Reading Profiles!!

Wasn't sure if I should put this here or in the HT/BF topic, but on another site I got only Hot Listings from 2 SMs today. No other contact attempted. My last blog entry on that site was -

Guys, not for nothing, but if you really want to make an impression, just clicking on Hotlist is not the way to do that. My last 24 Hotlistings were from SMs, and I didn't respond to any of them. A direct email is likely your best chance. It does NOT have to be a book either. Simply read our profile, and then commenting with something about that more than, "She's hot" will make you stand out from 99% of the guys here. Do that with a G-rated picture of you or in your profile (i.e. NOT a dick pic) and now you're in 99.5% territory. Reading a profile or a blog shows that you have a real interest in who we are as a couple, and what we're looking for. Don't worry, we know this is not all about us either. Our goal is always for everyone to have fun. Also, please be local. If you're 3 states away...

Seems that more new LS people are part of the "swipe left or right" crowd, which involves making a decision based solely on pictures only. Perhaps this will also increase the # of people looking for NSA sex here, which I'm guessing this crowd is more likely to be looking for?

Plenty of couples are idiots.

Easier to weed them out.

We enjoy reading everyone’s profiles especially well written ones it tells you a lot about who they are and if they are real.

@BKC - "Listening is an important virtue I like"

Agree. Sadly, so many don't want to "listen", only to "tell". I blame it in part on the "look at me, me, me" nature of social media which has bled over into the rest of their life.

Such a waste of time telling people no when it is so obvious they have not read your profile, or worse cannot comprehend what you wrote. I spent a good amount of time to word my profile to be clear what I am interested in and what I am not. Guys mostly believe they are the exception, and I will forgo all my reasons just for them.
Listening is an important virtue I like, for those that don’t, your just blocked.

I do believe this is the most enjoyable thread I have yet read on SLS, you ladies have really made me laugh, thank you for speaking out. I do not understand the dominance issue. I have no desire to be humiliated physically or verbally, although I have had a more than one woman contact me asking if I would be interested in being dominated by her and I do not have any desire to mistreat any woman, she deserves respect. I used to have a lady friend in Phoenix that was totally into being dominated by a man.. even put in a cage, we had some interesting conversations but it still left me wondering why someone would willing desire to so degraded.

Almost as bad are the ones that read into your profile what they want to see/hear. Have had a couple of couples upset because somehow they got that the Mrs is into girl on girl, and she's not.

Perhaps they just looked at the toggles and didn't bother actually reading. In at least one case though they had picked out and mentioned a detail in our profile.

'Man cold x 100' oh that's fucking hilarious!

"He can sit in the cage and I’ll take a nap."

In my experience, women who want to submit just want to be restrained and made to orgasm until they're a few orgasms past done. It's easy, so long as you have some stamina. Guys? Oh, holy hell. It's like a man cold x100. Even if you restrain and dominate to their exact specifications, they're still whining for something else. So, a cage, lacking soundproofing, would not let you nap.

“I only ever hear from men who want me to dominate them.”

Oh fuck that.

I’m up at 4:30 very day. I run. I work my ass off. I come home and cook dinner and the. I’m supposed to dominate some guy. Yeah. He can sit in the cage and I’ll take a nap.

I have a narrow path, about the size of a bicycle tire, for submission. Most "doms" make me want to deck them. Strangely, even though I mention kink in my profile, I only ever hear from men who want me to dominate them.

I was never into that submissive shit either. I like it a little rough sometimes but I’m not calling a man “‘master.”

Years ago, I dated this girl who kind of “taught” me. I was doing gay shit for years, but it was always kissing and smushing boobs and a few sneaky licks.

This girl taught me a lot more. Anyway, one day she asked if I wanted to be humiliated by her and I remember saying:

“I already make 80% of what a man makes. I get humiliated enough already.”

p.s., It's also women who don't read profiles. I got a message from a single female wanting to "share her dom" so much no. "Oh, nothing crazy, he just likes to ne in control"

LMFAO aaaaahahahahahahaaaaaa.... I don't so well in any sort of submissive roll. Ever. At all. I even have in my profile "not a submissive bone in my body"

Rustic magic, I'm with you on the travel. Anything outside is a lose-lose situation, the pressure to play 1st time and time commitment is higher.

Scenario 1; it goes fucking awesome in all directions. Now you're stuck with a minimum 2hr travel time if you want more.

Scenario 2; it goes really fucking horrible or even just mediocre, a lot of time is wasted for 1 party.

Mostly it seems no one reads a profile. We clearly state we are looking for folks no more than about 50 miles away. That truthfully encompasses a high enough population area to keep us busy every day if it were not for other criteria. I cannot even begin to count how many folks 100+ miles away message us (mostly single males) wanting to meet up. The first thing they say when you mention the distance is "we/I would travel." Honestly that is not the point because we would love to find someone we can not only make advance plans to meet (like one would traveling) but also contact with shorter notice like maybe same day (but most likely next day).

Profiles are, of course, the last chance to make a first impression. Writers often invest considerable time/effort in creating and refreshing their profiles; readers should have read the profile in its entirety prior to corresponding. Candidly, a correspondent who has failed to read a (our) profile in its entirety seems unlikely to invest much effort in kindling a relationship. In such cases, further correspondence is a waste of time for all concerned.

I get that a lot, mostly with people who mention being excited about a few kinks that go against the grain for me.

My standard response is "I don't think we'd be a good fit but good luck finding fun out there". If they respond being butthurt about it, I point it out. "But I don't have to have that" so much no.

We feel your pain!

I feel that Blocking seems the best bet at times since they almost become rude and angered at being called out for their mistake. I treat my profile like a wishlist.. Why shouldn't I get what I want and like its not like I asked for something nonexistent just specific tastes!!

I find that so many message me without reading the entire profile and if they did they would realize their odds were slim at best and proving that they didn't care about things I said I didn't want and still messaged anyway are a turn off. Not respecting limits is a huge red flag as to why they wont get far on SLS! Single males seem to be the biggest offender