Don't feel silly. If I was 11 years younger and 600 miles closer I would love to date a woman that mentions swinging to guys she meets on dating apps. Hell, I would be happy just to be friends with her and not date.
There are thousands of single men on here who are looking for a woman like you. They might not be within 100 miles of you, or be two years above your preferred age, but at least 10 of them are likely to make decent partners in a relationship.
My advice is to be fussy, but not so fussy that you don't overlook someone who'd be wonderful.
I have tried numerous regular dating sites for months trying to find my next 'person'. I am honest, forthright and don't like a bait & switch, so tell them up front that I enjoy swinging on occasion and hope they do too.
The guys always freak out and run. I'm at a loss on where and how to meet someone interested in the LS and a significant other. Any advice is sincerely appreciated!
(Please DO NOT lecture me on the purpose of this site...I'm aware.)