What’s wrong with a friend request?

Cal, that's why I almost never tell anyone WHY I pass on them, if I decide they aren't a match. I figure that anyone who insists on knowing why is just looking for an excuse to be abusive, so I just give a polite variation on "Sorry, but I don't think we're a match. Best of luck in your search."

From what people have told me, and from what I've read on the fora for years, the single guys are really bad for that, but I've had personal experience with that unpleasantness from SFs and couples as well. Life is too short for that nonsense, and besides, wild monkey sex is too important to take seriously anyway. :)

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Hahaha! Thanks for the chuckles, you three!

Ain’t that the tooth! By the by, “dood”, like joom lens, is in the urbane dickshunary.

BT

Spellin be hahrd, BT....

Dood gives a bad name to the really really smart guys who won the spelling bee in jr high.

BT

Just when we think we've heard it all... You just can't make this stuff up. Unreal.

Back to the first line of our profile, a new friend request from a single male yesterday. Sent him a PM pointing to the fact he hadn't read our profile and that reading/at least skimming profiles is important. Received a super aggressive response about how smart he is, and how dumb we are. According to him, we're "just a number". His biggest argument about his intellectual superiority was that he was a 3rd grad spelling bee champion. Suggested he add that to his SLS profile as a sure fire way to get tail in the LS.

bicuriousblkgrlindfw you mean like when the "hot chick" that is half or more your age you do not know nor could in any reality possibly be interested in you and is brand new to Facebook sends a friend's request? Yeah umm no that's called not today ISIS, China, or whatever. In reality I know no one on Facebook that accepts a random request from someone they never talked to. In fact I know more people who are selective of who they accept than I do that are not so careful.

@bicurious - Just a guess, but thinking SFs will have way more luck with random friend requests than SMs ;-)

FWIW - I don't like the friend request being right on the profile thumbnail. On a phone, clicking on the thumbnail sometimes hits this accidentally. Especially with big mitts like mine. Luckily it verifies first before it sends the request.

“ literally thought it worked like Facebook. ”

It pretty much does. Are you in the habit of sending FB requests to random strangers you have never met?

~Scamp

I should have read this post before sending out friend requests. literally thought it worked like Facebook. Apologies to anyone I may have offended. Newbie mistake.

If it wasnt for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all...

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Wow, some guys have all the luck ;-)

Speaking of unsolicited friend requests, just received one from a couple over 2000 miles away with no pics and the barest minimum profile text. No message or prior contact.

I suppose it could be that they intended it as what's now a favorites thing before the SLS IT gerbils changed the name.

FunFun - You've been a member here since June 2018. It should come as no suprise to you at this point that it will be the exception for people to accept unsolicited friend requests here on SLS. You're actually more likely to get blocked than you are to make a friend with that approach. Just some friendly advice, but of course, u do u ;-)

"Like grow up u act like u don’t have Facebook and add ppl u don’t know."

@OP: This is not FB for us, we do not accept friends request from those we haven't met and only accept from those we want to continue to meet.

BTW, 13 FB friends, 11 of which are immediate family and two are lifelong friends.

~Allen

"Wow someone sounds just a wee bit entitled here. ~N"

Exactly. We personally enjoy single males, but the OP's seemingly entitled passive aggressiveness just fuels the negative stereotype you hear all the time on LS sites. If all of these responses are somehow missing the point he was trying to make, we'd love to hear a follow up explanation from the OP. At this point, doubting we're going to get one, tho.

Wow someone sounds just a wee bit entitled here. ~N

we don't accept friend requests from people we aren't interested in

Yes, for the most part we're all here for similar reasons. BUT, this is still dating. Just because we're all swingers does not mean we should feel obligated to accept every attempt to connect with us. Especially those 'attempts' received from lazy and/or arrogant types.

One of the biggest reasons why we deny them is because of lazy people that can't even take the time to scan what's written in our profile (first paragraph speaks to friend requests) or write an introduction in a PM. The OP should consider that there may be broader issues than he realizes with his overall game/approach.

Friends are just that friends not some random person looking to hopefully see a picture of a tit while he (or she maybe even them) self gratify. Across all platforms we only accept friend requests (or the equivalent) from folks we have talked to and "know". Now this does not mean we have met in person but we would like to even on those vanilla platforms and folks not in the lifestyle.

Yeah that 1st post is like 8 times linger than his profile ... how does one even read his "Looking For" text of "Hf FL uh ugh Hecht h njyccb. Hugh go BBC hcvg. Be"??

Theres something in there about Hecht's the defunk department store ... it had to be one of those silly experiments to just hit random keys and see if the profile gets approved.

Wow FUN.. its exactly that reason we no longer allow SM's to look at our profile .. multiple friend requests a week gets old along with dick photos.. so how about you enjoy your journey.. and dont worry about our journey and perving our photos.

Problem is people have no clue how to communicate with a nice well written opening line and introduction.. matter of fact just look at what you wrote and your profile.. you placed more thought and energy into your "first post" than your profile ! Get over it and loose the wow look at me attitude.

By the way we have SM's exclusively in our select 3 sums and we will choose who we want.. and have done so well over 24 years and have many xxx photos on SLS for our select FWB's . Many here have seen us at parties , events and yes we do travel with our SM's to places like NOLA, Ft Ldl and Costa Rica.

NO we dont have FB only Linkedin with well over 600 known.. "Business contacts" and YES we do know all of them.