We got punked - lesson learned!

Was just curious, I'm attracted to the female body, not the male body....

"What percent of your body is covered with tattoos Snowbunny?" -- TallMark

What difference does it make? Pretty sure you haven't asked any of the heavily tattooed men that same question.

Looking at the timestamp on these posts, WOW, the SLS profile cops were quick to approve Thicksnowbunny's profile edits.

@sliderightin I think stating I am open to women and only bbc men is absolutely being selective. You do not have to validate anything I have or haven’t done on this site as I have stated and you have reinterated I am new so I do not have a lot of experiences but I know I’m three months I have had hundreds of emails and most I have politely responded not interested and some continued to try in which they were blocked. I am not here to call anyone out or be anything but my true self. I love sex, I love having sex. in the vanilla world (is that accurate wording) I would be considered a slut a ho or whatever word men choose to use nowadays because I enjoy sex with multiple partners. I’m not calling men who like sex thirsty I’m calling men who will not back off after repeatedly saying no because they are white with a big cock so they think it’s goinh to change my mind. Men who message me and I say no then message me again under a different profile or a couple and I continue to say no and continue to block. Also I do not need a man to flirt with me or message me to feel better or worse about myself, I am just here trying to explore a lifestyle I have always been interested in. I love my sexuality and am hoping to experience many things

1st I am a single female not a couple. I am not shaming anyone men or female. My profile was changed because of a “stalker” on this site. Yes they were reported. And I could care less who believes me or not. Everyone I’ve met on this site can verify that I am a single female. There are many things in this lifestyle that I do not understand but that is why I’m trying to learn. Obviously it’s like high school all over again. A bunch of petty bullshit and caddy people hiding behind their computers or phones. when I specifically put on my profile Do not contact me if your a white man, why do white men insist on sending me messages hoping to be the exception. Yes I know how to block and the list continues to grow. I know we are all on here for sex but that doesn’t mean I have to tolerate disrespectful men or women. And when someone like myself tries to become part of a lifestyle why the hell does everyone have some shitty comments. I was trying to be encouraging to the couple who got played and to let them know not everyone will be that way as I’m hoping not everyone will stalk me on site and real life .

"What relevance does a full email box of unwanted dates have to do with you taking action in finding the playmate of your choice?"

Well that's what I wanted to know, but apparently you don't know either even if you were the one who wrote it.

I knew it was too good to be true. :-(

A single bifem perspective here folks:

1. Bunny—the info you post is not correct. If you are indeed a couple— say it.

1. Ghosting happens either in the vanilla world or the LS world. Fortunate that I have never come across this. I also have a ton of communication prior. Most of my communication I have is almost always with both partners of a couple— at the same time.

1. I never go to someone’s home nor would they be invited to mine. This of course would be changed after I felt folks trustworthy.

1. If folks are not willing to meet in a public forum, I do not meet. In the event I am stood up, I chalk it up to an evening out spending time by myself. No big loss really.

1. I insist on paying. I can not stand the “ unicorn” dialogue horseshit and I certainly can’t stand the “ golden vagina “ nonsense.

1. If indeed you are stood up, consider yourselves lucky as it most certainly isn’t something or someone I would want in my circle.

Good luck-

5.

Just to be clear this is from snowbunny’s profile.

“He is straight and open to all females as well , We Would like to try MFMF , FFM, MFM or anything thats fun...”

~rabbit~

SnowBunny - you are not a “unicorn” if you are bringing a man with you.

What you are is just another couple hiding in the shadows as a single female waiting to pounce on the unexpected.

As a liar, your opinion is moot.

~rabbit~

@GoodGolly
What relevance does a full email box of unwanted dates have to do with you taking action in finding the playmate of your choice? They say in life, focus on what you want and not on what you don't want.

"Perhaps if she as a single woman humbled herself and took the initiative and actually sought out men she PREFERS then she could eliminate these "thirsty men" from harrassing her."

Perhaps if a single woman humbled herself...

...then she could eliminate these "thirsty men" from harassing her.

So, if I start contacting men, my inbox will magically empty itself of the most witless examples of the masculine approach to never ever getting laid?

Are you sure?

Because if you're sure, I'm certainly willing to try.

@Rusticmagic
You use quite a bit of hyperbole when describing me since I'm not active at all in these forums. I've participated in just 2 topics where i felt compelled to address the topic from the prospective of a single man. That is my right and if you or anyone is offended by anything i've written, then that's on you. Single men could easily chime in and say how they are offended by the constant criticism, generalization and humiliation they suffer from folks here. And? In terms of alienating women, LOL! How and when? You might have me confused with someone else. I'm on SLS by choice not as a necessity and trust me, I'm quite lazy in terms of trying to get laid here, so the "thirsty male" label certainly doesn't apply to me. I think people like to fit it and use herd mentality so as not to disturb the natural flow of discussions. I'm not concerned with that because I think for myself. Conjecture, and personal anecdotes cannot be promoted as facts. Sorry.

Sliderightin if you were not defending the bad behavior found all too often with "single" men in the lifestyle you might not have started to alienate every woman on this site. Then of course when someone points out what you have done you go on to continue to insult women here. The truth is most single males do not make an attempt to behave in even the remotest of a gentlemanly manner. Not all but most and it has been this way forever. The truth is the majority of men (married or not) are pigs. Those that are successful rise above that and think with the big head on top of their shoulders and not just the little head between their legs. Now no one is saying you have to come in like James Bond (well most there are exceptions to this) but coming in like Al Bundy or worse yet his son Bud as he got older is sure to get you rejected. To put it in the Garage Sale analogy you used (and I hate too and will say why) a Low Baller is the worst of the worst when it comes to trying to sell something especially if you have the price set fairly. A person has every right to get offended when they insult you by offering a ridiculously low price. Instead they should at least have the courtesy to make a polite fair offer based on the value of the item. BTW even that analogy you used says a lot about you. Basically you are implying a woman is nothing more than property to be had at the lowest possible price (effort) and should accept any and all offers.

@Hotluvrs

Sure. She elevated herself by highlighting the alleged bad behaviors of others and how she's not like them. How can we possibly verify ANY of her experiences especially since she admitted to only being in the lifestyle for 3 months!? How can a "thirsty man" repeatedly not take no for an answer when we all have access to the BLOCK feature? Again, this is how some people validate themselves. ANY attention is good attention. Not every dude is thirsty. We (both sexes) are here to have sex. If you have a garage sale, for example, expect low-ballers. It's part of the game we are in, but don't shame them. Perhaps if she as a single woman humbled herself and took the initiative and actually sought out men she PREFERS then she could eliminate these "thirsty men" from harrassing her. But guess what? Most women hate rejection so they do nothing then get angry when all the low-ballers come to them.

Damn Slider,

A woman makes a post apologizing for the bad behavior of other women, and you have to give her shit because she has also witnessed bad behavior from men in this site.

Seriously, we should all be offended by guys that can’t take “no” for an answer.

“ I hope that everyone doesn’t feel that way about single women aka Unicorn because that is not myself.”

If they read your profile, they will definitely know isn’t you because you aren’t single. You should have a couple’s profile, especially since HE wants to play too.

“ NO WHITE MEN my choice!”

lol, there we go!

~Allen

@ ThickSnowBunny

Wow, 3 months in and you're already shaming men. You'll fit right into this new era of swinging. sigh What makes men thirsty? This is the only place where sex/fantasy is actually on the table yet everyone's offended when they attract men who want sex! LMAO. Perhaps many women, namely the single women on SLS, are simply here just validation and use fake outrage to be spiteful. Listen, men innately want sex. We are wired that way. Accept it. One day, many of you women will be pissed when men pay you zero attention.

I am very new to this lifestyle (3months) and I hope that everyone doesn’t feel that way about single women aka Unicorn because that is not myself. I would definitely not disrespect anyone’s time like that. I have noticed a lot of fake profiles and thirsty ass men who just won’t take no for an answer. Sorry you had a bad experience

there were a few times we wished we HAD been stood up. lol. Some we've met we could not get away from fast enough. ugghh. Here's a pass to the Jerry Springer show. use it!!

We only agree to meet for drinks at a place we were planning on going to go to anyway regardless of whether we were supposed to meet someone or not.

It is classless and disrespectful, regardless of who does it.

After being stood up twice (not a bad ratio in 7 years!), I follow few proven methods that help minimize that happening.

1. I only deal with certified profiles. I know some profiles don't like to display certs for privacy, and unfortunately, those profiles I initially avoid
2. It is a warning sign if profiles don't want to share UPDATED pics! It is really easy to steal pics off the internet and claim they are genuine. Texting a selfie is so easy these days, even my great grandma does it :)
3. In one certain case where the couple stood me up and begged for years to meet again, I agreed after they paid for the hotel with a proof it is booked less than 24 hours of meeting, so that the hotel room can't be cancelled. I was to reimburse half the cost after meeting. I guess having people share the financial responsibility will at least show some commitment.
4. I typically send a selfie in front of the agreed meeting place, a good 15 minutes prior to meeting. This will show I am actually by the place and also what I look like.

None if the above totally resolve a crappy human behavior, but I hope this helps.

Cheers y'all.
Mo

He have been in the lifestyle for over 9 years now. We do a fairly good job vetting them out before we agree to meet for a drink. We have only been stood up a couple of time. We have met with a few that we WISH had stood us up!lol

@sa - I know it winds up being a waste of time for you two but, looking at you two, the big loss was for the people that ghosted you. It also makes us realize just how lucky we are to have so many LS parties by us. Between that, and our strategy of meeting people at our house (or a very local restaurant), it's rare that we go out of our way that much to meet someone new, so worst case is usually we have a nice meal at a local restaurant we like.

That said, it is the exception rather than the rule that we get punked/ghosted. We are easily over a 90% hit rate of actually meeting people we make plans with. We have heard that a lot of SMs are known for this but it's also extremely rare that we would meet a SM or SF alone unless we already met and knew them. People we already know have no problem texting if something comes up. Perhaps that's another reason we don't see this as much, but there are plenty of SMs at the parties we go to and that's usually the only place we engage them.

I thought it was a typo as well.

SA is in the midst of a Virginity reclamation.

Fresh meat, everyone!...……..

:-D

~Allen

Mayhem

That would be correct.

Hisnhers,

They weren't single guys. They were probably married guys who either lost the nerve to cheat at the last moment (the halfway decent ones) or couldn't make up a decent excuse to convince the wife so they could get out.