Full Swapping in separate rooms

Yes. The post game highlights are awesome!!! I usually have my cock in her before she finishes the story. Lol

We have loved being in the same room, same bed even. We have found it really hot to be able to reach over, hold a hand, share a kiss, a caress, a touch while with a play partner.

We have recently agreed we'd love to try separate rooms so that we could focus on our play partners, then tell each other about our experiences when we re-connect with each other.

Upon reading, we think TomandDiane have the best idea: Round one in separate rooms, Round two together.

So glad the both bi couple didn't have to say the obvious. Thanks for the last three responses

@2outdoors - We are a couple that will do either same or separate room play. We do enjoy seeing each other but found it really hot when we can only hear each other. I hadn't really thought about it but when we were same room only it may have been partly due to safety/trust issues, but as with many couples, we've evolved a bit and changed as we did.

We have not ever done completely separate dates. I won't say we never will, but for now, that is beyond our boundaries. The imagination is a wonderful thing though and we never realized how vivid it could be from hearing your partner having fun and imagining what they are doing. That can at times be even more erotic than being there and watching. Not everyone has or makes full use of their imagination though.

@esperenza - You already understand that people do what works for them. Saying that you personally don't get it after people have posted their reasons here over and over is another way of saying that you don't accept them. That can easily be taken as a dig against them while coming across as saying your way is the right way. It's as much "how" you're saying it as "what" you're saying.

No doubt It may be a trust issue for some couples who insist on same room but the other reasons may apply as well. We're fine with same or separate rooms. Both have their good points. It's hot to hear your spouse having a good time in the next room as well as seeing everything in the same room. We often play separate room for the 1st round then enjoy same room or bed fun for round 2. Best of both worlds! ;-)

Just another thread discussing the different preferences people have in the Swing Life Style. Why do you...? Why don't you...? I don't do this... you don't do that. Please explain to me your reasoning so I can disagree directly to you.

Come on people just accept that we as humans are all different from each other in some way or another and enjoy the variety.

We can explain our preferences until we're blue in the face …(or in my case the entire body)… but generally if someone is of a different opinion they will only hear what they want to hear.

Now for what might be deemed a "contraversial" comment.
I believe that most couples that INSIST on same room sex only are doing so due to some form of trust issues. Sure they will claim its a safety measure, or a turn on or whatever, but I believe deep down it's simply a trust issue.

Separate rooms for us it is. We enjoy sex with the person we are with, and the cuddle time after is great. We do not necessarily need to be watching each other, And yes performance might be an issue, privacy world well for us. We however will do same room if we need to get a hotel room, or if at a house party. To each his or her own....

Nothing to understand esperanza. You said it yourself. You do what turns you on. As I've said in the past. I don't care for same room sex. It's distracting, but I'm not one thats into watching others have sex. "voyeurism" so maybe that's why. Yes I do suppose it's like a hall pass but generally at a party or similar situation it's like the couple gets to cash in that hall pass at the same time. Seems to make it a lot more palatable for many couples.

We will do same room play for few reasons. 1. Safety being one of them, 2. We love watching each other, 3. We've come across where the other male half was not either big enough her or just was simply not doing it, so someway some how I will find a way to make my way to her and either make a MFM 3some out if it or let the other female to lets do something to get my wife going. We will only do separate rooms when we host at our place with a long term couple from time to time, but several times throughout the night end up in same room. Now once everyone is comfortable with each other, separate rooms are fun for all.

Another thing we came across is some males can't perform or lose their focus of what's in front of them because they are paying mind to what I'm doing or what we're saying and this has happened one too many times.

This is an interesting topic and we read many of the comments on this subject. My finance are on our third relationship and have been in the lifestyle with our previous spouses. WE are currently both widows so we are in a somewhat open relationship. We usually swing as a couple but since we are still in a profession that requires the both of us being separated for a week or two at a time. If she is out with her girl friends and is hit on by a gentlemen, she is free to go out with him. Verse versa, I am open to find someone else. This goes to the point whether separate or same rooms. I prefer separate at the start so I can can focus on my new partner and she does as well. However, we like to finish in the same room. So, it all depends on your current relationship.

Definitely a different strokes kind of thing. We talked with a couple recently that said they were working UP to same room play. We always looked at separate room play as something we had to work UP to. We have done and like both now but took us a while to get to the separate room play. We still do not do totally separate dates though as the separate room play has everything to do with the happy sounds the Mrs makes and being close enough to hear those.

Personally, I LOVE when the Mrs is "moaning her damn fool head off". One couple we know picked up on that and the woman I was with told her hubby to fuck my wife better so she would get more of the same. Too funny, but true for us.

I prefer separate rooms. Tracy doesn't really care one way or the other. I think it's to distracting to concentrate on the woman I'm with at the moment when Tracy's in the next bed moaning her fool head off while getting pounded by the other guy. If she hooks up with a sm at a party I usually don't ever go back to the room with them. Watching is boring to me.

WildOnes,
Since you like separate rooms, do you ever play completely separated, as in hall passes. I’m thinking that if the point for you (and everyone else who enjoys separate rooms) is to concentrate on your temporary lover, why not simply go out on separate dates?

Mrs.H and I do play open marriage style when we are traveling separately, but when the party is with another couple, we prefer the sights and sounds of everyone in the same room.

We enjoy separate rooms for the same reason most do. We prefer to be with the partner, and give all out attention to them. We enjoy the opportunity to discuss it with our partners after and find new ways to have fun. NO way will we ever be in the same bed let alone the same room. My wife does not want to watch me no do I want to watch her. This could all change at some point or some variation but for now, same room, not to mention bareback........

When we swap for the 1st time we prefer sepatate rooms. We get so tied up watching each other we tend to forget who we are with. After that the same room so we can see our partners happy and expand on our playing.

Always a time and a place for everything...Preference I guess

We're ok with either. Pros and cons for both. It really depends on the mood, the people, and the place for us.

Joey that is so much part of the fun of swinging and sex with other people. Talking about it afterwards with you other half.

chimera66, We totally agree. You stated it so well.

We have never tried separate room full swap but I feel like that would be something I might enjoy. Especially talking about all the details later on.

We usually start with soft stuff and foreplay in the same room, but separate rooms for the "coup de grace." We found that we can't concentrate on the swinging partner to the extent we should, if our other half is nearby. We think you should give your full attention to your swinging playmate. Frankly, we think same bed stuff often turns out to be rather juvenile - a kind of spectator sport instead of full bore, all steam ahead, balls to the wall - sex.

Every couple that we are screening for our group has to be ok with separate rooms. We want very secure couples that can split up at a party and both just enjoy themselves without having to worry about the approval of their other half.

I think that's a rather rhetorical question lol.
Sometimes the party scene sounds fun, just not our scene.

Last party we where at was in a suite with around ten couples. The guy who put on the party took the Mrs off to one of the rooms and closed the door.

The rest of us all had to fuck on two side by side queen beds.

The question still is is who had more fun. The two of them or the 16 of us.