FetLife vs SLS

For us, fetlife holds our attention much more than sls does, more writings, stories it's just more like a sexy facebook. One can change, update and add text and photos without someone giving the ok, it happens instantly.
Of course there has to be some scrutiny in regards to text and photo's. I recently got on a photography group to share photos and look at galleries. There are none because no photos can be uploaded.

We just spend more "cruising and social time" on fetlife.

Both sites are easy to use, but each have their own peculiarities. Fet is geared more to connecting at events and people with similar fetish. You’re not able to search for people by age or sex, so it’s not geared toward dating , yet connecting is not difficult. It’s being overran with OnlyFans content creators who are financially incentivized. I avoid those with a financial motive like the plague.

Your aware of the limitations in SLS which is a connection site but it lack a robust search feature which it did possess in the past.

If you’re looking for kink use Fet and it has a MUCH larger subscriber base

If you’re looking for a local connection usually more vanilla SLS but populated by free members that’s a waste of time and effort since you can’t interact.

Fetlife is fun and a good place to explore kinks and make friends in the kink world, SLS is one of the best way to make new and sexy friends in the lifestyle.. You can find me on Fetlife- BiPixieWife and his is Nakefunguy

I'm on FL as AnimalAsteroid. FL & SLS are geared towards different audiences with minor overlap. Had an account there since the beginning. Got involved in a relationship and deleted my account, relationship went belly up and I regretted deleting my account. Created a new account last year. Did the same thing with my SLS accound only didn't delete it, just moved the location to an obscure country. Now I'm back on both again. Doesn't look like anything changed with either site during my 2 year absence

You can find me on Fetlife- biwifeshare. It tends to to be more interactive and the parties are geared towards what your looking for and it’s a fun place to share pics and vids.

I like Fet, often for some of the reasons MsNN mentioned. Where else can I go to chat about quantum physics with nerdy pervs?

I'm been on Fet since it's first year as NookieNotes.

It's intentionally not set up to be a dating site, so finding people to connect with is much more difficult than here. It's not gonna show you who viewed you, and most of the profiles have no stats.

The messaging system is better. It's easier to share content on a feed, photos, or writing. It's easier to learn there, because writings are more discoverable. Because it's really a social site, like a kinky FB.

There are MANY more local events to get out and meet people, at least in my area (we have a super active kink scene). Munches (gather for food), sloshes (gather for drinks), mixers, educationals, parties, etc.

Fet is mostly free, and totally free to message, so you know the people there have a lower bar for entry.

SLS is, like most swinger sites, mostly heternormative, mostly cis, and very couple-centric. FetLife is a variety of everything: ages, races, sexual orientations and genders.

And, of course, Fet is not all about sex (although there is plenty of that in SO MANY variations), but about kink, which could be getting cake smooshed into your chest with pretty bare feet, spanking, power exchange, even suspension by hooks.

Not for the faint of heart. But definitely for the adventurous.

Well as long as you are honest and open the communication on both are equal. Fet great if your fetish oriented and looking for specific things. Just search your fetishes and say hi to like minded ppl

Just stumbled on this topic. The answers so far do a decent job of describing each. That said, even though there is cross-over on both sites, FetLife appears to be more for fetishists and SLS more for swingers.

I'm on both sites but rarely check in on FetLife because I see nowhere near as much interaction between us and others there as I do here on SLS. I would definitely classify us more as swingers than fetishists though, so that's not all that surprising.

As an example of how that could play out, a fetishist might get off on the physical act of bondage and admiring the knots and helpless feeling of the bound person. A swinger will see the bondage part as an appetiser, with the main course being the bound person getting well used sexually.

FET and SLS both have their upside and downside.

Perhaps the best I have seen at them coming together was a FET / SLS party I attended. The blend of people was awesome and there was something for everyone.

I enjoyed the Shibari, spanking table, the group sex room, the private rooms and to me the hottest of all.... The St Andrews Cross

No one judged anyone, just two groups coming together for a night of pleasure.

Were on FET as cuckbicouple. Its a little bit different direction then SLS tending more to the kinkier side. We do notice we tend to get more local responses then on sls. Gives us a variety in our interests and we find FET you can be more open about your preferences

As EDANDBRITNEY posted, the messaging system is much better. Especially when it comes to reliability and delivery time.

Main difference is that FL, being a social media site, has several orders of magnitude more mental illness. Use it to find events, but don't peruse too long if you value your sanity.

While Fet may lean towards kink, there are tons of people with no interest in kink on the site. The big issue is that there are A LOT MORE fake profiles there than here. With that being said, the events posted are legit most of the time. Fet wants money so you can watch videos and SLS wants money so you can browse profiles and send messages. Just vet well with any site you use and lean toward gatherings and groups of real people.

And as long as we have known Jason from "SLS".. he is an excellent rope master and teacher to all !

SLS is a swinger site. Sexy play with others is the theme. Some swingers also like some bdsm thrown in, but usually designed as part of the sex play.

Fet is for kinky people many into bdsm and it's many forms of kink. Sex is not always the objective. The dynamic energy exchange between dominants and submissive forms the foundation for much of kinky play. Sex may or may not be part of the play.

LMK ... I find the Fet messaging system WAYYYYYYYY better than here ... you actually get email notices when a new mesaage arrives, you can attach pics from your phone etc. .. yeah go to munches etc and meet ppl. We go to one by our house monthly ... next one is 4/19 ... if you want to go with us, you know where to find me ??

It's been awhile, so my recollection might be flawed, but FetLife is more for discussions and finding events. People message one another, but the easiest way to meet people is to go to the munches and play parties that FetLife lists.

Can someone explain the Pros and Cons of each site please? From what I’ve been able to gather, it’s easier to message individuals on SLS than FetLife. Is that true? So how do you meet like-minded people on that platform?

~LMK~