Single Males Open to a Long Term/Ongoing/Regular Situation

"..But 100 people in the same hotel sure can be fun...."

.But 2000 people in the same hotel, or 5000 on the ship sure can be fun...."

FIFY ;-)

"I don't need a party with 50-100 ppl..."

Well, maybe not all in one room. But 100 people in the same hotel sure can be fun.

"I don't need a party with 50-100 ppl..."

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While I don't 'need' a party, it sure makes keeping in touch with playmates easier, as scheduling them all separately would be nearly impossible, especially in events like Bliss cruises, Naughty Nawlins, Splash Mocha, etc. Having them all in one cabin or suite is logistically more efficient. :-)

" I get very turned on by the idea of walking into a club in the middle holding both guy's hands or....'

Since this is in a club, I'd think it could open the possibilty of this being the married male half of a LS couple. We know a number of couples that each is open to go off and do their own thing at a club/party. I know the Mrs and I generally do this and we both have our regulars. If it's for more than just being at a club, that could be different, but we also have friends that go on completely separate dates.

As a matter of fact, this could work well for a married guy where both do separate dates as the Mrs is likely to have more opportunities to play than her husband, leaving the guy free to be a 3rd a number times.

I'm no longer in the Prime of my Lifestyle Years. I don't need a party with 50-100 ppl or a club environment anymore. In fact, all that extra stuff is a distraction from my Staff Sgt properly handling the female troops.

At this point 2-3 couples is company, more than that is a crowd.

I'm all for a regular one on one entanglement. Rather spend a few bucks on good liquor and cigars or a nice restaurant with good friends than going to a club or traveling for a big party.

As an SM, I believe I'm one of the more reliable types, uninterested in "conquests" or in amassing a high tally of sexual partners. Variety is certainly nice. But I really like the idea of having a tighter circle of fun friends. And I especially like the idea of sharing chemistry good enough to play with a couple on a regular basis-- say-- twice a month or so. This cuts down on spontaneity, but it also fosters a closeness which I would find agreeable.

Both as a cpl and a SM The preferred relationship was always a select male. A close friend we could go away with or just invite over for some fun. The hotdate thing has it's positive and it's negative.

I like feeling comfortable with those I'm hating enjoyment with. The memories are priceless.

Goodvibes:

We're happy you've had those good LTR experiences. We've had them too. Although our only complaint now is that many SMs only want a quick hit, and do not want long term fun and friendships. And that's ok. But we'd prefer to enjoy great people more long term.

I would consider myself experienced in the lifestyle. I was married in the lifestyle and chose to remain in the lifestyle when I became single. I can say that my views haven't changed in regards to LTRs. When I was married LTRs were our preferred choice (couples, single females, single males), and that approach remains the same today , the exception being I am not interested one on one single male encounters.

People often asks why LTRs. I guess my response can best be summed up this way.

I was married when we entered the lifestyle. Like most people, we had an honest dialogue that stretched over many conversations. Those conversations were a feeling out process and establishing boundaries. In the beginning we eager to explore, but as time progressed we saw the value in LTRs.

As a single male, I have kept that same perspective of focusing on LTRs as my preferred method of lifestyle preferences. While it is a greater challenge as a single male to maintain that preference, I have been fortunate enough to meet a few couples and single women that adopt the same belief of the value in LTRs.

Of those LTRs I continue with a few women and a few couples for now several years now. The LTRs that ended have always ended as a result of work related moves or retirement relocations. I do have my moments when I will travel and utilize Hot Dates on SLS to meet up with people as well as those folks you meet here on.

Not everyone I meet turns into to sexual encounters, but in all cases it is generally pleasant conversations that get things going. It is in the feeling out process that I get a s sense (as I am sure they do) of whether there is a desire to take it further.

There is something very sexy about meeting on an intellectual level that always leads to great sex, and usually it those intellectual connections that develop into LTRs.

Funny cause we feel the same way, but OMG is it nearly impossible. Between the lies & cheating it's become a dying thought.

Funny cause we feel the same way, but OMG is it nearly impossible. Between the lies & cheating it's become a dying thought.

@fraunhubby. I know. It would be fun if I could get together with your wife and we could go slitting around together. Kiss kiss

Twenty...I'm not stalking you. But, your experiences are beyond hot. We love your stories and we talk about them when we are in bed. Thanks.

I can’t speak to finding a single guy on a dating site for this kind of relationship. I have had two LTRs and they were with friends of my husband. And they didn’t start by asking for a LTR or with some transactional agreement or set of rules.

The first was with his friend since high school. It was a slow burn with sexual tension. Eventually my husband told him that I was had the hots for him and made me available for a 3some. We had several threesomes that escalated to him spending the night and me sleeping with him. When my husband travelled, he became a surrogate. We went out on dates, swapped with others as a couple, and went to parties together. He was a pilot and when transferring to Hawaii he stayed with us for two weeks while his car and property were being shipped. I screwed him every day. He did not know we were swingers until he became a surrogate.

The other was also one of my husband’s golf buddies. He did know we were swingers. It started when he arrived one morning to pickup my husband for golf. He knocked and we yelled for him to come in. My husband and I were fucking on the couch. He watched and I asked him to fuck me. We never had 3somes with him. He became my boyfriend and we dated until we moved away.

Long term is the Holy Grail for me. I have had the good fortune to be involved with two couples, at different times, in ongoing relationships. Both were older than myself, an added plus. Both relationships ended to I'll health....theirs, not mine.

Does twice-divorced equal single? :) I'm an older bi man with much experience in bi and swing lifestyles. I would welcome a chance to meet a couple similar to you. 'Polyamory' is a term which may or may not describe me. I can be and feel very romantic and intimate with both genders. I make love with women and men...the key word being 'make'. Manufacturing the feeling of love in other people and also feeling loved by my m/m and m/m partners is what would keep me coming back for more. However, I would neither desire to move in with a m/f or m/m couple at theirs nor move them into mine. Once or maybe twice per month would be more suitable for me and my libido level. In a polyamory arrangement, the male would need to be bi as well. It's all moot though. I'm 71 and ivery unlikely to meet any hot younger m/f couples. After my 2nd divorce I fantasized a lot along these lines and sought such relationships myself. I have been approached by older couples in the past and I was interested, but it turned out to be only a fantasy for them with no real intent to make it happen.

I'm quite confident this has been asked recently already.

Yes, a good many of us would like that kind of situation, myself included.

Not interested in full-on polyamory.

SHJO.. they are not on Forums.. look around and search your area.. it does work after weeding out the fakes!

We live in South Louisiana and would like to find a long-term male to join us. She likes them, good looking, not too hairy, non-smoker, no bushy beards and at least bi friendly. Feel free to contact us, if interested. Thank you!

Goodvibes- I'm so jealous.
You are living my fantasy.

Recently, I had a couple reach out to me on SLS. We chatted on some on this site for a bit then via text. The couple assured me that whatever texting was seen by one was seen by both. That is spot on in this lifestyle. IMHO, there is no way a single male should be contacting or texting only one 1/2 of the couple without the other half knowing about it; even better if testing or contacting both at the same time Needless to say, they contacted me because of a post of mine about sensual massages. We planned a time to get together and see if there was a connection that would welcome us being naked and enjoying ourselves.

We met up yesterday and I had the pleasure of giving the wife a sensual massage that may not have been as sexual as could be because of it being our first time together. The husband videoed a lot of the massage and afterward mentioned that he learned a lot about the art of a sensual massage; skills he hopes to put to use in the future.

I will say, his wife is sexy and beautiful and she responded well to my touch. When the massage was complete I had the joy of edging her with her toy but knew she needed release. I motioned for the husband to come over and together we massaged, licked, and squeezed her nipples as I moved the vibrator in repetitive motions. Release came in the form of uncontrolled body movements followed up with an intense orgasm, We continued to caress her body until she calmed some and then I applied the toy to here body again. Her second orgasm was more intense than her first.

Needless to say, we had an amazing time and are all looking forward to meeting up again soon,

You need to put yourself out there. Be respectful, be articulate, be well groomed and don’t be afraid to reach out to people.

I wish I had one !!!

.."one couple sometimes invited another couple as well ,for playtime fun..."

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That's the ultimate compliment. Hotwives referring and sharing us with other Hotwives.

As a retired widower, I would prefer longer day time relationship due to I am not a wam bam thank-you kind of guy, once i have you I want a lot of you to get to know your kinks and fetishes, and I mean this in a good way,