Also can include a person whose other half has no idea why they are meeting, we have had those couples we met and brought a 3rd wheel who talked crap all night.. we ended the night early in NOLA.. some who are so insecure they cant see wife or husband having sex with another person.. you name it we have seen it.. and quickly rid ourselves of those people!
We are here for FUN times and good sex PERIOD!
Generally it means they are trying to avoid
People cheating
People who actually aren't comfortable with lifestyle, but are present for their partner.
Both forms of this type of drama are best avoided.
This is suppose to be a fun experience with laughs and hopefully moans. No one really wants drama.
All we mean by drama . that is looking for SM ,don't be married don't be trying to contact me behind my husbands back . Most that we meet our fool of crap. That does not bug us much. We just let it go in one ear and out the other, just be a nice guy and were fine. We don't need to know your life store . I am there for good sex not the drama of your problems...
'People surfing profiles go “oh these people are hot, let’s contact them. Oh never mind they don’t want drama, darn”'
Lol @wantingmen. Glad to have you on the forums. Someone has got to try to brings us all a bit closer to the Earth.
Yeah, it may and it may steer us clear from the hypocrites as well.
I wonder if people actually sit back and listen to what they write, things like saying it’s the people who have “no drama” in their profile and “they always blame the other people”; I mean, how many times have you seen a “drama free” couple blame others AND when you say that, if you actually mean a single instance and believe they are the one’s who even brought the drama?
We have had a female get caught cheating on the husband and try to use Mrs. 888 as the “get even” Target. We have had NUMEROUS, fucking dozens, of couples try to make Mrs.888 their solo “retreat”. We have had female half’s thinking that they can say “fuck me” will get me slightly interested and then complain because I’m not interested. We’ve had female halves of a couple not even know we were meeting to swing and he’ll breaks loose. We’ve had couples outright say they were hoping this fixed their marriage. We’ve had couples try to sideline one half of us, knowing one don’t sit out. We’ve had couples string us along for hours before they make an appearance. We’ve had more than one female half of a couple stop with me because Mrs. 888 is too vocal, including some wanting to know what their husband is doing to make her get loud when they aren’t really vocal to begin with. We’ve had male half of couples call Mrs. 888 for a mid day dates while they are passing thru. We’ve had couples try to follow us home after a m&g. We’ve had a couple where the female bales with a headache when they have a play date , leaving her husband up for offering to have a mfm since we were all there, and it is even notoriously known by other couples. We have had a couple argue about who was going to get Mrs. 888 first….
You know, I have a ton of shit drama we have walked away from and yes, there hasn’t been a single time it was us, but there is one thing we have learned over the years; most of everyone has baggage and is full of shit in some manner or another and far and few between are there genuine people without a hidden agenda and thank goodness for us finding them and hoping there’s more to be found.
~Allen
You should do whatever you want. It might be informative how other people see it.
I think we may be better off just stating to check your shit and leave it at the door, that might be a better way to indicate “no drama” in a more round about way since everyone that has no drama in their profile is drama.
We could also just delete it from the profile and be like the rest of you that don’t have it and say it’s always the “no drama” couple’s fault.
:big-big-eye-roll:
On another site some guy with dramafreenodrama-ish as his profile name contacted us. So, why not see what happens? Well it was one of the funniest exchanges that we have had in long time. He went postal pretty quickly as we guessed he might. Every couple we have met, several at parties and checked profiles later, who was drama on a stick said that they don't do drama somehow in their profile. They all also blamed the other parties for any stink they caused in every instance.
Agree that most don’t recognize it in themselves, but for those that know they have problems and swing to compensate, it’s a good warning to stay away.
~Allen
Ah. Just saying it does make a difference, in that smart people will not be interested in them. Saying you don't do drama is like a raising a red flag that says you actually are all about the drama. Evey time I have met someone who emphatically claims it, they are inevitably full of all the drama.
Do you think if you put no drama in your profile it’ll make any difference?
People surfing profiles go “oh these people are hot, let’s contact them. Oh never mind they don’t want drama, darn”
Just saying it makes zero difference. The people who are a mess don’t even realize it.
WOW I just read my last post! I do have a better sense of English than was shown there.
I should learn not to use voice to text on my phone..
Experience taught me long ago that people who feel the need to say things like "I don't do drama", or "I am so empathetic" or "I am a nice guy" are always the exact opposite.
If you are those things, then it comes across in actual behavior. Nobody who is actually healthy feels a need to constantly tell everyone how healthy they are.
I realize that we may be passing by people who are just warning up front that they don't want drama. In our case four out of the last five said no drama because they failed to recognize it in themselves.
In their case it was a lot like The used car Guy telling you how honesty he is.
I'm not implying that it is you at all. And I realize that this rule like any other universal rule is wrong the percentage of the time.
We have in our profile that we want no drama and will not accept any. We smell that shit coming and we are making our way for the hills. I guess anyone could look at that as drama as well, because we walked away and left you standing while you were having your so called drama free moment with your significant other.
:-P
~Allen
Smart move. Everyone loves a good shit show
For the most part the ones who have made a point of being drama free have been far from it.
We’ve decided to look for drama. Seems like so many need to say “we want no drama” or we “are drama free” in their profile. It feels like the drama demographic is being totally underserved.
But seriously no one ever puts “we are a complete mess. 100% drama” in their profile. Do people think if they add “no drama wanted” that the screwed up people will not contact them??
