I’m a SM who has been blocked, ignored, etc. for just reaching out and usually just saying the couple is hot. That is a reality, no reason to be upset! I have also, thankfully more often than not, received polite responses, some leading to meetings and great times by all. Please don’t take things that personably!
We have friends that are SMs that we met at parties that we'd not want to block. Parties are usually one of the only ways we engage SMs. You can't assume that since I didn't block all SMs that it's a green light to reach out.
Unless they're being particularly crude or disrespectful, they get no grief from me, but I do specify when and where we meet SMs in our profile so I can see some couples that do the same getting frustrated if/when SMs don't read a profile and reach out anyway.
Even worse than that is when SMs get angry at couples because they got attitude back for something they shouldn't have done in the first place.
While everyone has an opinion on this and I doubt anyone will change anyone elses opinion I hope that at least we can all be civil. I am sure we have all had messages or responses to our messages which have rubbed us the wrong way. While we aren't looking for singles we don't mind if any contact us and we try to reply politely. I like the comment about not sweating the small stuff. Live anmd let live.
F&N
Exactly KC73.. !
sigh Exactly KC_73, and this guy proves it once again with his comments here. Complaining we CAN’T read. YOU clicked on the profile! Not the other way around.
You can’t make this shit up and they wonder why they get a bad rap… even after explaining it when he asked. Apparently it’s now all the couples responsibility to bend to the will and just block singles so they don’t get sour when they ignore a profile and contact anyway.
K_C73: Right on. If someone (single male or otherwise) can't respect what what we put in our profile, how can we trust them to respect our wishes when it comes time to play?
I’ve heard this complaint by single men several times. I don’t think we should have to block an entire sex. I think this is about self control, if we say several times “no single males” on our profile I would hope out of respect for our preference a single man would understand, we aren’t interested. We aren’t children, we are adults. And honestly, what does that say about someone who either doesn’t read a profile or just doesn’t care about a persons preference. What does that say about the kind of “fun” that person is going to be? Are they going to be a good listener in the sack? Most likely not, atleast that’s how it presents itself. It’s about respect, single men, not all of you, I’m sure plenty do, need to respect boundaries, that’s why you all get railroaded. I can’t tell you how many times, we’ve gotten the response, “yeah, I read it, but figured I’d shoot my shot.” I don’t understand why you’re confused when a couple responds flippantly. We take the time to fill out profiles, respectfully, you should take the time to read them and respect what’s asked.
Looks like the couples and singles on here all don't read I guess. It's whatever at this point.
We don’t get pissed off when single males message us. We get pissed off when 36 year old single males message us when our profile specifically states we’re not interested in anyone under 40. We get pissed off when we ask single males to send an intelligent message longer that two words, and we get “Hey whats up” as a message.
Never once have we received either of those from a couple or a single female.
Whats the saying " dont sweat the small stuff, just not worth ones time or energy". !
If you’re going to contact a couple, a couple that obviously frowns upon you contacting them, you better make an amazing first impression. We engage with single males, however, we still say “thanks but no thanks” to the ones that write on a grammar school level. Perhaps the issue is not said couples.
He wants us to make it make sense.... Some couples may be looking for singles at times and reach out if they so choose or simply choose not to block everyone by default. It still doesn't justify unwarranted contact by the SM. If anything, it shows, as irishrose22 pointed out, that the SM failed to bother reading the profile and that is NOT the couples fault.
Viewing does not equal contacting, so your elementary explanation does not pan out.
<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=62659331">BigBlackArm</a>,</p>
<p>Many people are interested in single males, so they do not want to block them. But they may be very selective in what they are looking for. Also, they are probably getting many messages from single males just like you. That can get overwhelming and frustrating for couples and single females, which is why they react the way they sometimes do.</p>
We don't worry about how other people set up their profile preferences. It either works out or it doesn't.
Let me break it down to you elementary since you guys are too dense to understand what I'm saying. Why get angry when single males message you and then you go out of your way and say you're not interested in single males but your profile is open for viewing by single males. Make it make sense?
These couples are getting mad that so many single males are contacted them how about you close your profile off from single males?
So let's get this straight... the couples are the entitled ones because they aren't bending to the unwanted advances of the single males?? FACEPALM
" most couples on here say they have no interest in single males but still have their profiles open to single males and then have the audacity to get pissed off when single males message them. "
So reading comprehension is not a strong suit it seems.
I've been doing this for quite some time and I have to say the couples on SLS are quite entitled. Tell me how most couples on here say they have no interest in single males but still have their profiles open to single males and then have the audacity to get pissed off when single males message them. How about these couples just simply turn off their profiles to single men.
Some of these profile that I'm talking about have been on SLS for more than 10 years so there's really no excuse
