Are we unknowling on others' Friends Lists?

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Just block him ms molly. He should go away

A list is just a list. How someone uses it is up to them and it really matters not at all if it makes sense to me or anyone else other than them.

I don't know if it's unknowing or not, but there's a post on my wall from someone whose friend request I'm ignoring, which isn't exactly making me happy. It's not a geographic thing, since he's hundreds of miles away.

For us, we use Favorites (formerly Friends) to remember profiles that catch our eye, and who are in areas we know we will be traveling to in the future.

So using Favorites as a "No" list doesn't work for us. I wish we could see Notes when we use the Flyover, which would accomplish a similar thing.

I think using the "friends" list as your no list makes it easier. We don't have a "no list" feature and if you're anything like me, you forget/delete messages. Having a no list saves you time from gping to their profile again. (Even then, I don't always remember) I don't use it in general, nor do i tend to use the facebook'esque feature for friends or the "wall" which right now is slow and mostly emty. (Yay small town!)

Layman terms, you look at profiles and friend those you might click with, now you have a group of possible friends. You post on your wall and only your friends see it.
So the old group section is the next to get removed I take it.
Ohhh unless your a free member on the app then everyone one can see

using the former "friends" feature to indicate/mark people you "DON'T" want to meet is like going to a gay bar trying to pick up a straight guy....

<p>"<span style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Why would &ldquo;some people&rdquo; use a &ldquo;friends&rdquo; list for people they don&rsquo;t want to meet, when there&rsquo;s a &ldquo;block&rdquo; option?"</span></p>

<p><span style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">I have no idea why anyone would do that, but several people have told me that is what they used it for. Was just pointing out that people had used it for other reasons than its intended purpose.</span></p>

<p><a href="https://staging.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=38773507">lcmim</a>,</p>

<p>When you friend someone with the new friend feature. it sends them a friend request and they will have the option to accept or deny it. If they accept it, you both will be on each others Friends list. The new wall feature has the Friends only option that allows you to make posts on the wall that only your Friends will see.</p>

The swinglifestyle needs a complete redo. All theories should lend themselves to an example so simple that a 5yo child can use it. Albert Einstein.

Mr. sls_WayneC,

Why would “some people” use a “friends” list for people they don’t want to meet, when there’s a “block” option?

We use the Favorites (old friends list) for the opposite, if we checked out a profile and it seemed interesting I would "friend" it as a place keeper so we could go back at a later time and check them out together (I, Max, do most of the networking here) So now I "favorite" profiles for further examination, and "friend" those we have met or chatted with.

I do want to know if everyone can see our friends list now or is it still private for our viewing only? Guess I could ask one of our friends but the question needs to be asked. M&C

"Some people were using it as a list of people they don't want to meet,"

We used Friends list as a list of people we were not interested in

If we were not interested we gave them an "X" where the stars for their profile go.

That way if they showed up on WVM we would know not to waste time.

We could also see, when SLS was more pleasant to use, if we had emailed

Next question in which I will totally expose myself as a computer and app illiterate troglodyte.
What exactly does "Friending" someone do on this site and app now?

Does it also grant access to any galleries or is that still a stand separate function as it always has been?

<p>I have no reason to believe that they will be getting rid of the old "friends" list. Some people were using it as a list of people they don't want to meet, since it was just a list, so we should be keeping that as it is. That is also why we did not auto-migrate the old list to the new list.</p>

Wayne, the friends feature as currently set up does not give us much information, so if you can add a "flyover" with notes and stuff that would be great. And please, please, please, before the development team decides to delete our "favorites" (which was out old friends page) please give us a week's notice so we have time to screen shot everything for future reference. M&C

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=62104832">Maximilian_Claire</a>,</p>

<p>Thank you for your polite message with feedback. We do listen to people. We will be making a change to the wall feature to make it less obtrusive. The Friends feature is a standard feature that almost every social/personal site has in one form or another. You can decline any Friend requests that you do not want or just ignore the feature all together. </p>

"A non swinger telling real swingers what "we want".. now thats funny! "

I just thought the same thing

"Just recieved an unsolicited friend request from someone we have never talked to on here, nor ever met out."

"That's the whole point of it. This is why you are here. Every friend is someone you have never talked to or met until you do talk to them or meet them."

OK Bass Ackwards thinking there ... Somebody is not a "friend" by just sending a friend request. Somebody is a friend, from messaging and chatting through the messaging system. You dont send a friend request and then chat ... you chat first and then becomes friends.

Hold On... "CUE Wayne".. the only CS agent who reply's.. LOL !

A non swinger telling real swingers what "we want".. now thats funny!

Sls_WayneC
the sad thing is you completely missed the point our issue is not with your wall our issue is with a wall that doesn't function correctly that doesn't allow filtering that doesn't allow blocking of unsolicited hellos that doesn't allow it to be removed. Most of us have a hard enough time keeping up with our friends on here now you want us to try to find our friends thru the clutter? Thru the couple with no pictures , the single guy that cant complete a sentence and the young couple thats half our age? really?

Your inability to comprehend peoples frustration with your broken half baked attempt at a feature is literally jaw-dropping.

Wayne, Thanks for chiming in. We are all busy people with busy lives so when it comes to the lifestyle we have limited amount of time to weed through potential playmates, we really need to target our attention to those that fit our likes and even then it's no guarantee things will go as planned. If we get unsolicited contacts from profiles without pictures open we realize they did not even bother looking at our profile, which clearly states when contacting us please have a picture or two open. Swinging is a very visual activity and while we can't all be Barbies and Kens, we want you to at least have all your teeth when you smile. Likewise, we don't have the time to sit on chat rooms for hours. We are honestly a little tired of all the tire kickers on the site just looking at pictures or looking to "chat" but not willing to make the effort for the "last mile" of actually meeting in person. Again, we like to meet people our ages +/- who are looking to "really" get together for at the very least a drink, maybe dinner and share conversation to see if there is a connection. Some people may get their rocks off just chatting and sending endless texts and that's fine, more power to them, but that's not us, we like to really meet other couples, with no pressure, no expectations, just a good time. Sometimes we end up in the sheets, most times we don't, but we can tell you with 100% certainty if we don't shag, it wasn't for lack of effort on our part. All we ask of management is to listen to our suggestions and give us what we desire in a lifestyle site - a way to efficiently communicate with current and potential lifestyle friends glitch-free, nothing more, nothing less. M&C

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Just recieved an unsolicited friend request from someone we have never talked to on here, nor ever met out."</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">That's the whole point of it. This is why you are here. Every friend is someone you have never talked to or met until you do talk to them or meet them. </span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Everyone posting in the forums combined do not even represent one half of one percent of our membership. Like-minded people tend to use online forums, so it is logical that the complaints posted in the forums will all be similar. If you go into our chat-rooms, there is generally a whole different set of members using that feature and their viewpoints on the site will be similar but may be very different from the forum posters. </span></p>