Full Swapping in separate rooms

We made the separate room preference decision together, after one very bad night. We had a hotel room with 2 beds, and were with another couple. Robin and the other guy in one bed, his wife with me in the other. The two of them were staring each other in the eye the whole time, just going through the motions with us. Hardly paying attention to us at all. We felt like blow up sex dolls. Eventually Robin and I looked at each other, silently mouthed "WTF" to each other, and ended it quickly which included me faking an orgasm, which I've never done before in my life. After that incident, we added the line in our profile about preferring separate room.

We very much prefer separate rooms as well. We will still do same room/separate beds (on occasion) but will not, under any circumstances play in the same bed. The reason for this is the distraction factor. We are looking for intense moments with others (We do not have to hold hands as we enjoy them). Having that hot/erotic play session where you look into your partners eyes and there is no one else in the world at that moment but the two of you is a delicious fantasy to be savored not rushed through.

When you add the intimacy of being alone with this new partner, we find that you are truly able to explore each other without the distraction or 'show' of other people in the room. You are not pressured to pace yourself to your spouse and her play partner for the night. If you want to add extra four-play and hold off on the 'big bang' that's fine, if you want to take a break for a bit and then start up again, also fine. When the other two are in the room there is a unspoken pressure to pace each other that we find distracting.

All of that being said... We understand that it's not for everyone. There are some who are insecure about it. There mind runs with jealousy when they don't see for themselves what their spouse is doing at every moment. The simple idea that they are having a great time without the details is unsettling. Each to their own... right?

If we want separate room sex, we just do solos.

For couple swapping, separate rooms are more fun for us as there is more focus.

Ditto to BlueHaven2. Maybe we're a bit ADD? LOL

This is where four way chemistry is very important, we look for another couple to be an extension of our own love making, it a very big turn on for both of us when we are making love and are joined by more hands, mouths and cock and playing the same way for the other couple. We already have awesome sex one on one with each other at home. When we are with another couple its to step it up a notch and experience what we can not with just the two of us.

For me (wife) it is about concentrating on the one I am with. I find others in the room very distracting. We have done same room on a few occasions and I find the male half that I am with spending alot of time watching his wife. So at that point I feel like the 3rd wheel,,,IMHO.

We have to agree. We are same way. If I want to see her get pleasured, that's what MFM are for. Its so much nicer to be able to concentrate on the one your with.......Just my 3 cents worth, lol, cost of living you know.....

We thought that we would always play together. Until...

We met this great couple, where the wife was self conscious. It distracted her to play in sight of her husband. So we played apart for several hours, and our eyes were opened. It was so cool to be able to concentrate totally on our new playmates. Later, Mrs. Destin and I laid in bed and told each other about our experiences...which was amazingly hot. Since that experience, we have come to prefer separate play, including sleepovers. The unknown, not knowing what your spouse is doing with a playmate in real time, is really edgy. We love it.

Also, It is a real turn off for Mrs Destin if her partner can't concentrate on her for watching his wife.

I get that it's cool to watch your spouse being pleasured. I dig that, too. But when everybody sparks and feels comfortable, having some distance and privacy is ultra-hot.

We go with the flow, but we prefer separate rooms. This way we can get into the full experience with our new partners.

For the Mrs the men seem to get so distracted when in the same room with their wife, she just doesn't seem to get their full attention.....and she loves their full attention focused on her.

We let the other couples make that decision to choose either separate or same. Were comfortable and secure to play both styles. We like both.

Personally I enjoy same room, I enjoy watching my wife have a good time. I enjoy seeing her enjoy herself. My wife is on the fence, she can easily get distracted by noises she is not making or by a bed moving in a different pattern than what she is moving. So at times separate rooms works better for her to relax and enjoy her own experience.

We like either, it usually depends on the other couple's preferences, as we like everyone to feel comfortable.

That said, here's one small story about sex in the same room/bed: I was with one husband, his wife was with another husband, and were having sex on the same bed (ours...king). I was pretty much worn out (thanks, you know who you are), and my guy went to the bathroom, and to check on things elsewhere. The woman and man fucking on the bed near me were going at it, nice rhythm, and basically rocked me to sleep! If you knew me, you'd know that's a big deal, as I rarely fall asleep easily. I told them they need to pair up and do it again some night for me when insomnia rears its ugly head. :)

It is sometimes a good thing when you can focus on another partner, but an important aspect is to return and reconnect with your spouse at some point.

Gina

I can't fuck when the bed is moving underneath me to the other guy's rhythm, it totally blows my own rhythm. Hate same bed.

Same room is tolerable, but not my first choice.

Separate is prefered. I like to pay attention to the woman I'm with and like it when she's paying attention to me. Call me old fashioned.

We've done separate room only twice and loved it both times. Sometimes same room with one other couple has been a distraction especially if one person is too verbal or noisy and we're not used to hearing them say naughty things.

Three couples in one room can be amazing when everyone is clicking and having fun. In 10 years that's happened twice but stood out as unforgettable nights.

Too many people in a room can be concerning too- if you only know a couple people and get separated. It's happened to us only once where she was starting to play with a new guy and the lady I was about to play with hooked up with another woman instead. In that case it was really awkward as I stood there not knowing anyone and feeling left out. Moral of the story for us: keep the numbers relatively small and the people ones you know- we like everyone we're with to have a great time!

We have done both. A few times we started in separate but the doors were open or it just happened that we got separated. We could how ever hear each other. Nothing hotter than knowing she squirting and I can hear from another room how wet she is. By morning we all ended up in the same bed. Although we have done separate where we didn't see each other for hours. That time it was ok but not great we both like to watch and it gets us off watching each other get someone else off.

we have done both. it really depends on the others involved. there are times when I really enjoy watching my hubby fuck another woman, and he likes to watch me fuck other men.

there are times when I want to be in another room because maybe his partner is not someone I want to be close to.

Whichever, we love reliving the details later.

Two reasons:

1) We once were in the same bed with a couple. While fucking us, they held hands and smiled at each other the entire time like "Hey, look at me!" They paid no attention to us at all. We might as well have been blowup dolls. No thanks.

2) Paula has difficulty reaching orgasm under the best of circumstances. The sounds and motions of another couple in the same room are just too distracting to her, and she has no chance at all for an orgasm under those conditions. We swing to have fun. Those experiences aren't fun.

So we don't care if you disagree with our choice to use separate rooms. It makes swinging fun for us both. So that's what we will do.

Jim

Oh yikes! Talk about "female inadequacy".... I have such a hard time achieving a single orgasm, I would feel VERY inadequate being in the same room with a woman who is having multiple squirting orgasms! :)

Here is an issue that has come up from time to time. We've felt the female inadequacy emotion already with the wife who feels her hubby's partner is having too much fun, moaning/squirting for hours and hours, (can get old for the other woman who can only cum a few times), as well as the male who finishes too soon feels a bit guilty. We like both, but sometimes separation works best and we respect that.

We've done both and prefer same room.

We have done both and like both depending on the setting and the mood of the participants. We always return to each other afterwards though and never stay "swapped" overnight.

Done both, and prefer separate due to the lack of distraction issue. We played with another couple, side by side, on the same bed... And the fella who was doing my wife would be talking to his wife, "he's doing you babe" "you love the feeling babe?"... My wife said she felt like there was no reason for being there if "he" wasn't concentrating on her. Couldn't agree with her more.
Plus, we believe spouses behave differently in a separate room. If you are going to get intimate with someone other than your spouse, why not give it your full attention?

Done both, and prefer separate due to the lack of distraction issue. We played with another couple, side by side, on the same bed... And the fella who was doing my wife would be talking to his wife, "he's doing you babe" "you love the feeling babe?"... My wife said she felt like there was no reason for being there if "he" wasn't concentrating on her. Couldn't agree with her more.
Plus, we believe spouses behave differently in a separate room. If you are going to get intimate with someone other than your spouse, why not give it your full attention?

we have prefer seperate room we have done it same room but found it bettter seperate then just see each others smile when its over or in the womens case her hair all in disarray