No Show

It has happened to us as a couple meeting a couple. All you can do is confirm same day and hope for the best, even if you speak to both parties.

We had a funny incident where the other couple was late to the restaurant. He called and said his girlfriend could not make it, but he came with another woman, Bambi, who I would like because she is 22 years old (I was in my fifties at the time). We were going to stay just to see this.

The other man called me back. Bambi was unavailable, but Amber would arrive with him soon. They were about 30 minutes late. It occurred to us that his new girlfriends may be prostitutes. We left the restaurant and called the other male and told him we intended to meet his girlfriend and this wasn’t what we had in mind.

I appreciate the responses and advice. Lesson learned.

We don't agree meet anyone we don't know until the females have spoke on the phone...not in a chat, not in a chat room...the old fashioned speak to each other. It has been our experience here 9n this site and others, most are single guys or married guys whose wife don't know. Try that youwill be surprised how many disappear..when you ask for the female half to speak on the phone...the funniest is I can't let my phone number out...but they would let their dick out...

We won’t travel that far to meet for a few reasons. If we do go that far we already have another reason to be there or we are going to a ls club. We don’t like asking someone else to travel a long distance to meet us because we generally won’t promise anything more than drinks and conversation unless we’ve already met and played. When someone travels hours to meet, maybe gets a room for the night they often feel they have a lot invested in the meet. When travel plans come up for us that will take us to another town for the weekend, we put up a hot date if time will allow us to play and see what happens.

We also have seen the people that seem to be shopping for “the best option” on a hot date. This is a matter of principles to us, If we make plans to meet you, we won’t cancel for “a better deal”. If the “better deal” does pop up, we might try to make a future arrangement with them and count ourselves lucky to have more options than we have time.

I agree with Mag, RK, and HB

From a single male perspective I won't do a meet of any kind unless everyone involved has had some sort of communication. If a couple is interested then the couple should be involved in the communication process with me and vice versa If the communication is only one on one, it is a move on situation for me.

"RK, is dead on the money"

I didn't know there was anyone who could still read RK.

As for how I would handle it - move along. I don't see what kind of recourse you could take.

But most definitely, don't waste your time talking to him/then anymore.

RK, is dead on the money. Always find someway to communicate with both of them before setting a meeting time. Group chats are decent, but can be faked. A quick video call can save you a lot of wasted effort. There are many husbands who post their vacation photos, send messages, post hot dates, and the wife never has any idea. The worst scenario you could walk into is one where you actually meet the couple and the husband has not told the wife anything. Meeting can be worse than being ghosted.

MAG is right on!

That is why we talk with BOTH parties after a couple IM"s.. If it is a single person set up a meet quickly also after a couple IM's , we will not get a hotel or anything now as we too have been burned by the fakes and wanna bees on SLS..

One lesson learned and many more to be had with the fakes on SLS and holdovers from Craigslist.. sad! Dont waste your time and block him!

Or his wife was told about the evening's events and said hello no.

I drove 1.5 hours round trip tonight for a no show for a hot date. I had been exchanging messages with the husband. He confirmed this afternoon the meeting was still on.

I just checked the hot date posting and noticed it was altered. It makes me think he was shopping a number of different offers and waited until the last minute to choose what he likesd best. I’m fine with that. What I don’t like is the misleading nature of his messages.

How would you handle it?