Bi play required (WTF)

Hedo2 doth protest too much.

It has been so nice to get replies from people agreeing with us. It's nice. we actually have received more positive replies wanting to meet us. One party which we went to, we met a couple which we seemed to hit it off with, Di was talking with the guy, he said but how to you get things going if you don't play with my wife. Di told this man who she actually found attractive, ok, you go suck Tony's dick and I'll eat your wife's pussy. Well, that ended the conversation. At a party Wife was taking to a women, the women told her that she would be Bi before the night was over. Did not work that way, we hooked up with a great couple that night.

[quote=funlyfriend][quote=Love2godwnontheladies]The thought seems to be that if you’re listed as bi you immediately want the dick. Not true in my case, just because I have sucked cock, doesn’t mean I want to suck yours. When I’m with a couple, everyone is straight until I’m asked not to be.[/quote]We clear all that up before we ever meet.[/quote]Agreed, I do as well. Could’ve stated that clearer.

[quote=Love2godwnontheladies]The thought seems to be that if you’re listed as bi you immediately want the dick. Not true in my case, just because I have sucked cock, doesn’t mean I want to suck yours. When I’m with a couple, everyone is straight until I’m asked not to be.[/quote]We clear all that up before we ever meet.

The thought seems to be that if you’re listed as bi you immediately want the dick. Not true in my case, just because I have sucked cock, doesn’t mean I want to suck yours. When I’m with a couple, everyone is straight until I’m asked not to be.

LMAO. Well, that ended the conversation didn't it!

[quote=hedo2forus]A prior post We posted: One party which we went to, we met a couple which we seemed to hit it off with, Di was talking with the guy, he said but how to you get things going, if you don't play with my wife. Di told this man who she actually found attractive, ok, you go suck Tony's dick and I'll eat your wife's pussy. Well, that ended the conversation.[/quote]send him over, he can suck my dick...LOL

A prior post We posted: One party which we went to, we met a couple which we seemed to hit it off with, Di was talking with the guy, he said but how to you get things going, if you don't play with my wife. Di told this man who she actually found attractive, ok, you go suck Tony's dick and I'll eat your wife's pussy. Well, that ended the conversation.

Why is there an assumption that a person who lists as bi or bi curious will be pursuing bi play?

This seems to be more of an issue with bi or bi curious men. There seems to be a feeling that non bi men believe that bi men are going to hitting on them.

If you meet with a couple and one person is not interested in bi, is it that hard to avoid bi play?

[quote=hedo2forus]azcouple, You're not alone with the way you think. We agree with what you're saying. With us, we rarely open up profiles of people who are Bi. We are interested in couples where both couples are Straight, we have plenty of straight couples out there. If people say they are Bi it their loss.[/quote]What have they lost?

Dude is 90. It’s nobody’s loss.

azcouple, You're not alone with the way you think. We agree with what you're saying. With us, we rarely open up profiles of people who are Bi. We are interested in couples where both couples are Straight, we have plenty of straight couples out there. If people say they are Bi it their loss.

To me the only thing that should be "required" is having fun. How that plays out between everyone involved so be it, bi or straight play

[quote=azcouple3127]I've recently changed our profile from bi-curious to straight for the wife. Too many people just assumed that play between the ladies was a forgone conclusion based on the tag. If there was a bi-situational tag we would have used that. I know this makes so many bi-furious ladies mad but she falls firmly into the pillow princess category.[/quote]Members/users have been asking for more relevant, up to date orientation terms for years. The requests have fallen on deaf ears, and even the refresh to swing dot com is still stuck with the same three outdated "straight/bi-curious/bi-sexual" choices.

I've recently changed our profile from bi-curious to straight for the wife. Too many people just assumed that play between the ladies was a forgone conclusion based on the tag. If there was a bi-situational tag we would have used that. I know this makes so many bi-furious ladies mad but she falls firmly into the pillow princess category.

[quote=mayhem8]Part of the problem with meeting people from online for Bi play is people don't read profiles. Some see something like "bi curious" and think that a woman is open to going down on another, which is a very bad assumption. Most experienced people know better, but it's still frustrating at times.

It's been mentioned a number of times about having more descriptive Bi categories but in the end, it still comes down to details that "should" be in a profile to define the exact parameters. The best one can do is to define those parameters and hope that a couple you're meeting has read those. Either that, or detail that in message exchanges beforehand.[/quote]I'm on several sites depending on what I'm looking for. My experience is that about 2% (subjective) of people read profiles. I try to be as detailed as possible in my profile but very seldom does anyone read it. When contacted it becomes very obvious real fast. I always ask if the person/couple has read my profile, they always say they did, but it's obvious they didn't

I think most people use the shotgun approach....they send out as many IM as they can, a lot of times cut and paste generic IM, in the hopes that at least one IM will generate results

Part of the problem with meeting people from online for Bi play is people don't read profiles. Some see something like "bi curious" and think that a woman is open to going down on another, which is a very bad assumption. Most experienced people know better, but it's still frustrating at times.

It's been mentioned a number of times about having more descriptive Bi categories but in the end, it still comes down to details that "should" be in a profile to define the exact parameters. The best one can do is to define those parameters and hope that a couple you're meeting has read those. Either that, or detail that in message exchanges beforehand.

As a Bi woman yes I prefer for the foreplay to be us girls enjoying each other and exploring each other's bodies. We have been to clubs where we swapped and not had bi play but I prefer to play with bi woman, just adds to the excitement for me. It's not for him it's for me he respects the ladies and the time they share together. We've soft swapped with other couples and love helping new swingers explore the lifestyle. If you read peoples profiles (hoping they are filled out) you should see what they like and what they are looking for. Don't hate because they are looking for a specific thing, they don that on you cause your straight, lol

There are a lot of profiles where the woman are listed as bi curious. Those are quite often, bi from the waist up and only support some touches or tit play. They are typically not "bi required". Our approach as a straight/straight couple is we only approach couples where g/g is not listed as a requirement. If they discuss it in the profile but it sounds like it is not a requirement, we will point it out when communication is initiated. It can go either way to be honest but the point being we don't automatically assume its required but also make sure we get that clarified immediately. If they list as Bi but do not discuss g/g in their profile, we do bring it up as a clarifier also. So communication makes sure we don't waste any more time where we aren't compatible. Based on our experience the 80% seems high for couples that will play straight/straight even when the lady is Bi. We'd guesstimate 1/3 to 1/2 of the 80% will play straight/straight when so inclined.

"Uni shoppers."

Not in my experience. I've found that unicorn hunters are in the minority, although it seems like more because most of them are unicorn hunters only because it's a least common denominator fantasy, which I find kinda gross.

A bigger group is comprised of couples with lifestyle bi women who aren't really bi. They're either into g/g because their guy is turned on by it or it's some weird kind of peer pressure that they're mostly okay with, even if not super enthusiastic about actual sex with another woman.

I'm bi and am not even a little attracted to straight women, so straight swaps are fine with me.

“ As a rough guess, about 80% of online couples have a bi women, and some % of those are the worst, meaning they are only in the LS to cater to the male half of the couple.”

Uni shoppers.

We seek other couples to play with, when it happens it's nice. After being in the lifestyle for years we are at a point that we will play separate with both of our approval of course. On our last few trips to Hedo It has happened a few times.

This is probably a negative way of looking at it, but it's because we've seen couples that are in the LS only to cater to the male half. In other words, it's OK if the male half plays with other women but not OK if the woman wants to play with other men.

That is fine if the woman truely does not want to play with other men, but sadly that is not always the case. We have no use for couples like that, and they certainly don't do well at LS parties where couples are expecting to play with other couples or parties that allow SMs.

Though we are not bi, we do attend bi friendly parties and we find that the action at those tends to start early and happen often compared to parties that are not bi friendly.

All of this seems to track when it comes to meeting people online. The only way it's going to work for straight couples is to play as a couple. Both the husband and wife participate.

As a rough guess, about 80% of online couples have a bi women, and some % of those are the worst, meaning they are only in the LS to cater to the male half of the couple.

Yep, same here. We have much more success when we avoid reaching out to couples with a bi woman. Also, in our experience, the times we’ve played with a couple with a bi woman, the woman wasn’t super into my husband, and seemed more focused on me, or the husband was super pushy to me saying stuff like “are you sure you don’t want to touch her boobs.?”

We have found that by looking for and reaching out to straight couples only that we hookup a lot more often. We rarely even open up and look at a profile that says Bi, we find that it's a mostly waste of time. We have had couples reach out to us where the female is Bi, and once we chat for a while they let us know that Bi play isn't necessary for them all the time. The straight couples are hooking up like crazy. as long as they only seek other straight couples.