Sharing Personal Galleries

I look at the profile of someone interesting and if the wife is showing her body nude then I open my nudes. I think I got blocked maybe three times for doing that. If the wife isn't showing nudes I won't open my pictures but let them know I will if they are interested. SM probably only get one shot of attention so that's probably why guys show penis pictures quickly.

We have a gallery called "Hi-We like your profile" which is a basic intro to who we are and what we look like. We always open that when contacting a couple or a single male we find interesting.

We've seen a few profiles that say "if our pics are open, we invite you to contact us". Not sure why anyone does that.......if you like a profile enough to open a gallery, how hard is it to send an intro message to say hi?

If you're gonna message a couple or single with interest you should open up your galleries. Seriously.

I see just as many profiles saying "Have your pics open" as I do that say they don't like it... Some say it lets them know you're interested, some say it helps them make their choice, and some say it's a red flag..........

So who knows?

Young - Yeah, it's usually SMs, but not always. If we are going to meet a couple, we exchange cell #'s because you never know what can happen. I do all the online stuff and the Mrs does all the cell phone stuff, and I let people know that.

Inevitably, she's had the male half of some couples we're about to meet send her a dick pick. She responds back that dick pics don't really do anything for her and she'd rather not have them on her phone, so please stop. Since many (most?) guys can't imagine that getting a pussy pic would be a bad thing, they assume the opposite is true.

We have our default pix and a gallery labeled "Naughty Pix", but I (wife) still get startled when someone, usually SM, opens his personal gallery and I'm suddenly faced-to-er.. face with a penis. Just WAM, here's my dick! Not that I don't like to see them, but attraction starts farther north for me. Hubby knows what I like, and prefers if my first reaction is attraction.

Swinging single is both challenging and fun. I have found the level of engagement or responses are considerably higher when I had a partner vs swinging single.

For those swinging single out there consider the following:

If you were in a relationship and were considering adding another person or couple, would you waste your time on profiles that are practically blank? Chances are you would want to see a picture to see there is a physical attraction. You would also probably want to read what that person has to say on their profile, so you have a basic idea if they match up. If someone doesn't have a pic or they haven't even cared enough to fill out their profile how likely would you be to consider them?

When you checkout a profile consider what the couple is seeking,what are the highlight of what they express. What can you offer.

Instead of using a copy and paste message, just send them a message saying hello and introduce yourself. Let them know you have read their profile by telling them what you liked.

Do not send pics, let them request pictures rather than throwing your pictures out there. When someone does request pics, assume their not asking for nude unless otherwise specified.

This will get way more engagement and responses than bulk messaging/ copy and pasting. Throwing nudes out, etc.

Since we are on here looking for playmates, we would like to see full body pics. Sexy, fun, spontaneous poses get our attention. Since I (he) am the "ambassador" of our online swinger life, I do most of the filtering. 3 pics of the guy is all she asks for. Full body shot dressed, Full body shot semi nude, closeup waist shot to give an idea of size nude or not. Now, if you are sending a "copy, paste" generic message, you are likely to be blocked, unless you have outstanding pics.

Her preference is taller, 5'9" or more, under 250#, minimal facial and body hair, well equipped. In person, all bets are off, and personality takes over. If you can charm your way into her panties, you are all set.

Most of our playdates are set up in person. Maybe 10% have started online. Hope this helps.

Thank you all for the replies!

My wife is the same, in that she doesn't need/want to see naked pictures. She also rarely, if ever, goes online. She's more interested in FaceBook than SLS, so when I find someone I just show her g-rated pics because that's all she wants to see.

If we're going to meet someone, we exchange cell #'s. She's had the male half of a couple send her dick pics without asking, and she has texted back not to do that again.

There are women that may want to see those types of pics, but best to give them the option rather than assume.

I don't want to see naked/XXX pics unless I've asked. I appreciate face/clothed pics open. If you do open everything, put a G rated pic as the first pic so they can decide if they want to open the other albums.

Happy summer to you all.

Couples/single women: what is your take on single guys opening their personal galleries in the 1st message, granted of course that the message itself is detailed and crafted after reading their prodile? My galleries are clearly labeled as "R-rated ..", "X-Rated..., " etc. So that the receipient can decide what to view or not. With everyone being very busy and couples receiving many messages from single guys, is opening the personal pictures a time saver or is it looked at as rude?
Thanks