Friends Tabs

So still no answer on how to rescind a friend request?

as far as I can tell, this in no way will affect you or the way you use the site in any way if you don't want to participate in this.. this is in no way like removing and replacing the old and better functioning mail system with the confusing new messaging system... the old friends list is now named favorites, it functions the exact same way as before with just a different name

if you don't want to participate or use the friends feature, don't click on the friends button, the site is going to function for you the same as before you won't notice a difference, at least as far as I can tell...

peace out

Folks:

The Friends tab/feature has not been taken away. Friends have been re-named "Favorites".

What I'd like to know is if there's a way to revoke a Friend request that you've sent? Otherwise, the request just hangs there if the person doesn't see it, od decides not to accept.

<p>The old feature is still there. It was renamed "Favorites" and there is a menu option for it, right below the new Friends option. </p>

Yet again they have boned up something that worked just fine. The old friends list let you add people to a list that you wanted to look at their profile again... Now that is gone ? WHY ?? If you wanted the new friends tab couldn't you have folded the old friends list into a new tab ??? So sad what SLS has become....

How do you know they accepted your request?

On the website at least, you simply click on the Friends tab on the left side which will open your friends page. There you will see all friend activity: any friend requests pending, friend requests sent and actual friends (who have obviously accepted).

Ok ! How Do you Know If Some one Accepted your Friends Request?

“ BUT people may not accept a blind friend request unless they know you”

That’s us on another site we use; we will not accept a friend request unless we have met and mutually got along. Yet, then again, we have their phone numbers as well, so we seldom use the site to keep in touch.

~Allen

Just rename the site Facia Booklet and be done with it.

When I first joined this site as a single male some 15 years ago, couples who had their profiles hidden from single males could email a guy and once he replied, he could see their profile. They could then exchange emails, open pics etc while the couple was still hidden from the other SMs. Personally I think it was a glitch but it was usefull, and so it went away. (applying SLS logic here)

What I believe Wayne is suggesting is that couples who are otherwise hidden from single males now may be able to send a friend request to a specific guy and once accepted, they would be able to communicate and the SM could see their pics etc.

If this is true, I do see the advantages.

That means it likely won't be a function of the Friends tab

~Scamp

"One thing I can think of that has been highly requested is for it to allow anyone on your Friends list to view and contact your profile."

Am I understanding this correctly ... people are supposedly requesting that only people on a friends list be able to contact them?? That is asinine and makes no sense ... So you have to be friends with somebody to contact them ... BUT people may not accept a blind friend request unless they know you ... talk about counter intuitive ... how the hell are folks supposed to meet people on the site with a stupid restriction like that

Wayne, two questions:

1) Can others see who is in our new friends list since it is an independent feature?

2) Does the sender of a friend invite get a return notification if denied?

~Allen

sls_WayneC does it currently work that way now? Honestly that feature (add a single male you know for communication while "hiding from the rest) is something that we can get behind. If it does not currently work that way when will that come out? Yeah I know you are a mushroom in this but at least you have given some glimmer of hope this change might be useful.

Having the ability to keep open a s/m contact or friend while blocking s/m as a group is a giant improvement for this site. Hopefully SLS doesnt "F" up the friend feature in other ways as has been case with most every "exciting" improvement they have jammed down their loyal members throats!

<p>Right now it does nothing other than adding each other to the list. It is a two-way version of the old list. I looked around at some other similar sites and they all have some sort of Friends feature. </p>

<p>One thing I can think of that has been highly requested is for it to allow anyone on your Friends list to view and contact your profile. Many couples are interested in single men, but do not want to be bombarded with single males, so they want to be able to add select single males to a list and remain hidden from the general single male population.</p>

We have friended one person who is actually a friend so we can see what features magically appear.

So far, it did not open any galleries to each other and there is nothing different in viewing his profile. We could always see "who is on" and what friends (now favorites) are on.

We will let you know if anything changes.

~Scamp

So I accidentally send a friend request but I don't see a button to cancel that request , like others we would add them to friends to check out together later , I just clicked the wrong button not knowing and would like to cancel the request

"Its awesome that you are trusting enough to try out the system but we won't be taking a chance. "

Just for the record, we are trying out the system with only two friends who already have private gallery access and we like them personally already. All other requests are ignored for now until we see where this all goes. My point was not that this was a good thing (or necessarily a bad thing) but only in answer to a question somewhere up above my answer, that yes you can delete friends (for now anyway).

We have been contacted by several people on SLS who we have never met, talked with, IM, etc.. sorry we deny the request and move on ..

SLS needs to stop fixing something if the problem was not broken!

They are asking you and your former list of friends is now in Favorites.

So we have a number 1 over friends in the drop down in left. Are they requesting we be friends or did I accidentally invite them, and where the hell is MY friends list? Kaput?

vabeachcouple33 its exactly that that makes us leary of this...

travelers122227 the issue of having or not having a remove button is moot...the way they roll out features here they might change it this weekend and you won't know the access changed to "whatever" or does "whatever" till you stumble upon it or someone points it out to you. Its awesome that you are trusting enough to try out the system but we won't be taking a chance.
Ask yourself did they tell you 48 hrs before they dumped the mail service?
Did they tell us before adding the tab, or before allowing pic access requests?
Or even before they redid hot dates?

Nope so I hope for the sake of everyone that jumps in the deep end of this pool that they do notify before changing what "friend" feature does...but I'm willing to bet they won't...and I just hope it does run over anyone when they do implement the "heavily used and exciting new features" that are so top secret they don't tell the tech people or the members.

Well, I know at least on another site, it works like this:

-people often "friend" you as a way of telling you they like what they see.

• some people collect hundreds or even thousands of "friends" this way

-your friends list is public. Anyone who can see your profile can see who your friends are.

Not saying that there is any intention of doing that here, but that's how it works in at least one other place.

Once you accept a "friend" they move to your approved friends list. Each profile there has a "remove" button underneath of it.

Presumably that remove option will remain in the event the new friends list turns out to be something negative when it is "heavily utilized in some soon to come new features".

So since this started we have gotten a few unsolicited "Friend" requests from people we have never talked to. Now we would never accept such a random request anyway but without knowing what future features (or even existing ones) accepting a request would grant access to. The problem is we have one currently sitting in the tab from someone we know, see at parties, and yet have no interest in playing with. We do talk some and are at the same parties but they are just not our cup of tea as it were and they know it. We don't want to be rude and deny the request however without knowing what accepting it does now or possible in the future (gallery access, monitoring when we are on and offline, can we remove them should it grant such access, etc) we feel we cannot accept it either. SLS has really screwed up with releasing this without giving us any information about it.