Single Males Open to a Long Term/Ongoing/Regular Situation

This is something I enjoy doing love to please the Ladys and be good friends with her man fun for all. Wink

Yes. Wthout a doubt.

I as a SM had this relationship with a couple for several years. They were exciting to be with, we all three valued each other. We are still close friends but due to various health issues my role has changed. Today I only take them to their doctors' appointments, how sad. I have become involved with a wonderful lady but recall great intimate times both sexual and non-sexual with this fantastic couple.

I don’t think 2-3 times per month is demanding either. I think what you described is definitely involved, but for me, that’s appealing and building on it that frequently only makes everyone more comfortable with each other…which leads to more fun. Nothing you said was deterring to me

My close friend and my wife enjoy their time together.He knows what she enjoys in and out of the bedroom and she knows what he enjoys.It has become a great thing for all 3 of us.He knows that he is always welcome at our house

We like it and prefer it...speaking as the couple part.

I prefer a long term lifestyle relationship.....I had that with two couples that lasted several years each....For awhile between the two of them hardly a month went by that I wasn't meeting with one of them....haven't found that since

What the OP described is what I'd prefer and had that about 20 years ago. I played with an older couple on a regular basis and was able to explore many different scenarios with them and have many fond memories, including some of my best orgasms! I'd still like to find another couple like that, but as an older adult it seems unlikely, especially here in the PNW.

I would do it.
And I'm 241 miles away so I'm close enough to show up with little notice but far enough away so you can get rid of me if I turn out to be a creep that just wanted to steal her panties.
I really do not see the difference between a threesome and what you are describing which is closer to a 3 person relationship. Not as much of a relationship as poly, but somewhere between threesome and poly.
I do not understand why a SM would enjoy a threesome with you two but have a problem with it being more of an relationship.
As for feelings, as long as you spelled it out, like you just did, I would not get feelings. It would be like sex with a woman who loves dating and spending time with me but is seeing other guys and does not want to commit to me.
I have had FWB where it is like we are in love and in a committed relationship when we are together. But we both want to keep seeing others and we do not want to be together every day.
What you want sounds like the same thing.

I can't speak for any other gentleman, but what you described is for me the ultimate/perfect situation. Just the idea of being permitted into the intimate life of a married couple. Being able to develop a true friendship/relationship with them. Be able to share everything with them and have them understand that they can trust me completely and share anything this wish. I don't want to say that I am specifically sub, perhaps I am, but to be able to fully and completely serve a nice couple is something I want so badly, but it is extremely hard to find couples wanting this dynamic. I can also understand the reluctance of some couples, because it is a rare thing for a lot of guys to understand that they are there for the couple and not the other way around. I want this so very much and I really hope that I can find a nice couple desiring this. If you are out there please know that I would be interested in and open to anything you desires.

That is my cup of tea! That is what I had in the past and what I would like to have again. I had similar situations with 2 couples. I met a couple at a hotel take over and I was invited to join them that night. after the event we kept in contact and I became a regular at their home. I loved it! I have the benefit of having great sex with her while the husband watched and joined. I spent a lot of nights in their house and also I was invited to stay with her while the husband was traveling for work. Unfortunately they moved to Norway and I have been able to see them only 3 times in last 10 years. The second couple invited me after she was the center of attention in a Gang Bang. She was blindfolded and never saw anybodies face. I was surprised when the organizer contacted me and asked if it was ok for him to give them my number. I was excited about it. I met them and I became a regular in their bedroom, house and holidays. they also moved away not as far as the other couple. I still seeing them but not as often as I used to. The excitement part to me is that I have to enjoy someone else wife and that there is not an attachment at all to jeopardize this situation. But definitely I' would love to join couple and open to it. I'm also open to travel a reasonable distance for the right couple.

I have nothing to add regarding the topic, but wanted to say nice xmas picture Travelers.

When I was "dating" a married girl, it worked well for a couple years. Only "dated" her occasionally but then she wanted it more and more to where she caught feelings. Eventually I had to walk away unfortunately. Seems it can definitely work but it's only till it doesn't and then one HAS to be the adult and walk away or you lose a loved one. Just my opinion

We had the exact same experience travelers122227. We’ve stayed friends with the male and stayed in touch but keep a little more distance.

As a SM what describe would be a perfect situation to me. That said literally the sun, moon, and stars need to align as she must be physically and mentally attracted to the FWB, he must be comfortable with the FWB, the FWB must be comfortable with both and be totally comfortable knowing he is just a FWB. My experience has been the toughest part is the guys being fully comfortable with each other and situation. As said in a previous post it may start off fun, but drama may develop. Still, it would be a perfect situation, at least to this SM.

You may want to post in the poly forum too.

A decade ago now, we had pretty much this exact situation for a couple of years. For us it did not work out long term as the SM got to having feelings and became "clingy" & possessive. We were only seeking recreational sex with a local, regular friend, but he wanted an actual relationship. That may perfectly match your own desires and your comment about "feelings" tells me it probably is, but it made us uncomfortable and we had to stop the situation.

From some of your prior posts it would seem like you have a good number of male friends. Would none of them be someone you would consider?