Leaving negative feedback on profiles

FF, do you have an example of a profile that would need to be warned that couldn’t be accomplished through reporting the profile?

I met with one of the guys on here a while back. His self description on his profile was a lil different than his true self. Things went 'so-so' and later that day he 'certified' me. A few days later he wanted to meet again, and I turned him down. So, he removed the certification. He basically used the cert as blackmail. Shady stuff.

You have to face it some people just full of shit they will post all this stuff in their profile and will be in your neighborhood or five miles from you and still don't want to meet

'The fact that everyone acknowledges that a downvoting system would be abused ought to tell everyone of us how unhealthy this community is.
It's not a quirky funny thing that everyone acknowledges there are so many unhealthy, abusive people in the LS, and most people refuse to address it under the guise of being open minded and to each their own..."

This lifestyle mimics all of humanity. There are unhealthy, abusive, people in all walks of life, swinging is nothing different.

just go spend a few minutes in the politics forum and you'll see a slew of people who would almost certainly abuse this for people who espoused a differing view that they have.

" The fact that everyone acknowledges that a downvoting system would be abused ought to tell everyone of us how unhealthy this community is."

No, not this community...most online communities.

The fact that everyone acknowledges that a downvoting system would be abused ought to tell everyone of us how unhealthy this community is.

It's not a quirky funny thing that everyone acknowledges there are so many unhealthy, abusive people in the LS, and most people refuse to address it under the guise of being open minded and to each their own...

It's like acknowledging that there's a poisoned M&M in the bowl of candy but shrugging your shoulders and digging in anyway, hoping someone else gets the poisoned one. THAT is a poisonous attitude.

Kudos NHS.. finally someone who gets our humor!

Well I would think a yelp style 5 star review for reliability would be helpful.

*No Show
**No Show with an Excuse
***No Show with a BS Excuse
****Late but showed
*****On time and in time

:)

it would definitely be abused, most would leave a negative review if you turned them down because you are not a good fit.

@FF NURSE just because you don't get along with someone it does not mean that I won't get along with that person. I need to make my own decision on my own. I was taught a long time ago not to share negativity about other's in this lifestyle. Don't kiss don't tell comes into mind. I think this idea it's a bad idea. By looking into people's certifications you could actually follow who they've been with. I've actually had people that I have certified ask me by message would I recommend this person.. Especially single men that I have certified I think it's a bad idea and would be abused.

So as most of us know that have been here a while.. this has been talked about so many times on SLS.. so, we know its not happening and for us if we have a bad experience, we write notes in their profile or block them.... it solved those problems for us.

Totally agree with irishrose, negative feedback would be completely abused. People would be getting slammed for having boundaries or not answering IMs and so on.

A feature like that would totally be abused.

Bad idea. This isn't Yelp.

Unfortunately, the folks who would use that feature the most are likely to be the assholes. You know, the ones who get pissed off because you decide that you dont want to play with them. Never mind that it turned out that it's a single guy who claims that his wife got a headache at the last minute "but I'm still willing to play", or he showed up for q vanilla meet in dirty work clothes stinking of sweat. Or you just didn't respond to his generic cut and paste message (like some NY to NC transplants).

Welcome guys.. we have discussed this many times.. for "us" we are all in favor of a YELP type rating with facts.. did they show up on time, did they look like there photos, did they lie about anything in profile, or were they fantastic, looked great smelled great, kind gentle, flirted and in bed "Tony the Tiger".. you get what we are saying!

I will give you true examples of the CERTS here... just because you breath, are alive, meet for lunch or dinner you get a CERT.. when we first came on we had several in our area who collected CERTS just for talking on SLS.. never meeting or playing. They asked us both to give them one !

The first one we have was a joke was from a party advertised on SLS.. it was the swingers party of the year on Bourbon St.. we said okay sounds like FUN we used to like NOLA before it went to crap with all the crime ! We went with our 3rd, paid big bucks for all only to learn it was ONLY a meet and greet.. the guy was well known in NOLA for doing this and collecting money for meet and greets and we along with many out of towners gave him a piece of our mind... but guess what he gave us a CERT.. a F.. ING Joke!

There needs to be a way to leave negative feedback on profiles to warm other couples. A simple thumbs up or thumbs down would work.