Bi play required (WTF)

Usually if people have a laundry list of requirements or want you to jump through hoops in order to meet they normally aren't really interested in meeting

I play with bi couples....I play with straight couples. I list as bi, but that's what it means. I can go either way the welcoming couple decides and I oblige them with their choice....

"Hetero-erasure"???? Have you lost your mind? This world and this community is all about heteronormatives. This world is built for and around you. You are so full of shit.

At least your honest.

We are the same. If both straight we don't bother checking out their profile. Unless the wife has hot pic the we perve.

If your not looking for Bi play then why say you are? We think your limiting yourself from contacts. We tend to not even look at profiles where it says Bi. Bi curious yes , but not bi.

The heteronormative entitlement is off the charts. As usual.

Mayhem, I think we're very much on the same page regarding your points.

We're quite casual, flexible, go-with-the-flow types who like to go into an encounter with no expectations and let things happen organically. That's why we we tend to shy away from profiles with a lot of rules and requirements. We have enough of those in our everyday vanilla lives.

MandC, another way we look at it is that we want to get together and enjoy people's company, not just have sex with them and leave. We are friends with a couple we decided to meet and were a little hesitant to meet that first time, because they made it very clear upfront that they wanted to play.

Turns out, they were actually very social and things were fine and we are still friends years later. They just had 2 bad incidents prior to us. The last one, people came, only wanted to talk, and then didn't leave till after midnight.

While we do have LS friends that are just friends, like most, we are generally here to find nice people to play with, with a strong preference for FWBs.

You can't block 888 quick enough...Forgot the clown was even still on..

We tend to shy away from profiles/people that say any type of play is "required".

Our preference is "Desired"..........not "Required"

We play straight up full swap 99% of the time. Diane satisfied her Bi curiosity when we first started. She doesn't initiate Bi play. If the other lady makes advances, depending on chemistry, she may respond but we make it clear that full swap is the main event for us.

Bi-erasure in the LS, Esperanza? I really beg to differ. From my understanding of this term, it’s when people say you must not be bi because you have a husband, or you may enjoy playing with just another man one night, and then just another woman a different night. In other words, if you are bi, you should have the right to play with whomever you want, whenever you want. That no one defines who you must play with to call yourself bi. We’ve played with multiple couples with a bi woman that just played with Luke, and she had a great time. It was her choice. Does that make her straight? Of course not! She has the freedom to play with a man when she wants to, just like you aren’t straight just because you have a male partner.

And how about Hetero-erasure for straight women in this LS? People that tell a straight woman that she must not be straight because she’s ok with (fill in any blank). Or putting pressure on a straight woman to play with the other woman when it was made clear beforehand her boundaries? This is rampant. Frankly, people need to stop being judgmental of other people’s choices and how they choose to define their sexual identity.

-Kira

Bi-erasure is alive and kicking in the swinging community. Instead of owning it, you attack the people who point it out. Disgusting.

“ and 888 have you blocked us??? we never check who has blocked us!”

If you posted in these forums for more than, say...72 hrs., there’s about a 99.888% chance that he has. (I’ve worked out the math.)

Tramp

I think that’s pretty clear

My wife isn't interested in women who aren't interested in women. Why is that so difficult for you to grasp?

This entire site is heteronormative and heterocentric. I don't get what your issue is.

The nightmare is for people who are actually bisexual, and are used by people in this community to fulfill their fucked up fetish fantasies.

Fuck yeah, rustic.

Esperanza911 spouting off again? What is it this time, bug him that much.

Well said rustic

Esperanza911 we have seen no one that says there is a problem with that. What most are saying is that bisexual means into both the same and opposite sexes. For most that means they like having sex with men and/or women if they are attracted to them at the time. It does not mean every encounter has to involve sex with men and women at the same time though as they may only be attracted to one or the other at that point in time. There are times when someone who is bisexual may only be attracted to half the couple and that is okay as long as everyone involved is okay with it which seems to be more the norm. The problem is when say a bisexual female only interested in the other woman leads a couple on about everyone being involved. Worse yet are the bisexual women who have zero interest in the male and know the female is straight or at least not interested yet insist on girl on girl play. BTW the same thing can be said about a bisexual male (usually they are more in the closet until in the bedroom) only wanting to play with the other guy. I cannot understand how you are so against bisexuality being fluid based on the situation and moment for most people.

BTW you do realize you are advocating for strict bisexual females all must play play on a thread in a "Straight Couples" forum that originally was about them being straight having a problem with so many couple requiring Bi play between the females when they are clear about not being interested in that. Not every couple with a bisexual partner have to have or even want the same sex interactions in the bedroom at all times. In fact just like I am straight and not every woman appeals to me someone who is bisexual does not find everyone of the same or opposite sex appealing. Being in the lifestyle is all about being comfortable and being attracted. Who are you to say what someone else chooses to do is wrong and it has to be your way only? Now it does have to be your way for you but you are only one couple out of a large number who do not play with the same rules and that is okay. The problem is when others know the rules you (collective you) play by and then try to get around them or change them. It is the same as having a condom rule then someone refusing to wear one when you get into the bedroom.

There’s nothing “required “ for us. That’s why we have that discussion with potential playmates before the bed is even considered. If it changes once we get to the bed then we get up and we would leave. It’s really simple actually.

SB

“ and 888 have you blocked us??? we never check who has blocked us!”

Heck no! No need to check neither. :-)

~Allen

When someone blocks you, you can no longer see their posts. Either this couple deleted them all or they blocked me.

The other way you can tell is if a person that blocked you was the last post in a thread, you see their profile name but it is in much smaller text than any of the others.Just noticed that to be the case here.