choking

Neither of us have ever done it, yet.

I personally love it ( on the receiving end)and I’m still alive

That was one thing we never really got into. Seems too dangerous to us.

We definitely have done it before. Me with her or when she rides me, she will choke me also. Just a light fun we do from time to time, but nothing aggressive. We do have a kink streak to us.

Choking is not practicing murder... If the person knows what they are doing. Lots of women like it.. there are ways to safely choke. If its a new partner to a woman, then putting a hand on the throat withour the pressure is an option as well.

Perfect....Example of why you should never, ever, choke a woman or anyone, unless you’re trying to kill them. It’s not like practicing your golf swing; it’s practicing murder.

This isn’t sex, and is not a demonstration of affection. It is a violent demonstration of a man’s power over a helpless woman. It’s only a step away from killing, or murdering her. Wake Up! Again, it is a violent act, and the practice is foolish and life-threatening. I say, don’t do it. Don’t ever do it.

Ladies, don’t allow anyone to do this to you. Your life is hanging in balance.

SLO

Firstly There are two ways to do it, well three if you combine the other two. Restricting a persons breathing either by Burping them, Restricting their throat, or covering the mouth. It is very important to not fully restrict breathing.
Then there is Choking someone out, Restricting blood flow to the brain. typically very safe, then combining the two.
It should be done with her knowing first. Usually with a whisper into the ear. I have used my hands, my arms and a belt. I just warn you. Right before she eye rolls, be prepared to get soaked. If she is retaining urine, Nope, not any longer. If she was edged well, that is breaking loose too. And just so that you know, she will be limp like over cooked spaghettis, yes, including her Vejaja. Just be sure to awaken her within ten seconds or so. If you are choking her out, do it from either the standing position or with her belly down. If you'd like, awaken her while you are in her. Just not in her ass. That would give you a bit of a shock and probably hurt your weewee. Take that part as advice knowing that the writer has already suffered that. You'd be surprised to discover most women will cum as they Come too! Yep, Great Double entendre with pun intended while going at it.

A safe way to control breath is with your hand over the mouth and pinching the nose between your thumb and forefinger. When they begin to struggle for breath you can give them little bits of air as needed. I use throat play for sensation and hand on mouth for breath play. Both fun.

Depends on the situation

Depends on the situation

For those wanting more info on choking go to youtube and type in sexplanations erotic choking. She gives a fair assessment and data on the issue.

Thank you Molly and mayhem for your details and technical responses

Molly I appreciate how you explained the intricacies of choking and the trachea and how to work around that problem.

Mayhem, I appreciate how you describe the the different ways of pulling hair and the effect that each way has on the sub.

I look forward to reading your responses to the new post I put up this morning on learning to be a Dom.

“hinging her on the precipice of death”

that’s never what it’s about

As I said before, I don’t think choking is a good idea at all. I don’t think it is really part of any sexual interaction, but instead, near-deadly domination or worse.

I believe it to be a dangerous, creepy practice, catching a helpless (usually) woman at her most vulnerable moments and hinging her on the precipice of death.

When we first met, she was not a fan of anything being around her neck, and certainly not choking. However, over the years, she talked about wanting to experiment, especially during doggy. Now, she loves it!

This is a part of our D/s relationship and always has been. Obviously (read that OBVIOUSLY) we're not serious, and that, I think, is what's most important. Sometimes, people in the BDSM community get a little carried away with definitions, consent, performance, and rules, when there's a reason it's called "play". And if it's play, then let's be playful. Amy likes to feel completely helpless, and this helps her achieve that goal. It also helps her to feel controlled, so that she is able to overcome anything that might stand in the way of her complete surrender. Of course that leads to orgasm after orgasm. Of course I don't squeeze hard enough to cause problems. Of course I don't ever put her in a position to get hurt. Of course consent is not an issue. It's play, people. Of course it's about the orgasms she gets when helpless. Of course it's not about hurting her, because she's not a masochist. I also have this enormous knife that I use from time-to-time, and of course, I'm very careful when teasing her with the thing.

I think if we spent more time discussing pleasureful aspects of BDSM, we'd get a lot further than the constant dwelling on the negative "what ifs". All is not as it appears, and I wouldn't trade what I have for anybody else. We just love to role play, but we're always cognizant of the reality that it is just that - play.

With all the stuff we are into this is one thing we are not. Too dangerous particularly with others.

Short answer?

You didn’t know her.

No bueno!

Since this topic is specifically about holing, it is a favorite of ours. As far as with other couples, it's important to discuss boundaries up front. Especially boundaries that may not be obvious. Choking is pretty much an obvious boundary that should be discussed.

I was at one event with a couple getting friendly with us and the girl leaned over to kiss me. We kissed for about 2 seconds, she stops and whispers to her partner. They turn and leave without another word. So what was it? Didn't like my kiss? Bad breath?

I later contacted her and asked. The response was.....you bit my lip. You crossed a boundary and I determined you were too risky to play with. Well,I might have but in my book it was a nibble and it's never been an issue in the past with ANY girl. The big issue was, how did I know it was a boundary if you didn't discuss it beforehand? Why wasn't it just a pause in kissing with a comment to me....no biting lips? etc.

Communication is key. Don't assume your partner is a mind reader and know what your boundaries are.

You know, in swinging, you are often dealing with someone you don’t know.

An unstable person could get his hands around your throat and decide to not let go. Enough said, I guess. I don’t like the practice at all, and I don’t like to see it done, either.

SLO

I realize a lot of people enjoy this. I personally don't. I was attacked sexually once and for me it is an immediate turn off. If someone else enjoys it, it doesn't bother me. But if a man puts his hands around my neck, we are immediately done. I usually make a point of telling my partners this, so they and I aren't surprised. I've had a few men try anyway, and they never get a second chance with me.

I've started to really enjoy being chocked by my Bulls! I'll take their hand and place it on my throat as things are getting heated. I find it exhilarating and adds a feeling of being out of control/erotic. It adds to my build of an orgasm and done at the right time sends me over the top! One of my Bulls takes it very seriously and uses a VERY firm grip on my throat when I'm on top of him. Sometimes it scares me a bit how firm his grip is, but I've really enjoyed it, too!!

J

The choking I endure is from a male pushing his cock deeper into my vagina throat if he enjoys using me that way

hotluvrs. Klingon sort of way..love it!!!!!!!!! indeed. May the Force be with you (wrong movie)

I would not want to see anyone else with their hands on my wife's neck. I barely trust myself to do it, no way I'm going to trust anyone else.

I was introduced to it by my wife. She was on her back. she reached up and put her hand under my jaw and pressed. It was very erotic, in a Klingon sort of way.