Newbie questions

To update ages, click on name tab, edit profile, preferences tab, scroll down 1 inch and input a number.

Simple easy, No math.

~Allen

B&K, just like Rustic said, there are alot of profiles without updated pictures or ages here, and we are one of them, just need to do some math for our correct age. As for our pics, the Mrs and I have old and current pictures of our lifestyle experiences posted on multiple folders, and some are only open when we give someone access.
Yall have a good profile. K looks good in his different beard styles, and you can rock those boots with your sexy legs!!! Welcome to the Lifestyle.
A&R

Awesome rustic, thank you! I don't like the Duck Dynasty term either, just used it so people would know what I meant.
He looks differently depending on the venue... suit or slayer shirt, for example. And the beard changes too! I appreciate everyone's input and opinions though, for sure. I don't think anyone is wrong, if it's their opinion... but I do agree with you. Thanks for pointing that out :)

As a bearded man (who keeps his long) I need to address the changing beard length. A beard is much like hair on the head. You get a haircut or style and it changes your look some but it does not change you. You change your hair color and the same thing it changes your look some but not you (btw I know a couple where the woman who changers her hair color and style monthly but not their profile pictures). Now this both means who you are inside which is where more people look but also the rest of the physical you. Unless you lose or gain weight, pump iron and get cut, or quit pumping and let the (in this case) dad bod show through what your hairstyle is including beard should not matter. Now I know some women have a thing for beards and others hate them at any length but you will find the people you want to be with will care about the real you versus the superficial you. This is not to say the "Duck Dynasty" (I hate that comparison I had mine long before that show) look might put quite a few off where a short "Captain's Cut" or a couple day's stubble just may be what drives a lot more women wild but I have found once they realize a well groomed long beard is soft and not scratchy they actually like it.

BTW do you know how many long time members have not updated a profile picture in years much less updated their age or even anything about their profile? Let that sink in when you are talking about updating pictures due to a hairstyle change.

Thank you!! I will look for that section :)

Welcome to SLS, your profile reads well for a new couple. We were there no too long ago ourselves. This place is a wealth of knowledge and great people. When you are ready the advice given in the better profiles section can be the best you will ever get, but be prepared as they tell it like it is, but they definitely know what they are talking about.

Thank you, Andrew. I agree 100% also lol! Your description in your profile fits my husband to a T! Brothers from another mother!!

You did the Barbie and Ken thing innocently and ignorantly, so turn it into a joke with the text in your profile! That's a comedy gold mine. I love it.

Too bad you two are so far away. I don't know if the 4 of us would be sexually compatible, but I'm 100% sure we could all drink together and have a blast.

LOVE the Confederate Flag cowboy boots in that one pic. ;) Andrew

Thank you!!

I like the beard shorter, I think it's sexier, he likes it all Duck Dynasty. So I almost have him convinced to cut it short again, but right now it's the longer length. I figured once we start talking to somebody, we would send real-time pictures, and then they would know for certain if they like us? But yeah you're right.. consistency would be better! It's the only thing that changes on him. The man doesn't age! He is also willing to take vitamins, and is joining a gym now, because we've decided to do this lifestyle. He is doing everything that I ever wanted him to do, because I'm going to let him have sex with other people. I should have done this 10 years ago!??

Hey folks, Oscar_meets_SnowWhite is still available.

Welcome to SLS and the forums! You’ll figure it out and things will be fun.

:)

Good luck!

~Allen

Was just looking at your profile - very sexy couple btw - and noticed the pics you have of him show varying beard lengths. You might want to consider only posting pics of the beard as it is today or otherwise addressing it in your profile. That may avoid some confusion.

And might I add, just to whomever comes across this, that I spent two hours reading these forums yesterday. It is liquid gold for newbies. I told my husband that I had to stop reading it, because I was learning things that he wasn't, and he needed to know this stuff also. So tonight, when we take our child to his activity, I'm going to read him some of the things that I read. And he was willing and eager for me to do so! And that is not like him at all, for the record LOL. So I just want to thank you all. The tips that you give into this new world on all the forum topics are so amazing! Xo

Aw thank you SLO! Very nice of you. Everyone here is so nice!! :) have a great day!

Hi, B&K.... Barbie is VERY cute!! Hard to forget her!

Ken....you'll do,,,,I guess ;-)

Nice pictures.

Y'all will figure out what else to put in your profile.

Careful to vet new acquaintances.

You're probably already (if you're one who CAN be contacted) getting responses.

Best wishes,

SLO

Thank you! I will try and work on that!

Even if you don't want to ask for a review you can read advice given to others in the Better Profiles forum for things to include (or omit) and clues about how your profile may be perceived by others. You really do need to add a bit of information - your pictures are great but there is precious little to go on in your profile which will cause many to pass you by.

Good luck and have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

I prob won't ask people to review my profile.. I'm waiting on admin to make the changes I requested in my bio. We made it more generic? Bc we really don't know yet what we are looking for.. I love the long, thought out profiles, I love reading them, but to share and disclose so much personal info is waaaaay out of my comfort zone at this point. We are pretty introverted unless drinking, and from everything I have read here, drinking is not the best idea because your inhibitions are lowered and boundaries are crossed. My goodness I talk so much. Thank you guys so much, again!

You may want to say something in your profile that, unlike the real Barbie and Ken, you actually have nipples and the rest of the necessary parts.

Welcome to SLS :)

Thank you so much everyone! We will keep our current name then, much easier, if you don't think it's off putting and will work against us. Adding more pics now. Thank you so much for the advice!!

You've received good advice so far. We did want to encourage you to flesh out your profile a little more as it's quite bare at the moment, and not in a good way.

Check out the better profiles thread for some advice. If you have thick skin feel free to start a thread asking for a review of your profile. The advice you get will be honest and sometimes hard to hear but you'll get plenty of different opinions and be able to pick and choose what you use.

Welcome to the forums and to SLS B&K420. As Holly said rejection is to be expected along the way for various reasons and should typically be handled well, however for those time that it is not the blocking feature is your friend. Enjoy your time here and please keep your hands within the ride at all times.

Thank you HollyBlue!! :)

As famous (or infamous) as Barbie and Ken are in the lifestyle we would encourage you to keep the name.

Shows you have a sense of humor.

The screen name isn't too bad. Support should help you out if the transition is possible.

You do have options once you click on "edit profile" that will limit who can view your profile. Free members cannot send messages but the blue gumbies who pay can do so.

It isn't unusual for people to share face pics outside of the site for various reasons. Just ask what their preferred method of sharing them is. Typically it is one of the first steps after an initial chat on here. Just tell them, "Thanks, but we're not interested." It is part of the game and most people take it well and others well.... They will send spiteful messages, try and plead their case, say bad things about you to other people, etc. Just be ready for difficult people to be difficult people when they are in the LS just like they are outside of it. Just be polite on your end.

Many do ignore messages from no pic profiles. Some of these are legit and just super scared of sharing information and getting found out. It just takes more time to deal with them and it is up to you all if you want to invest it to find the few that are going to pan out. Most of them will not, though.