How many of you are bareback optional?
We are noticing that as we age, the most vehement condom users are giving up on condoms. It is due to performance difficulties with condoms by older men. I feel ( or don’t feel) your pain.
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Rock Legends February 2026
Which rock legends will be on it?
Temptation Cruise March of 2026
We just went on the November Bliss cruise, our sixth. It’s getting a little formulaic. We had friends on the November Temptation cruise and they were very enthusiastic. Anyone been on both and can compare?
First dates and fucking
We once invited a couple to our house to play. The wife walked from her car to our house in a super slutty negligee. Could you wear a coat or change in our house?
DTF
We are with Mayhem on condom use. We understand their limitations, but better than nothing. As we age and the men struggle to maintain an erection with a condom, we find more friends abandoning them. We prefer to finish with a blow job if…
First dates and fucking
We intend to play the second time, let other couple know.
First dates and fucking
We have had a few situations where three out of four wanted to play. The fourth person often took one for the team. We then established one vanilla meeting, then ask other couple if they want to meet the second time. Sometimes yes, sometim…
DTF
We are very experienced lifestylers. We like to meet another couple for drinks, lunch or dinner. Then we go home and discuss if we would like to play. If yes, we ask the other couple if they would like to meet to play. If so, we ask when t…
Bliss Cruise - November 8-15, 2025 - Celebrity Reflection.
Our sixth Bliss cruise. Bev and Michael in cabin 1029. Send us a message and we’ll open pictures.
Has anyone over 45 received the HPV vaccine series?
A lifestyle friend advised my wife that she has cervical cancer. This generally results from a HPV infection, which generally occurs during sexual activity. Condoms are of limited protection from HPV infections. Most go away on their own.…
Can you convert vanilla friends into swinger friends?
We are friends with two couples one couple has expressed fascination with swing swinging. The other has not said anything, but we feel tension. Can we go there or will we ruin our vanilla friendships?
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
We know a ton of people on SLS who have had HPV. Some had medical procedures to remove precancerous cells. One friend had cervical cancer. Male and female friends have had genital warts, sometimes removed surgically, sometimes with a freez…
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
Cal an, what do you do if you ask questions, your about to be partners have HPV and/or HSV and they lie to you and say they don’t have or they have it and they don’t they have it?
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
What percentage of swingers use condoms? We just got invited to a hotel party. We accepted the invitation. The host said you do know it’s a bareback event. I said I did not, but that’s not for us. A lot of people going, all bareback. Woah!
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
Mayhem, we retired at 60 because we could. No one said on their deathbed that they didn’t work enough. I think that prioritizing work over family and leisure is a major source of discord.
Brand New to Lifestyle - What is the best way to meet people and get invites to parties in NJ
Go to hotel parties. We are not big fans of them, but you can meet people for future play. My other idea is go to a Bliss cruise, Desire, Paradise Lakes, etc.
Obituaries
Police chases are banned in many places for the exact foreseeable scenario that arose. It’s not worth killing innocent bystanders to catch a perp. He will get caught eventually.
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
Not sure I understand the value of testing. You test on September 1. You play with people on September 8, 15 and 22. You contract a STD/STI on September 15. You show a play partner your clean test from September 1 on September 29. But you…
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
Contracting an STD or STI really has nothing to do with intelligence, unless you are smart enough and visually strong enough to spot a wart or sore. But many infections are internal and you are not going to see them. Even the most enthusia…
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
I just think it is very likely that active bareback swingers will get HPV and HSV2. If that is a known and acceptable risk for you, carry on. But you can’t say you didn’t know about it.
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
We use condoms. Difficult to maintain an erection with them. Feeling with a condom while inside a vagina is dulled. I hate them, but use them in the hope that they will prevent a STD. If promiscuous swingers don’t have STDs, who would? I u…
Turning the big 70 what should a guy with ed treat himself too
I tried RO Sparks. Cialis 22mg plus Viagra 50 mg approximately. Works better than either alone. But discuss with a urologist first.
What is wrong with people?
Sometimes we meet a flurry of nice people in the lifestyle. Sometimes we get in a slump. I don’t think it’s you, them or politics. It’s just a difficult pursuit, like dating. Success is rare and fleeting.
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
Excellent points, Calcanfun2.
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
We are at the older age group of swingers. We are finding more people our age wanting to go bareback. I assume it is because of the negative effect of condoms on erections. We are sticking with condoms. HPV and HSV have not gone away. I th…
Vegas April 15-19
Sorry, we just see your question now. To help others, we went to the Red Rooster in Vegas. It’s in an old house that doesn’t quite live up to code. However, on Saturday night they had a big crowd. We went with a couple that we swapped with…
Las Vegas
We went to the Red Rooster swing club. An old facility. But very large group. As of midnight, not a lot of playing going on.
Meeting other couples on cruses
We are going on the November 2025 Bliss cruise. Say hi if you are going.
Las Vegas
Meeting a lifestyle couple there next week. Suggested activities?
We found a perfectly compatible couple exactly like us in all ways
AI!
Testosterone replacement therapy
Are the shots painful or difficult to self administer? I already take Ozempic and that is easy.
Testosterone replacement therapy
What does the spiking do? Mood swings?
Testosterone replacement therapy
Anyone tried it? The side effects are prostate cancer and heart arrack. Not sure my doctor would prescribe it.
Ed Meds
Be careful with testosterone shots. It can trigger prostate cancer in men.
Ed Meds
I have tried Sparks by RO. It is Cialis AND Viagra. I think’s it is 22mg Cialis and 50mg Viagra. Sometimes it works well, sometimes it doesn’t. I find if I take 5mg daily Cialis and 10mg before sex, that works.
Descovy and Doxy PEP
Prep sounds great against HIV. But does it have any effect on STDs, HPV or HSV? My understanding is that it does not.
Has anyone over 45 received the HPV vaccine series?
We got the 3 HPV shots at Planned Parenthood. We are solidly over 45, really had to talk our way into it. We paid out of pocket, no insurance coverage. Glad we goy it.
Came out to my doctor and started STI vaccines and PrEP
I am surprised they gave you the HPV vaccine at your age, but it is good to get. Don’t know why they have an age limit. HPV doesn’t.
Age amnesia
A lot of confusion would be solved if this site automatically updated age upon one’s birthday. Another site does it. This site now time stamps photos. Can it separate B.C. and A.D.? Seriously, we meet people who say they are our age and ei…
Age amnesia
Hope Fraunhubby’s friend is still with us. Probably 100 and still schtupping.
Age amnesia
We have played with people who are older, somewhat unattractive, overweight, etc. and had a great sexual experience. But I stick with my thesis that older people do not realistically evaluate their advanced age relative to much younger peo…
Ever see someone you know on SLS?
Why ask them? Let them have their privacy.
Age amnesia
I would like to introduce a lifestyle phenomena that I call age amnesia. We are 67 years old. Like everyone on this site, we think we look younger than our age. We are asked out by a couple who say they are 67 on SLS, but in reality they a…
Bliss Cruise - November 8-15, 2025 - Celebrity Reflection.
Michael and Bev going on Bliss cruise number six in November. We will be in cabin 1029. If we look like a good match, reach out and say hello.
Silver and Spicy
You may be correct.
Silver and Spicy
This group sponsors trips to Hedo for oldsters. Does anyone know where to access their schedule?
Words that turn you off in a profile
This turns me off: “If your husband can’t achieve an erection with a condom on, forget it” In second place: “if your husband isn’t at least (fill in the blank) inches long, forget it.” Do not need a timer or a measuring stick in the bedroo…
Words that turn you off in a profile
Some people ingest CBD gummies, so there is 420 consumption, but no smoking. Did someone else mention this? Can’t say I read the whole thread in case someone else pointed it out.
Anyone try Sparks?
It is a dissolvable lozenge that contains the active ingredients of viagra and cialis. I ordered it, did not arrive yet. I will review it.
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
Herpes is forever. Human Papilloma Virus is probably less of a worry for younger swingers who are vaccinated. It is tested for women who get Pap smears. No test for men, unless he gets genital warts. Then he tested positive. in our experie…
ED MEDS
I contacted RO about their product, Sparks. It does seem to be half Viagra, half Cialis. They advised me that it is not available for either of the states that I live in, Florida or New Jersey.
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
We are in the better safe than sorry school. Not such a big deal to wear a condom.
Pickle Ball
I fell and fractured my shoulder the first time out in pickleball.
Jokes and Funnies feel free to add your own
An elderly couple were negotiating the terms of their upcoming marriage. The man asked the woman how often she wanted to have sex. She said “infrequently.” He said is that one word or two?
Condoms.
I like Trojan Double Ecstacy. Lubed on inside and outside. Not that easy to find, I found some at a CVS
Has anyone over 45 received the HPV vaccine series?
If you get the HPV vax, your fears will be allayed. Unfortunately, no vax for HSV (herpes).
What should I get tested for as a bi guy
I think HPV and HSV are the biggest risks for swingers.
OTC - Testing for STD's
Note that women can be tested for HPV by their OB/gyn. There is no pre-test for men. If you get genital warts, consider it as a test result that is positive. Consult a dermatologist.
OTC - Testing for STD's
We had HSV tests through a blood test. No mouth or anal swab. Maybe that exists, but it was not suggested to us.
Has anyone over 45 received the HPV vaccine series?
I think you made a smart move. Hope many swingers are HPV vaxxed. We’ve heard some sad stories.
Has anyone over 45 received the HPV vaccine series?
Was it difficult to get?
Condoms.
Sad to report that condoms help with HPV and HSV, but they are far from effective. I chuckle when people say they go bareback with people they trust. Many people with HPV and HSV don’t know they have it. It’s not a matter of integrity. The…
Will Trump ever have a good week?
I don’t understand the blind devotion to Trump, either. Those of us who live in the NY/Nj metro area have known that he is a con artist for decades. Trump U., fake charities that kept donations. How do you run casinos into bankruptcy? The…
Will Trump ever have a good week?
Tall Mark, taking top secret documents and playing hide the salami with the National Archive, the DOJ and the FBI for a year and a half is not liberal, conservative, Northeastern or Southwestern. It’s just plain unAmerican, illegal and tra…
Will Trump ever have a good week?
Trump stole government property. Why? The only reason that makes sense is to sell them to an enemy.
Bareback Exposure
Thank you for your post, Eroticamazon. It is good to discuss this. Of course, type 3 of HPV cannot morph into type 16. I did not say it could. Maybe you inferred it from something that I said. I think we agree that many people think that t…
Bareback Exposure
I am not saying condoms are highly effective against HPV and HSV. And thankfully people under 45 can be vaccinated against HPV. And I know there is no male test for HPV (other than warts-then you’re positive). But I think a lot of swingers…
Bareback Exposure
Rcop, do you know if HPV or HSV was transmitted at your parties? People often don’t discuss it.
How many of you are bareback optional?
Eroticamazon, thank you for your candor. We, too, are beyond the age within which one can get an HPV shot. We know quite a few swingers who contracted high risk HPV. Some had leep procedures, some had hysterectomies. Most wore condoms most…
How many of you are bareback optional?
Eroticamazon, feel free to take the Fifth, but do you both test for HSV? Are you both vaccinated against HPV? Does your wife get tests for HPV? These viruses seem to be the most common STIs. Everyone under 45 can be vaccinated to prevent H…
Monkeypox
Wait till college starts. Monkeypox all over.
Monkeypox
Monkeypox cases doubling every 8 days. Gay male to bi male swinger to female swinger. Not difficult to foresee.
How many of you are bareback optional?
FWB, under 45s are young enough for the HPV vax. Hope you have it.
Covid as of summer 2022
We have not been playing, but most of our lifestyle friends are. I think the consensus is that if you are vaccinated and boosted, you will not get a life threatening case.
Covid Light - Hold the insults
Mayhem, sounds like a difficult experience, not so much the covid, but your ongoing positive status. Hope it subsides soon and you can carry on. We have only been traveling to our other home in Florida. If we wind up with covid, we isolate…
Who has the most certs on SLS?
We are only in double digits. We’ve seen profiles with triple figures. Who is number one?
Covid Light - Hold the insults
Fundamental Law's post below on long covid is scary. We have had four vaccines, we have been top ten percent careful and we have thus far avoided covid. We mask indoors at stores, dine outdoors for restaurants and avoid crowds. Sounds like…
The Ukraine
The problem with Russia is that they have nuclear weapons. Their army can be inept, but if things go far south, they can threaten with or shoot nukes. If Iraq, Libya or Ukraine had nukes, they wouldn’t have run into the problems they had.…
Multi million dollar verdict in std case
You can contract HPV or HSV even with 100% condom use. But most adults have had HPV at one point or another. HSV is also very common. Not enough money in the world to compensate everyone. I expect the case to be reversed on appeal and poli…
Multi million dollar verdict in std case
A verdict of $5.2 million dollars was entered against a GEICO insured driver for transmitting HPV to his passenger during a sexual encounter in the car. Hard to believe. Google it. I think it was in Missouri.
Stock Market and Roth IRAs
This Fed Board blew it. I think weathermen are more accurate than economists are currently. Treasury Secretary Yellen’s recent admission that she thought inflatiòn was transitory, but was wrong , seems like a firing offense.
OTC - Testing for STD's
STDCheck is the best. If you pay out of pocket, it will not go to your health insurance. Less likely to wind up in your permanent record.
Monkeypox
There were 3 covid cases at one time. If it spreads from sexual contact, people with multiple sex partners (typical swingers) would be a likely landing spot for monkeypox.
Monkeypox
It may be starting among gay men, but some of them are bisexual. I am not aware of any barrier to heterosexuals getting it. I wouldn’t rest easy yet. The lesions look disgusting. Comedian Eddie Murphy once said first there was herpes, wher…
Mask and Swingers
One has to determine what they think is safe. It varies wildly.
Monkeypox
Is spreading through sexual contact. Uh oh.
How many of you are bareback optional?
Men cannot be tested for HPV. Few people test for HSV. So if you trust people because they test, they may not test for these. HPV can lead to genital warts and, in extreme cases, cervical cancer. HSV is permanent.
How many of you are bareback optional?
Trust or familiarity have nothing to do with safe sex. Many people who have sexually transmissible infections are not aware that they have them. I would venture to guess the a very large proportion of swingers have HPV and/or HSV. Condoms…
Roe vs Wade
If abortion is banned, it ramps up risks for swingers. Knock up somebody else's woman, get ready to pay child support.
Obituaries
Daryle Lamonica, Raiders QB, age 80.
Obituaries
Estelle Harris, 93, passed away. George Costanza’s mother on Seinfeld. After she caught her chronically unemployed son masturbating, she said too bad you can’t do that as a job.
We cannot locate that member
When you look someone up and it says that, does it mean they quit?
Truth about Bliss Cruises
We have been on several. We enjoyed them as a cruise and the lifestyle component is a positive kicker. Do you have any specific questions?
Obituaries
“I would do anything for love, but I won’t do that. “ RIP, Meatloaf.
Covid Light - Hold the insults
“No amount of evidence can persuade an idiot.” Mark Twain.
What's for Dinner
A husband and wife had a declining sex life. To spark it up, the wife decided to get naked and wrap herself in saran wrap. When she opened the front door for her husband, he said “ Leftovers again?”
Seeking info and advice for first Bliss Cruise
BTW, all but AMA and Regent were lifestyle cruises.
Seeking info and advice for first Bliss Cruise
Fokkers, mix it up! We’ve been on Royal Caribbean, Azamara, Celebrity, Regent, Crystal and AMA river cruise. All fun in their own way.
Seeking info and advice for first Bliss Cruise
As you know, we’ve been on quite a few of these. We discovered the best way to meet people is organically. When you go to dinner, ask for a random seating. Sometimes it’s a bust, but sometimes you meet great people and it’s just socially e…
Coronavirus Covid-19 Vaccination
Mr. Anti-Vaxx has told the sheeple that he is boosted and the vaccines that he personally invented are safe and effective. How do they like them apples? Maybe he got tired on being on the losing side of the argument.