[LOCKED]Fakes, Flakes and Time wasters

We should update our post. Since we started spending weekends in West VA, we discovered a new supply of flakes and fakes:

• Couples who chatted but would not commit to making plans, more likely men of couples whose female is not on board.
• Flat out no shows.
• Couples who despite having a couples profile only, insist they are swinging "separately", and we always seem to get the male half by coincidence!
• We even a couple where the husband dragged the wife to the restaurant and only then told her it was to meet another couple. She just flat out refused to go in.
• Since our photo is on the 2021 cruise, we get tone of "out of towners" who want to get together, by some magical teleportation way. Realistically, all they want is us to open our photos, under the pretext of wanting to meet.

Swingers are just a segment of the population, and like it or not, the population is not honest!

We agree 100%! We are going forward with couples only........and we hope all you fakes that said you wanted to meet and that was the last we heard of..............this is last you will hear from us! We should post their profiles somewhere, like Stolen Valor.

We have not run into that here on SLS, but have seen some evidence of that on their competitors site long ago. Haven't otherwise seen that in quite a while. Perhaps 55 is the sweet spot for these sort of scams and, now that I'm past that, they're going after other fish ;-)

In my opinion. The topic of this thread is the definition of 90% of the single guys on here. Maybe 95%

"single females that are supermodel hot and obviously trying to scam Amazon gift cards or something"

Yep, we tend to get those somehow and it's increasing lately. I (the male half) used to get "looks" from some real hotties in the past and was a reasonably good looking young man, but the fact is that not long past age 40, I became completely invisible to any girl under 30. Now I am to supposed to believe some 28 y/o supermodel happened to see my pudgy ass 55 y/o self on SLS and cannot wait to fuck my brains out and will go down on my wife while she lets me fuck her up the ass? Yeah right.

I'm not certain when the request for cash or a CC number comes into play because I just ignore them, but I'm sure it does at some point if someone went down that path. I suppose like the Nigerian prince with his millions to share, it must work occasionally or they would not bother to try it, but it does make one question the intelligence of a lot of our population.

Good on ya!

Risque picture sending should be reserved for just prior to a meetup to build the mood and anticipation in my view.

Haven't ran into this issue yet. We don't generate tons of play interest off this site tbh, but when we do it's usually genuine interest with people that follow through.

As for fakes, those tend to be either guys posing as a couple or single females that are supermodel hot and obviously trying to scam Amazon gift cards or something. The first are somewhat easy to weed out. The latter are blatantly obvious, and we avoid them in the first place.

I better back that down to 50%. My wife keeps track of playmates etc and half of on the list have a question mark for a name. Haha

I will say that 75% of our playmates ended up being friends persay. 95% of those came after sex. Lol

“ So, these days, I mostly say no. Besides, the people I do see set a high bar.”

Same here with saying “no” and I’m sure I have missed some fun times, but as said about wanting a connection and/or that drawn interest, it’s nonnegotiable.

~Allen

I lost track long ago of how many people I've had sex with. Somewhere short of Wilt Chamberlain's number. Except in very particular circumstances, the joys of anonymous sex are pretty humdrum and of no real interest. I'd rather make a connection and keep seeing people until I've wrung the last drop of curiosity out of the interchange.

So, these days, I mostly say no. Besides, the people I do see set a high bar.

We never look for "on going"... If it happens then it's icing on the cake but normally it's just a good time in the sack.

"At a house party, my wife will, and recently did, suck or fuck EVERY cock in he place"

We need to hang out, your wife sounds a lot like mine. ;^D

~Scamp

I mostly don't play on a first date. There are a few exceptions that are basically pre-qualified, where I will unless my Spidey-sense activates, but mostly I'd just rather go home and think about it. Parties are different and I treat them like a sampler pack. The difference is that when I meet up with strangers for coffee, I'm looking for on-going. At parties, I'm just looking for entertainment.

So you don't play on the first date but she does?

Fine by me LOL!

We used to say we never play on the first date but decided our lives get too busy & it's too tough to match schedules to stay on that course......we make exceptions!

We are one of those annoying couples who almost never play on the first date. We can have a great vibe online and on the phone, but we still plan to walk away from the first meeting without getting naked.

At a house party, my wife will, and recently did, suck or fuck EVERY cock in he place, and doesn’t matter if they are all strangers.

Ditto, we're looking for playmates, not replacements. At the end of the night we go home with each other regardless, so if the other party is crazy as a bedbug it's ok, they go their own way.

We have made a few close friendships along the way but that's a fringe benefit.

I certainly understand the folks here that wanna get to know their playmates pretty well before they give up the goods but it's just not our way. We are pretty much just after a physical attraction.

We've had sex with people who we found out were pretty much whack jobs but we still enjoyed the sex.

We're pretty blunt and also pretty quick about setting up a time to get together. If a single or couple hits us up. We almost immediately ask for face pics. If we get through that and like what we see then the single or couple is 75% home free. After a night or two of chatting and no red flags are put out. We're gonna set up a date for play. We don't do any meet and greet stuff. If we like what we see and all seems well. Let's get together and have sex. We're not really concerned about when your birthday is or your favorite foods.

We've likely scared away a few real people with our wham bam approach but it often saves a shitload time and fuckin around.

We are beginning to think that is all there are in our area. It is discouraging. Another facet to add is couples who are actually in LDR's.

To weed out the single guys who pose as a couple we now require a couple of face pics with both people in the picture. The thing that makes me laugh is when they say “oh we don’t have any pictures together.” In this day of smart phones and social media there is no way that’s true.

Unfortunately, this happens fairly regularly. I try to get a good vibe for someone before I agree to meet them. And when I do it's always for drinks or lunch so that I don't waste too much time if they flake out.

Here are a few things that I look for before meeting someone.

Are they a paid member?
Do they have any pics posted?
Do they have a thoughtfully written profile?
Are they local? I have met a few great people that are long distance but this is rare.
How long have they been a member?
Why are they in the LS? It's disappointing when one part of the couple is on board but the other is not. Major red flag.
Do their interests align with mine? Everything ain't for everybody.

Fakes/flakes are always a concern, at least you are allowing an alternative step so you possibly aren't missing any potential connections by hanging up the towel on the request.

~Allen

Not something I would demand, the reason I ask for a request of that because it be some people contact me being interested claiming to be a couple and don't have no type of information about themselves.

I almost had a bad experience of meeting a couple once, they had sent me a pic that look like it was back in the 90's.

I told them the pic looks blurry, when they sent me a recent pic I sure look the other direction. They looked very bad.

That's why I think meets n greets is necessary to have if they would show up or not.

" I would …….. ask them to both send me a face pic holding a piece of paper with today's date on it."

Sounds like some of the single females demands on here that we have not and would not and will not oblige with.

~Allen