Single Males Open to a Long Term/Ongoing/Regular Situation

Agree with Holly.. Now, Wrong smoothsailing. We are Hotwife, 3sum play and overall love and enjoy our swinging lifestyle now on 30 years!

We both enjoy and give each other all sorts of swinging playmates.. we have had steady single ones many times once for 20 years and in GA 7 years .. Guys like you we dont even look at...... as sorry you are a fake in life and your marriage. We have come across all sorts of guys like you who go outside the marriage to try and get laid.

If YOU truly had a good marriage and loved your wife... her feelings would be the most important thing in your life.. Your profile comes across as someone who is angry ...she doesn't want to swing and it shows. One photo on a profile page really ? Great marriages communicate allow swinging to be a part of each ones wants and desires and it just flows without forcing it! If she was TRULY on board with what you are doing she would be part of the profile even giving permission if asked!

YES we have tried what you are asking for only to have the wife come banging on our doors and windows while the husband was inside.. two times in the early days..and no more, we do learn from our experiences.

Now on another hand we see all sorts of fakes, singles and couples in the lifestyle who have NO business being here.. its pretty easy to VET them and see if they are real and also have learned how to do this after being burned. But once you find the great ones ... its soooo much fun!

Maybe work on your marriage, professional help of a swinging counselor, date again and take her to some sex places to watch .something to get her involved.. The way we look at swinging.. is like a sports event and playtime we love... Its NOT the love of a true marriage , trials and tribulations of what marriages bring to the table.

Wish you luck but do not see much success with what you bring to swinging.

They said you look like Garth Brooks and are handsome? They’re lying because it’s impossible for both to be true.

On a serious note: we wouldn’t meet you because you are trying to find a play partner and you’re married? Or… well it isn’t too clear in your profile. Most of us steer away from husbands even if they have hall passes. Your situation and they way you present yourself are the chief problem for you.

I have found nothing but talkers here. Met one couple on they were awesome but most all messages go unacknowledged. Same situation that I found 10 years ago trying the online thing. Lots of guys here that love showing their hot wives (yeah I have one too) but they are just wanting attention. No intent on meeting. They get off on knowing some guy wants to bang their wife and that is it for them. So over this. If that gets you off, great but some of us are real here. Just go watch a video. If you are real reach out. If not play on but leave me out.

I like some men are the real thing Yes, I swing alone I am a widower so it is just me will meet daytime or night.

They are out there.. just takes time to VET them, meet them and see what they bring.. we have a mid 50's guy coming over tonight, a great guy who flys for a major airline and travels all over world. He is on SLS and introduced to us by another female SLS friend!

Maybe change up your profile and add some appealing first photos that are open... we know many who swing and pass by any profile that doesnt have any public photos.

Really its on you and how you handle it... and YES we have met some guys who cannot perform but we write them off and move on to our next find.

Hello we can not find any man for the little lady who can preform, they all want to do oral and that’s fine but say that up front. We enjoy MFM with a good stud in MI

ReadyToPlayLI when ever anyone, lady or man says they only do day play it set up a big red flag for me. I don't know about other places in the country, but in our area there just aren't that many (if any) places that run a 2nd or 3rd shift. ~N

We are similar to the original poster and it’s not easy to find a steady guy. We believe most are attached and are not able to show up at night. Get a lot that are interested in day play only. Hopefully can find the rite guy in the future

Onehorneywife unfortunately not uncommon in the forums. Come in, make a statement then vanish. ~N

Well it has been 51 days since the OP and she has not commented on any of the posts.

I definitely prefer long-term relationships. Not a NSA type of guy.

I think there are lots of people, myself included, who would love this. But, as someone else mentioned, it's really difficult to find. So many obstacles like chemistry, location, timing, and sheer luck/good fortune just to name a few... As been said here, I think it's all about be consistent and patient in your search. Eventually what you're looking for will show up...

We'll do Apolon.

Whoever stole my panties all these years, please send them back to me washed & folded...

I am currently looking for just that situation myself. I am a single dad. Always told I was born in the wrong generation and boy do I believe it now after being married for 7 years and were together 18 years. I'd rather have a couple to chill with and go to fun events with same thing you describe. I've tried to date. I myself have not found anyone worth dating. Besides its fun all the time ????

I would be totally into that.

There is fun to be had in one night stands, but a really getting to know someone, their likes and dislikes, and them knowing yours is way better.

And having it be open, where you share about other lovers is so damn hot!

Hello Fun_Italian

I have been fortunate enough to have found this type of relationship on this site. There are a few of us single men on here that are able to maintain that type of relationship that you are searching for. It is not difficult once you find the right chemistry. It is however difficult to find that chemistry. The dating aspect of that type of relationship is a very big turn on. We always made sure to spend the time to go out and have fun outside of the bedroom and then spend an extended amount of time in the bedroom. I will forever be grateful for the experiences that we shared. I know those memories will stay with me until I am older and unable to do this an more. If you can find that guy, I suggest keeping it going for as long as you and and make as many sexy memories as you can.

Seize the Day and Seize the opportunity when it presents itself.

Chris

A long term, ongoing regular situation is pretty much what I'm looking for, as I find the familiarity with a couple helps enhance the experience, plus, it's always nice to be with a couple that you like and get along well with. My problem up here in the frozen tundra of nowhere is finding that couple...

Being a phone call away from a rendezvous is attractive...I've gotten many a midnight call from one of the couples I was involved with sometimes after they had been out and about and wanting to satisfy an urge....it was long-term but not exclusive

Sorry to hear that Bent seems like you found the wrong couples.. we love it and have had ones as long as 20 years and now 7 years... we travel, party, sleep overs and have fun.. its all about the sex and fun nothing more for "us".

But we see a lot of guys try controlling things and or some women are clingy and jealous so guess it works both ways !

I’ve had couples ask me this and the answer is usually no. I do this for the variety of women and situations. If I wanted regular dates I would go on a dating site.

Plus, the male usually starts trying to direct me and that is a turnoff. Plus, the couples become clingy and I need my freedom.

Other than "special feelings allowed to develop" I'd love this type of dynamic. Beats the hell out of the one & done thing. ~N

I would so be open to it. Where do I sign up?

Sounds very interesting. Would definitely enjoy something like that.

That sounds great.I been swinging for over 30yrs.I Have had long term relationships with couples.It just takes alot of patients from all.Feelings will always be there we just need to deal with them like adults.