Did the internet ruin things or help

RonKathy, Yes, we also like dressing up, and watching her flirt and have fun has become a sport all on its own.

RonKathy, We both agree that online encounters are 50% successful at best, for numerous reasons, but mostly because they are fake in one way or another. Our luck in meeting a compatible couple or singles at a club, house party, or even a local bar is nearly 100%. Seeing and talking to someone face-to-face quickly cuts through all the BS.

I had far more success in the lifestyle pre-internet when I was putting profiles in contact magazines. That's how I found my first lifestyle group and got invited to their soirees. Sure there were some flakes and fakes too but it just seems that there is more of that around now. Plus it seems to have become too commercialized....maybe I'm wrong. ...just my 2 cents lol

We have never.. ever relied on the internet even this day and age. WE always go to a nice bar, restaurant, dance venue and find our own FWB.. always have always will.

So many have no clue how to communicate, hold a fun conversation, dress up for anything anymore. We have met and will continue to meet swingers at places like Johnny's Hideaway or other fun places in GA and Fl , all sorts of dance clubs restaurants all over USA just the 2 of us sitting and flirting at a bar.. its fun for us and its what we have always done and will continue to do.

Both enjoy dressing up and going out.. and pays off almost always.

(Insert young Asian girl shrugging her shoulders common meme photo)

WHY NOT BOTH?

Internet dating/lifestyle sites are just another tool in the toolbox. If you aren't having much success in how you use the tools that are out there, then change the way you use those tools. Lots of folks use these sites to find and join groups, or to attend house parties etc rather than contacting individuals via their profiles. Be creative.

Also, there's nothing stopping you from getting dressed up, well-groomed and going out to meet people in person, as in pre-internet days. Or joining vanilla groups centered on non-sexual interests (bicycling, hiking, art or sculpture etc).

Or you could bang your cane on the desk and complain about how you can't find a good buggy whip in today's industrial age.

Rant! Did the internet ruin things or help?

I don't take any of these sex sites very seriously. I don't come to any of these sites (SLS, FL, Recon etc..) thinking I'm going to find someone to have sex with, start a relationship with, or find a FWB. They are what they are and mainly filled with fake profiles and flakes. If I meet a couple or single to have sex with (which doesn't happen very often) great, otherwise I take these sites with a grain of salt

In my opinion, which really isn't worth much, I think the internet ruined things…I think it made me lazy and hurt my sex life. Things were much simpler & better pre-internet when meeting someone was a socialization art style and done face to face, not from behind a keyboard. I don't see where the internet has improved my sex life, if anything it made it worse. I spend far too much time behind the keyboard typing away with people that I know I will never meet, this is time that could be better spent actually socializing face-to-face with people

Pre-internet, it was fun getting dressed up and going out somewhere to look for someone. Granted, I wasn’t always successful but it made me concentrate on improving my appearance and social skills. With the internet I can sit at the keyboard looking like a slob and choosing what words to type that make me sound impressive rather than speaking in person to someone and letting my true personality come out

Recently with AI, people aren’t even writing their own profiles, they let AI write it for them. They think that an AI created profile is somehow better than something they can write themself. When AI writes a profile for someone is that profile showcasing AI or the person? Granted AI can be used to correct poor grammar but isn’t poor grammar part of a persons personality?

Sorry if this rant pissed you off and you think I’m an asshole but it’s how I feel about internet connections