Rampant Lying about Age

Wait till you get in your 50's, that's when you start seeing more age fibbing goin on, I'll just use more makeup and lipstick.............Mary Jo

So far, no issues with people looking drastically different than their profile shots. We made sure to only use recent pictures as not to surprise anyone. Lucky for others and unfortunate for me, I'm not that photogenic and I over deliver when I meet in person.

Profile inaccuracies are probably the biggest reason we prefer going to clubs and hotel parties. What you see is what you get. The trick with those though is not to over-connect and over-commit before the event. Agree to meet for a drink.. to say hello.. and go from there.

We've been burned by singles and couples we've meet at bars or restaurants sooo many times (who look nothing like their profile pics) that we rarely do it any more. One exception to that rule could be if we were approached by a couple with a bunch of certs from what-appear-to-be also-nice people. In our experience, people with lots of certs have been more honest.

Exactly, I would have never approach those two ladies online either, but when we are searching online or putting up a hot date, we have specific criteria for our evening itinerary. That is the difference.

~Allen

I met and played with a girl at a party we go to. Age never came up and we have a LOT of fun together. She's also great for my ego because she tells people I'm a rock star (blush).

Anyway, after knowing her for 2 years there was a conversation at a party we were at about age and I found out that, at that time, she was only 27 years old. I had no idea, but it didn't and still doesn't matter to either of us.

For some people, age doesn't matter but even with that being the case here, it's highly unlikely I would have met this girl online.

Agreed Mayhem. We got 'picked up' at a club not that long ago and had a very memorable experience. Age was not part of the discussion, but we found out the following morning the lady of the couple was half my age, which also happens to be below the range we have listed on SLS. She carried herself well and proved "age is just a number" in some cases.

Mayhem: Well said Mr broken record....lol

Parties are a whole different animal than a search. I’ve played with those outside my preferences at the time we had a close gap up and down in both directions, and it was still a good time.

~Allen

The lower of the 2 partners age makes sense. Just never saw if it written anywhere. I could probably find out and just have one of our friends write a hot date where I was above and the Mrs below the range (she is 6 years younger than me) but I don't really need to know that badly ;-)

I know I sound like a broken record (showing age there ;-) but this is a reason we like LS parties. We have NEVER had someone ask us our ages before or after we played. If they like us and we like them, that is all the verification that is needed. Old pictures, age, and actual weight just never come up in person.

While you can get some idea from a profile, personality is so much easier to see in person and that is a major factor in whether you actually like someone enough to play with them.

We had a profile visitor earlier, he was 19 and she was 99...… lol We've seen them before at a club, they were a no-go anyway.

Yet...….. we also had a 73 year old couple open their very personal pictures for us.

Another couple here found us on another site we use.

:-)

~Allen

mayhem8 I believe I read somewhere it is against the one that fits in the age range regardless of the other's age who is outside of it. I hope that makes sense.

While I understand the "reason" behind lying about your age I fail to understand actually doing so. I wish more people understood and realized it actually does more harm than good. The "goal" if you will is to meet up and sooner or later it will be found out you look older than you are or you will slip up and mention you are. The thing is we figure if you are misrepresenting yourselves in one way what else are you lying about? This is especially true when the pictures due to angle, filter, camera settings, lighting, clothing, or just age of the photo do not match the actual on a face to face meeting. This is one reason we choose to include a picture of her flashing the camera in our public pictures. BTW there is nothing wrong with being older (usually that is the lie) or having a few more pounds just be honest about it. I mean the truth will come out eventually.

I have said this before we set our age range for a reason and find it disrespectful when someone contacts us that is well outside of that. In fact we just had someone that was 15 years over our range (assuming the age was correct and he was not older by join date). Seriously considering our top age is about 10 years older than we are you add the two together and we are talking old enough to be our parent. It's simply not going to happen and we don't know what world you are living in to think it would. BTW not too long ago a 23 year old male contacted us. Yeah umm nope our children are the same age. Not going to happen especially considering the area you live is where our girls went to school.

“ Searches are based on the youngest member of a couple.”

@Mayhem:

Maybe the hot date implements the same when applying criteria.

~Allen

It's still not clear to me if the check is against the oldest or the youngest partner of a couple. Sometimes a couple's age difference can be substantial. More a curiosity than a concern.

I tend not to agree with 888...

...but I do in this case ;-)

I tend to agree 888.

AandJ:

The problem is people not meeting the age criteria of the hot date poster believing they have a right to view their personal ad in search of others that meet their needs/wants.

The solution is to respect the poster’s search and not manipulate the system to be disrespectful by contacting them in hopes to sway them because one falls outside of their preferences.

~Allen

That only works if you're the one posting the Hot Date. That's not what people have an issue with, it's viewing other's Hot Date listings.

Unless I'm misunderstanding the problem isn't the solution just to expand your desired age ranges on your hot date?

“ SLS shouldn't be filtering people for us, let us do the filtering ourselves.”

Some people just don’t realize it’s the member that sets their preferences and filters others out, not SLS.

~Allen

If your age preference
S are not set in stone, then why not allow for those variations so others will find you, if you don’t, they won’t be able to see your hot date; anyone adjusting their ages to view and manipulate someone not seeking them has serious character issues, makes them shady and I would question what else are they lying about.

~Allen

I don't mind if people lie about their age as long as they look and act the age they put in their profile. Same with pics, if they're pics are a few years old and they still look pretty much like that, fine. But people who look and act in person significantly different than what's in their profile are instantly tagged by me as liars. If they're lying to me about that right off the bat, what else are they misleading me about. I don't understand it either - these folks are outed the moment you met them or as soon as the clothes come off. Not very bright.

6zcouple yes. We have seen folks that have been members for 10 years. IDK but I think I saw somewhere they started like 15 years ago.

AndrewRobin so you yourself admit to having been 2 years off unintentionally and yet say no one would be 10 years off by mistakenly thinking the site updated ages? Honestly had we not seen another post in the forums about suggesting they make an upgrade that updates your age automatically we would never have known it did not. In fact there were people who had been members for years that did not know it. I'm not saying everyone whose age is off is because of that. In fact I gave an example of folks with a profile on another site yet the ages are about 10 years off with both profiles being 6 or so months old on either site.

Has SLS even been around that long?

"I think the "age" misrepresentation may have something to do with the fact your age does not change on your profile here unless you change it. You could have been 50 10 years ago when you signed up and it still shows 50 yet you are 60. Some of that (not all) could be unintentional."

We are usually a year behind because of that. It's never been more than 2 years behind before we notice and update. If it's 10 years off, you have no excuse.

Yeah, people lie a lot. Our ages are current but we've seen folks that post their ages as 50 and look like Methuselah.

You'll see even more of this now that they've screwed with the Hot Date calendar. Since you can't see Hot Date listings that don't fall in your posted age range, folks are going to screw with their ages to enable viewing.