In the same vein, we have noticed that is the cheating spouse that is often insanely jealous and goes nuts at the thought of their partner with someone else.
There is a massive difference between not caring if your partner plays with someone else and actively helping set up dates and being excited for them. Sadly, it seems the transition is toward not really caring if they do or don’t.
Saw same on the news too!
We have had conversations with close friends who were cheating. just open your marriage... and they said oh no I dont want my spouse going to bed with someone else.. "WTF Go Figure" as they do same!
SOC.. we just had this talk and Kat said swinging has changed last couple years but really could not place an exact cause on it
Seems so many people these days have lost the art of flirting, conversation and good manners.
We are meeting a new one Thursday night and keeping our fingers crossed.!
"calcan, It was one of the many polls shooting around Social Media."
Enable us with a link, like we live under a rock or something. ;)
Can you be a bit more specific- purring noises or barking noises?
We gave each other hall passes.
She stepped back for a while, but has made some noises about getting back into the swing of things...
I love my wife fucking other men. She enjoys it too. She also encourages me to fuck other women. Life is good!
""Who encourage their wives to fuck other men? "
Yes doing this over 30 years as she also encourages me with women.. its what we do
Someone had mentioned Polygamous websites?… are there other husbands like me?…. Who encourage their wives to fuck other men?
Thank you for reaching out tbrmskss! Great info!
Onehorneywife - you guys have it dialed in on the communication. It's the secret sauce that many lose track of, priority of. Good on ya.
tbrmskss - can you name those sites? PM is fine. Cheers! :)
Someonescoming - biting on that poll you mentioned. Sounds super interesting. Can you share a link?
There are a number of poly sites out there. I am on several, and have made some good connections.
Our marriage and swinging lifestyle are based on open and honest communication. If your wife has already given you the green light for her friend go for it. I played with her GF last night and before I left I asked her if she was ok with it. Again making sure. Got the ok and had a great time. She gets to play with other guys. She asks also if ok and I tell her yes. Open and honest about what you want to do.
Hello all, my wife and I have played on SLS off and on for about 2-4 years. Jodi loses interest from time to time , but says, I have a hall pass to play. I have played it with caution. Was never sure if she really meant it and didn’t want to open up that can of worms. Well………much to my surprise, she has offered me up to one of her friends who has been divorced and has not dated for 8 years. The length of time was mostly due to her health. Her friend has beat her health issues and gladly accepted my wife’s offer. Jodi and I discussed other people(she has always had a hall pass also which she probably will not use) So…….I guess I’m looking for advice as to how to bring up the interest in new women. What are some ways to prove my hall pass and be sure my wife is ok with the new women. I am not opposed to Jodi being present . She just doesn’t have the sexual needs that I have
Let me know ur thoughts
YAASSSS!!!! Me and my husband are both 100% free and encouraged to do whatever we want and have fun!!! Its so hard to find other couples like that!!! Usually it's like "we'll yeh I have a hallways butttttttt" ugh!
We started this journey saying that we would never be one of those couples that played separately or even dated/ ect separately.
But here we are… doing all of that. It’s been quite a journey. I can’t really say it’s working the greatest because it’s been really tough for the Mr. As we all know it’s much easier for the ladies to find play partners.
Awesome, ncwv! Thank you so much for sharing. Pretty cool you guys found each other and that groove together. Love it.
We generally play together when it's MF play but do have same sex (MM, FF) hall passes. Several of our playmates are gay and have no interest in having the opposite sex around.
A kind response to a bit of a snarky post on this end, admittedly. Sorry about that!
calcan - I also get your point. You want to keep this topic limited to people that actively do or are considering hall passes. Many here would respond to that with "tough shit", but that's not me. I do try to stay on topic but have been known to stray ;-)
While we don't generally do hall passes, as mentioned, there are cases where we'd consider it. Still, I will respect your wishes and will unsubscribe from this topic and refrain from any further input unless we decide to give the hall pass thing more of a try.
Get your argument about different dynamics which do sometimes include group, but your statement "We don't generally play separate" plays more to the point. If you do, and you know how to navigate some of the concerns you mention (especially cheating) - that's who this thread was created for. We have never had a problem vetting these situations. Vetting, and why this might NOT be for you, isn't the topic.
calcan - Part of the point, albeit with a large group play sidebar, was that the male half of hall pass couples that like being 1 of X guys on one girl tend to perform better than partnerless SMs that claim to enjoy that same type of play.
Another point was the difficulty trying to confirm someone actually has a hall pass without meeting both partners together. This is of course if people even care about cheaters. Some don't. No judgement, just fodder for hall pass discussions.
We don't generally play separate, but if one of us were with LS friends that we both know and they wanted to play, the hall pass would be a phone call or text veriifying it was OK. Neither of us would mind the other playing seperate like that, but it just isn't something we actively seek.
Think you landed on the wrong topic, mayhem. Nearly your entire response was about group play.
