@Foxy_Angel Manila is amazing. I (Mr. OHC) was there back in 2011 for a two week long business trip. Hooked up with a couple three times and a amazing MILF twice during my time there. Such a great sexual experience that I'll never forget!! Filipino gals are sexual AF!!
My husband always answers the question how did we meet.
"I went to Manila and shook the biggest tree I could find and she fell down"
We met at a swinger party. Jessica had a little fun with everyone that night. A few guys, myself included, stayed the night. The next morning, I invited her to go get breakfast. We've been together ever since.
We were young when we got married she was 21 and I was 25 she use to tell me the girls at work would tell her she would be most likely to take part in a gang bang, we would talk about it when having sex, so after our first kid got a little older she ask, since she was my first maybe we should explore the lifestyle . So we did and never looked back.
I'm single lookong to join a couple my first time and do a group thing!
We are high school sweethearts and we are lucky to start as best friends before things turned romantic. We were and still are open about everything, sex included. It was because of this open dialoque and acceptance, I was able to express my bisexuality. He has been very supportive and it's because of this that we decided to pursue the lifestyle. We also have been to many strip clubs and gotten lots of lap dances over the years. We learned we don't get jealous; we get turned on watching each other. It makes me smile so big to see him having a fun time with another person and vice versa. We know we are in this together and that exploring sexual fantasies together is fun and exciting. I man the profile even though I am the woman. It's not always the stereotypical man making the wives do anything.
You just have to bring out her inner slut
Apostrophes don’t make nouns plural. And husbands don’t "do it". It comes from a mutual respect for each other and a mutual desire to have a hella good time with other consenting adults.
Little known fact: women are freaks. This is the sex that is biologically adapted to have multiple orgasms.
Historically the limiting factor on female promiscuity were pregnancy and STI risk, and that sexual exclusivity was exchanged for material security. Neither of those things are as much of a factor today, so we are seeing more and more of the female libido on display in the broader culture.
It’s important to mention that not all women have the proclivity to participate in any kind of swinging. Young women are socially conditioned from a very early age that “cheating” or having multiple sex partners is a terrible offense (acknowledging that there’s an undeniable double standard when it comes to boys/men). Girls/women are routinely shamed for sleeping around, and it’s not the kind of thing that you’re able to convince your wife or girlfriend to risk if she’s got a legitimate fear of that possibility. Only couples that have established a level of trust and mutual understanding in their relationship are even able to approach the subject without hurt feelings. It’s a very sensitive area for a lot of people. You have to know your partner well enough that she isn’t going to react with horror at the mere suggestion. If you think your partner will be offended by it, don’t suggest it. If you love your partner and she’s not interested, don’t guilt her into doing it to please you. It won’t end well.
Actually, I was dating my wife at the time and she brought up bringing in another woman. After we did that for about a year we started with other couples.
All I did was ask if she wanted to try it. She took over from there.
My 1st hotwife and I were naturally adventurous. Both of us had experience in group sex when we met. J was a sexy gorgeous dark haired college majorette as was her equally stunning roomie, N. I met them both at the same time. That night J and I got a little wasted and ended up going skinny dipping in my hotel pool. We made love in my room and she spent the night with me. I couldn't believe my luck! I was 25, they were both 20. J invited me to a pregame party at their rental house the next weekend. Several years prior to that when I was a college student, I had been picked up by older married couples at bars resulting in mfm 3somes at their homes. Also I had been seduced by 2 older bi female apartment neighbors. and we had a wild 3some. A few weeks later they invited me to join them and their bisexual boyfriends in an orgy. My wife to be and her roomie loved to pick up older men for 3somes. They were wild and open with me about everything from the get-go ! They were actually cheating on their football player jock boyfriends. I remember being in a state of sexual arousement at work the next week, anticipating a hot 3some with J & N. It did not happen that weekend, but I spent the night in J's bed and N had seduced another guy. I guess it was 2 weeks later before the 3 of us had wine and weed and they did indeed seduce me. Before J and I even started getting serious I was going to bars with them and watching one or both of them pick up men together, resulting in incredible 3somes and moresomes.
So basically, I never had to talk J into doing anything wild. We were both up for it all the time ! It carried over almost immediately in our married life. After a long honeymoon having sex only with each other, we began discussing going out to pick up married couples and other men. She hinted around at and encouraged me to take an interest in men and try mm oral sex. I was hesitant for a long time, but finally I started fantasizing about playing with her and her male lovers in 3somes and 4somes. It was mind blowing the first time a man sucked my cock and J helped me suck him off. She had never been truly bisexual, greatly preferring 2 or more men. She would make love to other women mainly as a way to get me and the other hubby hot as hell. I ended up the same way, except I wanted other men to enjoy along with her. We only occasionally met couples after she converted me into a kinky bi hubby ! We lived the lifestyle for 8 great years before our daughter came along. Our activities decreased a bit, but we had built in babysitters in J's parents. They wanted her almost every weekend and encouraged us to take off from weekend parenting and go party ! Little did they know about our kinky secret sex life together. We were still able to entertain men and couples in our home almost anytime we wanted.
I (Mr. OHC) was married in the lifestyle before I met Mrs. OHC and knew I'd like to stay part of it. Mrs. OHC had some lifestyle experience in a previous relationship too. The thing I learned from my previous and current marriage is don't settle for vanilla if you're not vanilla, it will only fall apart in the long run.
How I met lifestyle friendly women is by being open about sex and our fantasies but don't be a moronic perv and say you want to have threesomes and orgies on your first date. Ease into it, be patient. I would typically bring up sexual fantasies after we had sex the first or second time and try to get a reading on how open they are. If they are the jealous or close minded type then move on.
Good for you guys coaster.. we too have been doing this well over 25 years!
Its fun when you find the right people!
My wife and I have always been sexually adventurous. We never took sex seriously in the sense that we just think of sex as sex, it isn't anything sacred or what not. My wife is also very bi and always has been. It started out with having a 3 some with a lady friend of hers and a coworker recommended we check out swinging websites as she knew how we were. So we pretty much agreed together to participate in this lifestyle and we both really like it. We are a couple who likes to get right to it, we aren't looking for friends, we are just looking to hookup with others and the more couples we full swap with, the better as we kind of like the idea of getting our numbers up
We met iin a vanilla setting. We both kind of gravitated towards the lifestyle.
The odds are that the "hey lets go to a sex club" discussion will go well depends on if you are completely open in other areas.
I wasn't trying to find a woman into swinging when I met my ex many years ago. We had an unplanned FMF and the sexual "freak" came out of her with a roar. Many fun-filled swinging years after that. I was looking for an attractive mate from the start and just got lucky she turned into a hot wife right away.
When I met C, I WAS trying to find someone attractive and sexually open. I tried "dating" on SLS and another site, but came up empty. So, I dated through the usual channels and just got a sense for their appetite for sex through getting to know them. After I had been dating C for a little while, she wore a t-shirt that said "Wine makes my clothes fall off." She also talked about the load of beads she'd get at Mardi Gras by dropping her panties instead of the usual boob flash. Good signs! Between taking her to a swinger-friendly nudist place and seeing her on my boat, I realized I had a fun hottie who loves to get naked on my hands. She was also a good match in other ways, so deal sealed.
I've been lucky, to a degree. Started swinging with my ex-wife who was very sexy & cute. Met my current wife who is sexy & beautiful who was very interested in swinging after we first started dating but after 13 years together and raising a family its evolved into an open marriage which is fine for me. I did try to introduce other girls in my past relationships to swinging but they refused for different reasons, mostly because of jealousy.
The few things my ex-wife and current wife have in common is they are both white, brunette, non-religious and psychology majors in college. Hmmm...
I'd say the easiest way to start, is with a truly bisexual woman. She'll be much more open to playing with women, as she already has done this in the past, without you. It may be even be apart of her life that she's been missing, but other men haven't allowed her to enjoy herself. Then you come as a welcomed gift when you express how much you'd like for her to be able to have that as well.
I have yet to turn the truly straight woman onto swinging. Not to say it's impossible, there are hundreds of thousands of couple here doing it successfully. For me, it was just a harder conversation to have, as they don't want to see me with another woman and can't figure out why I want to see them with another man
Kathy in a red dress, YES.
"At least, that's what I did. Easy. "
This needs a like button, or at least a clinking beer mugs emoji to post !
Thaiger,
I think you are over thinking this. It's really quite simple.
Find an intelligent, beautiful, vibrant, interesting woman. Fall in love. Hope that she feels the same. Promise to love, cherish, and honor. Build a life together. Trust her with your deepest secrets, fears, and desires. Talk about everything. Listen. Explore.
At least, that's what I did.
Easy.
"Women can't think or want to do this because they want to explore their own sexuality?"
Word.
This wasn't something anyone had to ease me into.
Sigh. You assume it's the men pushing it. Women can't think or want to do this because they want to explore their own sexuality?
