Age differences

Pass the Popcorn... hilarious those lecturing what people choose. and say on forums.. yes folks pass the popcorn!

Some people are here simply to find other people to have sex with. They are less interested in the size, shape, color, or attractiveness to others.

Other people here are so particular about who they are looking to meet & have sex with that you wonder if anyone actually fits their criteria.

Neither is wrong.

The point is that one partner willingly “taking one for the team” is their choice and really has no right to be judged by others.

You don’t believe in the concept of “taking one for the team”? Great. Don’t do it. But don’t criticize others for doing it if they choose to. And to those who choose to “take one for the team” so their partner can have a good experience, you don’t get to judge those who prefer to be very choosy.

This culture of people believing that opposing opinions or values to theirs are “wrong” is so divisive. And just so tiring……

I gave a definition for what the term meant to us. i did not say if either one of us had done it.

I comprehend that people on this community repeatedly show they acyually have no respect for others. "Taking one for the team" is such a gross concept to begin with. I ask about getting consent for it, and people sidestep with attacks for it.
You're telling on yourselves.

Reading comprehension is not a strong suit I see.

What is wrong with people that they think it is okay to "take one for the team"??? Just how much more can you possibly objectify the other person? Just a thing you're willing to tolerate fucking so that your parnter can get off with the other person??

HOW are you getting consent for that? HOW are you asking that person? "Hey. I am not into you, but my partner wants to fuck your partner. Can I do you anyway?"

ARE you getting consent??? Hello?

Our definition of "taking one for the team" was always regarding looks or attractiveness but I suppose as we get older, the definition will probably change to include other things as well as Mayhem mentioned.

Sometimes it can be perceived as taking one for the team because some guys can't perform in their 50s or beyond. If someone has already had that experience one or more times then they may be adverse to giving it another shot. At a minimum the expectation may be that they are taking one for the team from the start to be with an older gentleman.

My wife is hot, but super hot for her age. This tends to get men (in couples) who do most of the viewing to reach out. They want to fuck her. Often these men are in their 30's, 40's and 50's and they often have wives who are their age or even younger. (we get single men in their low 20's hitting on her) So as the oldest out of our couple (and theirs') I can't help but look at the other couple's 30 something wife and have a concern that she would be "taking one for the team". I don't want to be made to feel like that. So, we will ask how SHE feels about being with me. Often, the conversation ends there, lol. But it also often doesn't end there and they express an interest in continuing. I have been pleasantly surprised at the eagerness of some of these much younger females to pleasure an older man. Granted I'm in decent shape, but I can't help feeling very lucky when these stars align. Having a woman half my age suck my cock is a treat I will always enjoy.

We have an 11 yr difference and can't say it is a huge issue. There are so many factors related to attraction, particularly on a given night! In general if they are close to her daughter's age, the wife has no interest. That's a hard line though 5 yrs younger is not common. Reality is she likes guys older than her. 20 above has happened more than 10 below for example. I like various body types and attraction is wide regarding facial types and personalities. At the same time I have a narrow non age based criteria. The lady has to be comfortable in her sexuality, there because she loves to fuck others and is attracted to me. This is the most important thing and that can be present in many ages.

We have an age difference too. When we got into this many years back we had the same problem But we did eventually meet some nice couples and have had fun. Give it some time.

I had a 19 year old when I was 46.
Her idea.
Damn near killed me.
Had a woman young enough to be my grandchild.
First, you do not realize how much you have slowed down as you aged until you fuck a much younger woman.
Second, it is like being with a prostitute, or she fucked you in exchange for money she owed you for back rent .
You have nothing in common. Nothing to talk about. Can't be friends.
So, yes, I think most people are going to have a problem.
Maybe you could try a couple her age where the woman is into older men.

Another funny line from stripes when the recruiter asks if either is homosexual.

No, but we are willing to learn, lol.

Whenever anyone mentions training I can't help but think of that scene from "Stripes" and Bill Murray's line....

"Army training, sir."

Some of us don't need training.

" Confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, good conversationalist, interesting, funny, sensual, dominant, engaging…"

Sounds like me. :)

Age isn’t even in the top ten things I look for in a play partner.

Confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, good conversationalist, interesting, funny, sensual, dominant, engaging… Any/all of those things will get my attention. Then age won’t matter.

To be clear, though, I’m not interested in training anyone. So age may be a detriment if you’re looking to gain experience. For me, anyway. I’m sure there are women out there who would love to take a young pup under their wing. I’m not one of them. You need to know what you want, have experience, and be ready to play.

~LMK~

I just looked. Yep, 3 weeks is your oldest cert and that certainly doesn't mean you hadn't met people from this site before. that date.

I just looked at the profile of the person I was addressing again. It looks like a cert was received by him in about 4 days. Based on the posts of many SMs regarding their experiences, that's pretty impressive.

I still say that some people are of the opinion that people in the lifestyle should be willing to fuck anyone with a pulse. Those people are shocked and sometimes pissed off when that doesn't appear to be the case.

"You've been a member for 2 weeks and have 1 cert already. That has got to be a record for anyone."

Maybe...our join date is 2/27/06, our oldest cert is from 3/22/06. That's about 3 weeks. I thought we had a cert from a profile prior to that that is no longer active, but can't remember for sure.

"People on this website are beyond nuts when it comes to being picky."

You've been a member for 2 weeks and have 1 cert already. That has got to be a record for anyone.

As in the vanilla world, not all people in the lifestyle are attracted to, or have sex with, everyone who has a pulse.

Age is strange, we have met couples who by sight alone we thought were in their late 60’s or 70’s. In fact they were early 50’s. We are 69 and hold our age well. Young guys flirt with L and get sweet hellos from younger women. Take the leap, it could be fun.

ELVON42000

Are you sure you’re not from Charlotte?

@MandM

This may give you a slightly different perspective. :)

A couple of years ago we threw a party where we let someone else invite some peeps. He invited a couple that he had never met before. The couple were dating. The guy was 30, the girl was 19. IMMEDIATELY my wife, with finger pointing out and deep into my chest, said, "You aren't fucking her." She had noticed that I was spending a lot of time with the girl. I told her that was not my intention. I said, "We have a 19 year old, there is tons of alcohol here, I do not want to get sued for someone raping her because she is drunk." My wife looked at me and said, "Oh! You always see things differently." I wound up spending nearly 3 hours with the girl just talking. She consumed 1/4 of a beer during that time. Yes, I did fuck her :) Worst sex I have ever had in the lifestyle. Everything that she knew about sex was from watching Pornhub.

Those are two potential reasons that you may not have looked at.

Another point may be something that was mentioned to me by a woman who is nearly 60. She stated, "I like people that are at least mid 40s. As you get older you become less obsessed with having the perfect body and that scar that you got when you were 14 no longer matters." I could imagine the level of envy or even jealousy that if her husband was now with that young lady and she had to be with the nearly 50 year old. She'd much prefer her husband be with someone closer to her age.

Good luck. There are people out there that it is not a problem. You just have to get past the fact that some people are not comfortable with something that they do not see that often.

Dude if other people care about how young she is then dont talk to them. People on this website are beyond nuts when it comes to being picky. Theyre most likely just stuck up their own asshole.

I would think that it may cause an underlying issue with some of the women in the couples that have a touch of insecurity. In a past relationship, we had met a couple with a woman that was 26 years younger than I was at the time and she was very beautiful. We all got along well and had fun together. When we played, the younger woman and I had a great chemistry and it was one of my best sexual experiences during my LS exploration. While I was VERY cognizant of not doing/saying anything that would cause my partner to feel anything negative, I think it was the fact that a) I very much enjoyed myself (came twice) and b) she was so much younger than I was caused her to be a little jealous, even though she had been with much younger men on a few occasions. It seems from my prospective (so far) that it is perfectly fine for the women to have all kinds of fantastic and wild sex with younger partners and us men applaud it and are happy for them. However, in some couples, when the men are the ones that have an extraordinary experience with a much younger woman, it sometimes causes an issue. Is there a double standard? I am not saying ALL couples would have this type of issue, but I am certain some do.
OK.... waiting to get flamed. lol

Large age gaps are not something we seek out, and they could persuade us to pass on some people online. If meeting in person, it is less likely to matter unless it definitely feels like one of the people is out of place.