Full Swapping in separate rooms

less chance of drama with separate rooms & all seem to relax and have more fun .

Seperate rooms is what we both have a preference for, but we have no issues with the same room either.

We have become far more adaptable than we were in the beginning where this and many other things are concerned.

The only thing that will be a deal stopper for me is the case where a couple states up front that they also require that we all be in the same bed. It's not my thing.

In fact, neither of us are usually huge fans of even a 3-some...male or female.

We know that this is very popular in the LS, we've both had our share of experiences in all of the above, and we may very well have more. It's just not what we are specifically after at this point.

Tramp

Separate room is our favorite it allows us to better concentrate on our partners without any distractions and for each cpl to go at their own pace.

We prefer it as it allows us to really focus on the new partner.
That and sharing all the juicy details afterwards! So much fun!

Over the years, we have played extensively in both settings. Playing within sight of each other provides the obvious voyeurism thrill. Playing separately provides the thrill of a triggered imagination while sharing the details of the separate encounters. We find that each setting provides a generally equal amount of thrill.

"Most find as they go on in the Lifestyle & your comfort level increases, you may do/try things you thought you wouldn't. :D"

Yes. Nobody stays the same if they keep doing this over an extended period. It works both ways. You try things and like things you never thought you would when you started, and also, you stop doing things you don't like anymore.

Most find as they go on in the Lifestyle & your comfort level increases, you may do/try things you thought you wouldn't. :D

Though we were surprised a bit, we quickly grew to prefer seperate rooms. Thpugh we are totally flexible on that, the separate room is what we often like.

Tramp

We're fine with either. There are advantages to both, however sometimes it can be distracting if the other guy is more focused on watching his wife & doesn't properly take care of his playmate or has performance issues.

Separate rooms would be fine for us, but we would really need to feel comfortable and have a level of trust with the other couple (especially the guy).

Separate rooms all the way. Mrs want the mans attention focused on her....

This is going to be the next level Lady and I have to work out.
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The dynamics are changing for us (after several yrs) as Lady is wanting to move more towards full swap.

This is presenting a challenge for us due to a few different aspects of our personalities where same room is concerned.

It'll be interesting to see how we figure this out.

Tramp

We have always done separate rooms -- well, check that; SHE has always done separate rooms; she's an Aries and doesn't like to mix her friends or her friends and her husband. I've been known to do 3-somes, 4-somes, Moresomes, and Moshe Pits, but only as a lark. Generally, like her, I prefer to give more full attention to one lady at a time, and her full attention to me. But as has been said here many times, "to each his/her own.

Hmmm...we really like both depending on the situation. Michelle is EXTREMELY bisexual which was the primary reason we entered the lifestyle, so if she's going to have her girl-time it's necessary to at least BEGIN in the same room, area, etc. With that said, we've moved forward to same room, separate room, and occasionally separate place playing simply because we really see no need to limit our fun. We love seeing one another with a different partner, but if we're apart for awhile, we relive the experience later while we're reconnecting. We've found that occasionally it can be a bit too crowded with four or six people on a queen-sized bed, so we can have more fun by moving to a different room. Still, either of us have been known to take a small breather, and just sit back and watch the festivities unfold if we're in the same room. It's amazing to see her going down on a guy while his partner is tonguing HER. There are just too many pro's to miss out on to not be flexible. Especially when we have some wonderful playmates who insist on same room, while others feel more comfortable apart. We don't want to miss out on either!

We like most of what Andrew doesn't (we respect everyone's opinion, this is not a slam). Last week at Club O we met a great couple from the UK. All 4 in the same bed. It was great. We could reach our wives any time we wanted to. I could watch him with my wife, and he the same. My wife's legs rubbing against mine, as she was riding him, and me being able to squeeze her ass as she rides up and down. He was doing the same to his wife. Just as his wife was about to cum he changed position and deeply kissed her. His cock in my wife, and his tongue is his wife's mouth. She came so hard!!! But that what WE prefer.

We prefer separate rooms and find that it is great distraction to do same room. We do like the rooms to be within shouting distance for safety reasons. But we must know the couple and trust them or we don't climb into bed with them anyway. Hubby has a problem getting it up when we are same room. Performance anxiety or whatever, for us it is separate room. I am not into watching. I want the full attention of whoever I am with and I won't get it if we are in the same room.

Annie

There are 2 couples we see semi-regularly who insist on same room. We made the exception for them because we like them so much, and they aren't as weird about it as some other same room couples. Still, every time we're with them I remember all the things I don't like about it. I don't like having people fucking right next to me, so close that the other man and I keep rubbing legs together. I don't like having the sounds of other people fucking that close to me. I don't like feeling the mattress move under me because of what another guy is doing, it totally blows my rhythm. Yes, I know, I'm a freak, even among swingers. None of that is hot, or sexy, or a turn on to me. Been there done that, didn't like it. Still doing it, and still don't like it.

"Rabbit I can't count how many times we have been cock blocked at a club by a bi lady. We are talking to a couple and things are going well and bam here comes Lucy from another couple hitting on the lady of the couple we are talking to and then end of story. We run into a lot of couples that want to hit on the Mrs and treat the man like a leper. We have played with couples where the other lady is bi, but it is a deterrent to have a straight lady in the lifestyle. I guess the only situation worse would be a bi guy with a straight lady."

Robin is bi, and we've had that brand of cock-blocking happen to us too. That said, it's been our experience that the biwomen issue doesn't matter all that much. Robin is bi, but never makes the first move on any other woman, though she'll respond if the other woman is someone she's attracted to and starts it. In most of our encounters, even when both women in a couple swap are allegedly bi, they might as well have both been straight because none of that happened.

Rabbit I can't count how many times we have been cock blocked at a club by a bi lady. We are talking to a couple and things are going well and bam here comes Lucy from another couple hitting on the lady of the couple we are talking to and then end of story. We run into a lot of couples that want to hit on the Mrs and treat the man like a leper. We have played with couples where the other lady is bi, but it is a deterrent to have a straight lady in the lifestyle. I guess the only situation worse would be a bi guy with a straight lady.

"There is also the fact that the swinging world is dominated by couples with bi women."

Can't the Bi women control themselves? I'm bi and have had same bed, full swap sex where the woman was straight and have always managed to keep my hands to myself.

Of course I've had far more "straight" woman that would make the first move on me since I wasn't going to because they were "straight". In those instances I either back off or proceed with caution because I can't be sure if it's really me they want or if it's the husband pressuring them or maybe they had too much to drink.

~rabbit~

We like separate room play. All in the same bed may sound like fun, but there can be nervousness, lack of space especially on a queen bed and god forbid on a full. There is also the fact that the swinging world is dominated by couples with bi women. We are a straight couple that likes the variety and attention you get from playing with someone new in a separate room where you can have privacy. That's after we know someone and know one party is not going to get the shaft (pun intended).

We have yet to play with another couple, and we have discussed full swap and would like to do separate rooms with a hosting couple if there are any interested in our profile please hit us up and let's see if the feeling is mutual
Jay & Mill

We do not do separate beds, or rooms, we enjoy seeing and hearing each other, if we were going to do separate rooms, we would just meet one on one.

We're fine with either. We usually prefer separate rooms the first time we play with another couple. Gives you a chance to get to know your new playmate without the distraction. We often have a second round of play after a short break & then play in the same room or same bed. Best of both worlds! ;-)

"We understand that it's not for everyone. There are some who are insecure about it."

I suppose the counter argument to your generalization is people who prefer separate room play are too insecure to see their partner with another so they choose to be in another room.

For us it has absolutely nothing to do with insecurity, we simply prefer enjoying the sights and sounds of each other enjoying another. No we don't stare at each other as if the other couple are sex toys. We talk, laugh, smile and encourage the other couple to enjoy the sights and sounds as well.

To each their own indeed.

~samp