Saw a video on Porn Hub and it was a gang bang with a girl advertising for freesex . space. Supposedly this is people looking for NSA sex. Got to a point where they wanted an email address and stopped because I could find no other info about them. Anyone else ever heard of them?
I checked out your profile and that is likely why you are having trouble finding a fuck buddy. Your profile repeats itself like 4-5 times about what you don't want. That can be very off putting to any potential partner who would meet your standards. I get that people have preferences and that's okay, but it seems that you have a very specific person in mind with specific qualities. Your profile kind of comes off negatively. And the requirement to only meet a couple at an event or club may also cut down on potential great people you could of meant. Just my honest observation, take it how you will.
Kamoy-- Hubby also PREFERS smaller and lighter women, but neither of us would say "no" based solely on those preferences. We like to get to know people first, because connection matters more!
I read your profile. I am definitely not your type; I’m black and I’m a big curvy woman. However, your profile doesn’t really seem inviting and maybe that’s the issue. Work on more positive wording in the profile. There are too many “ won’t do” things listed. Just my thoughts
I agree with RonKathy, your profile is a hard read. Soften it up amd ypu won't scare away so many potentials. We get it, you don't like overweight people, but you sound like "fatphobes"
Not being close to a metropolitan area, but being the biggest town around, it seems like it would be easy to find people here, too. But what SEEMS to be the case and reality aren't the same. We went to a house party a couple months ago, but had to travel 2+ hours to get there. If we weren't remodeling most of our house, we'd have them here, and we hope to be able to invite people s here once we're done.
The best you can do is to try various sites besides this one, because it seems some work better in some areas than others. The southern Oregon coast isn't really a hotbed of...hotbeds. There are so many tiny towns spread out, that it's tough to meet people who catch our eye. Or many people at all. And then there are some who aren't ready for their private lives to be public, as is their right. Word-of-mouth can work, but it can also be pretty tricky, too. Good luck and don't give up!
If you aren't a hunk, why are you going for the female equivalent of one? That can work in a romantic committed relationship, but women in the LS are a lot more physically selective in our experience.
Anyway, of my (husband's) 4 current consistent play partners, two were met at a club, and two were met on fetlife.
We hardly use SLS for finding play anymore. Partially because we have full dance cards, but also because we have found it kind of sucks for that purpose as of late.
The business cards are very popular on the LS cruises. Those cruises are very transactional :-)
@Pink, Over the years we have accumulated a number of LS friends, and being that we have had parties at our house, we have email addresses for them.
Something I've seen some couples do at LS parties is they hand out their own personal business cards with their contact info to people they like. Doesn't help you right now, but once parties get back underway, might be something to consider till you get a nice established group of friends. Business cards are pretty cheap these days and they don't have to be anything fancy.
@pink similar story here. All the clubs and parties we attend in Providence are shut down due to Covid. We had pretty good success finding playmates at those events. Having said that, we’ve also met a number of couples here that we’ve become friends with and play with regularly. Easier at the clubs and parties for sure.
We used to find all of our partners by meeting them at parties or clubs in person, dancing, having fun and then hooking up from there. We never ever had any problems in the several years we've been in the lifestyle. Unfortunately all the parties and clubs near us have completely closed down and we've had zero luck online. I've found that people online simply have a very small circle that they want their sex partners to fit into and if they don't fit exactly then they have no interest in even meeting. It's a shame.
Note to self: sign up for Tinder...
Thank you onehourcouple.
You say you know it should be easy??? No. Why do you think it should be easy?
necouple9111, we use Tinder for solo dates in our open marriage. I (Mr. OHC) also had luck in hooking up with a couple too. In our experience I found the women I met on Tinder are far less vanilla than the men Mrs. OHC has met.
onehourcouple could you please share what apps you guys have found success with? Is it mostly finding ones to be with playing alone or together?
We have starting trying other apps to look for women and couples and we're getting kicked off them all for being a couple, even when we've purchased the premium membership. We searched what platforms were supposed to be couple friendly and have only used those ones reported as being the best for couples but even on those we're getting the boot.
Thank you.
I have found two for my husband in 14 years. Ya it's hard. One was a wife from a couple we dated. He had performance issues and just wanted to be friends. She would come over and have sex on her way home from work. They never dated others as a couple. The other is recent. She is a coworker going through a divorce and I turned her on to my husband. She has come over on weekend days pretending to go shopping and he meets her at lunch at an adult theater and they fuck in the couples room. She is not really available to date as a swinger. She has attended one party for a couple hours and enjoyed letting the husbands screw her. She adores my husband and she makes the perfect FWB.
We've had great luck FWBs outside of SLS using dating apps.
By the way.. we just read your profile.. whew okay you say you know what you like and what she likes.. but you come off sort of "harsh".. ease up ! Many great people out here.. and only meeting at swingers clubs will limit your choices a lot.. we have been active swingers well over 23 plus years.. and swingers clubs get old after a while and some just dont cut what we enjoy too!
Seems you just have way too many dos and donts.. but hey its your journey.. but you are asking on forums..
Many small home parties, your own circle of friends, dance venues.. and of course.. NOLA work wonders.
Yes.. just like Life get yourself out there.. ones personality works wonders.. get more photos on your profile and NOT just selfies.. have the wife or a friend take some nice photos.. you two look like a nice couple , you both have a great smile.. and use it to your advantage.. dont let life pass you by.. events, parties, dance clubs... once we open up work wonders along with all our travels.. we find couples and singles everywhere . But yes it is work!
Good luck you will do fine.. Happy Holidays!
I know it should be easy, being in the lifestyle, but it's not. My hot lady has 4 fuck buddies and wants me to have one or more...I like that idea also. But...being painfully shy and NOT a hunk, I find it difficult outside the lifestyle. I want to find some sexy lady IN the lifestyle, between 40-70, slender, and wild, for NSA fun. Any suggestions anyone?
