getting the play started

IN ACCORDANCE WITH THE PROPHECY

Mrs is not bi,s o much sex with beautiful women i could have had if only she was bi. Men today fuck like they see in porn, way to violent for women in real live. They want other women for sex because its a gentle non violent touch.

In our area, we get told 'because Di isn't Bi', how do you get things going if she isn't bi and no girl girl play? So it seems that Bi play between the women is necessary to get things moving. We say not. We think kind of like dating, one makes a move. After all, isn't that what we all want to do.

Seldom a problem with an exhibitionist like Mrs Smith - she just drops her dress and it’s amazing how fast the action cranks up after that! :)

That is how We started the party at Jacks houseboat parties. Sometimes with another couple. Such fun!

To the OP:

Sometimes someone just needs to jump in. I remember one house party we attended a few years ago with 6 couples, all with bi females. Everyone there was new to all the others, but all seemed to hit it off with everyone else and the entire crowd was relatively similarly attractive. We all stood around the kitchen however for a couple of hours talking, flirting and drinking, but no one made a move to do anything else.

After asking whispered permission from the host couple, I took my wife by the hand an announced "we are going to go get naked, anyone who wants to join us are welcome" and off we went to the master bedroom.

Within 10 minutes, everyone else was in the room naked and playing as well with the exception of one couple who watched for a while and then left. I think every one swapped with every other couple before the night was over. I know we did.

We learned later the couple who left were very new and the group scene was a bit overwhelming for them. We did actually meet up with them as just two couples a few months later and they were fun too. They really regretted getting cold feet that night and were looking forward to their next house party.

We've been to house parties where, believe it or not, lighting made a difference. Those where people were hanging out in brightly-lit areas nothing happened. And those where the lighting was at some point dimmed a bit seemed to make it easier for people to get closer, be closer, and flirt more. And if you have a dimmer switch, even better. At some point after chatting for a while, dim the lights 50%.. kind of like saying it's okay.. ;-)

And newbies or people who aren't up for playing will see this and either cling to each other or choose to gracefully leave.

When I host house parties I always have an icebreaker after about 90 minutes of socializing. This helps everyone feel more comfortable. Most feel awkward about being the first one to get started. When I'm in a smaller setting I'll just ask "may I kiss you"?

Before you even meet another couple you talk to them on the phone. At this time you will know if they are for real and going to meet your for sex if everyone clicks.

Mieeting a new couple just by text is a recipe for failure.

rabbit, yOU have no iDEa, babY. ONce you gO puppEt, you'LL alWAYs LoVe it!

SHHh. don'T tEll sorillO i loGGED iNto his pROfIle.

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Looks like I’m going to be a busy girl! ;-)

~rabbit~

LIl Rabbit
If u come out of clothes with me around u won’t have to say anything. SB will be ready. Ha ha.

Sorillo, take the puppet’s clothes off and we’ll talk

Or not. I may have my mouth full

~rabbit~

As I read Rabbit’s post, I all of a sudd n notices how warm it was getting .

looks at rabbit

wiggles puppet

wiggles puppet again

Dammit. Damned Chinese knock-off hand puppets never work right.....

To get things started I just take my clothes off— or Scamp takes them off of me.

Point made, nothing need be said.

~rabbit~

It should be obvious the other/others wanna play or not by the time you get to a room or back to a house. 99.999% of the time droptop (her) will just get naked and ask if they wanna join in the fun. at that point, its game on

If you don't know for certain that they want to play, then make the decision to be proactive and ask if they want to play. You may ask early into a conversation at a club or party how they play. You don't want to spend 40 minutes talking to find out that the other wife only plays with women and you all are a straight/ straight couple. Get playtime compatibility into conversation early. When asking to play, too often people just fail to pull the trigger. Ask and the creative means of doing so, as already mentioned, are always fun.

"Who brought the Reddi-Whip?" or "The puppet's getting antsy." are a couple of my patented, classy methods of initiating playtime.

I didn't say they were GOOD methods.... but they are methods.

shifty eyes

I think I'm reading this a little differently than the others who have responded. It sounds to me like you've already agreed to play and you just want to know some ways skip the social awkwardness between that and the part where you take your clothes off. If that's the case, here are some things that have worked for me in the past:

• First times are awkward, so I'm just going to take my clothes off. Join me when you're ready.

• Renting a hotel room with a jacuzzi and flipping a coin as to which pair goes first

• Smiling and saying come here

• Asking how they like to start

• Taking a hand and saying, "Shall we?"

• Make a joke about drawing straws to see who makes the first move

I could go on. Basically though, first times can be awkward if you let them be, but they don't have to be. It's just another kind of negotiation, but this time of terms, since you've already reached a basic agreement.

We have various ways of starting the foreplay before heading off to a room or house. Its very easy to tell if a couple is interested or not. We sit next to the other half of the couple and if they are into sex with us they are flirting and touching as much as we are.

Seem like all my wife has to do is touch a mans leg and everything in known about what they want to do.

Depends on the circumstances. At a house party when chatting with a couple & you get a sense that there is an attraction, we just ask do you want to play? Everyone knows why they're there, or should. Pretty much the same at a club with perhaps maybe some dancing before. When meeting a new couple at a vanilla bar/restaurant, if we go back to one or the others place simply asking if they'd like to play after chatting a bit more seems to work. With a new to the Lifestyle couple, playing a game of strip poker can be a nice segue` into fun.

This works for us at a party.

"Do you guys want to play?"

Although there are a few of us at a certain party, that make a plan, Open Room 1030. 6 of us go there, and get the party started.

Getting the green light lit is not always easy ;)

Please, oh please, can someone suggest a better way to get playtime started than "hey, lets fuck"? We have heard that the awkwardness really never goes away. Is this true? We are new still and have only done separate rooms so I get that it's more difficult to avoid the awkwardness, but are there any suggestions to make it less awkward? Once we get started, it's great.