriate for me to select and I was not able to move forwa…
Approving Public Pics of Multiple People
They looked like they were all seated together. I am not suggesting we be detectives. I do think a rule that photos in public galleries not show faces of more people that are in the profile.
Approving Public Pics of Multiple People
When reviewing pics for approval I came across a single male profile for a public gallery that had three people sitting at a restaurant posing for a pic and all three people had their faces clearly seen. Under my reading of the rules, this…
Photo Approval Feedback
Gary, I do that and my percentage is 98%. Yet I have no idea what is wrong with the others.
Photo Approval Feedback
Ron Kathy, You ranting about something off topic combined with a profile with fake ages says a lot about your character.
Photo Approval Feedback
Ron Kathy, I understand that is your opinion, and it is not on topic. Please address your opinions in a more appropriate forum topic.
Photo Approval Feedback
I wish we could see the photos we got wrong and how it was wrong so we can learn from it. Instead of banning those whose accuracy drops too low, it seems more appropriate to try to give them feedback so they can improve. That is no differe…