Polyamory Couples

how are all of the poly couples doing out there. We are happy with our relationship

Before meeting this person, I would have qualified us as poly-caoable but we really weren't looking for a poly relationship.

Before that, if I had to guess at the dynamic I'd have thought we were more likely to be a throuple with another guy, though the Mrs likely would have had a harder time with the sex part than our current arrangement.

A large part of what enabled this is having been married and monogamous for 29 years before getting into the LS. Both of us are ultra secure in our relationship.

All 3 of us are swingers BTW and will continue to be.

[quote=mayhem8]funly - I realize it's more than MFM or FMF. It was just a lazy way of saying a throuple with 3 people made up of 2 men and a woman vs 2 women and a man. I also realize it can be more than 3 and that sex isn't the only defining factor.[/quote]I know you know. Thanks for clarifying for others.

How many people think they are both swingers and poly?

funly - I realize it's more than MFM or FMF. It was just a lazy way of saying a throuple with 3 people made up of 2 men and a woman vs 2 women and a man. I also realize it can be more than 3 and that sex isn't the only defining factor.

[quote=mayhem8]Just curious, but also wondering if it matters if it's a MFM or FMF poly arrangement. I'm thinking that, in theory, it shouldn't matter but not sure if that's the case in practice as there are a few variables.

Though we weren't really looking for one, we have become very close with a SF. My wife absolutely loves spending time with her, but in a GF way and not a girl on girl way. She also enjoys seeing me spend time with her as well as both a close friend and a lover. Our relationship is not just sexual and we do vanilla things with her as well.

From the Mrs perspective, my sex drive has always been much higher than hers. In a way, she finds having her around kind of gives her a break at times when it comes to sex.

While I absolutely love seeing the Mrs have fun with one or more guys and am OK with essentially being in a cuckold situation (sans humiliation) when there are no other women for me to play with at that moment, she is apparently enjoying being in a cuckquean situation. Makes sense, since we both enjoy seeing each other having fun with others and are both very giving by nature.

Our close friend is also VERY cognizant of treading lightly and views us equally when it comes to this very close relationship that has developed. We have found yet another person that is very giving and she has become like part of our family. Not sure where all this leads but it is an interesting journey, to say the least.[/quote]Poly is so much more than mmf, ffm, mfm, fmf. It is more about feeling for multiple people in any combination

Just curious, but also wondering if it matters if it's a MFM or FMF poly arrangement. I'm thinking that, in theory, it shouldn't matter but not sure if that's the case in practice as there are a few variables.

Though we weren't really looking for one, we have become very close with a SF. My wife absolutely loves spending time with her, but in a GF way and not a girl on girl way. She also enjoys seeing me spend time with her as well as both a close friend and a lover. Our relationship is not just sexual and we do vanilla things with her as well.

From the Mrs perspective, my sex drive has always been much higher than hers. In a way, she finds having her around kind of gives her a break at times when it comes to sex.

While I absolutely love seeing the Mrs have fun with one or more guys and am OK with essentially being in a cuckold situation (sans humiliation) when there are no other women for me to play with at that moment, she is apparently enjoying being in a cuckquean situation. Makes sense, since we both enjoy seeing each other having fun with others and are both very giving by nature.

Our close friend is also VERY cognizant of treading lightly and views us equally when it comes to this very close relationship that has developed. We have found yet another person that is very giving and she has become like part of our family. Not sure where all this leads but it is an interesting journey, to say the least.

GF and I are considering a "Poly" relationship. Pros and cons TIA

I had fun buying presents for my wife and my girlfriend. My wife helped pick out her presents.

Poly couple here ! Eastpointe mi seeking a female friend for friendship and possibilities ?? I’m 41 she’s 40 and we’re engaged.

We don't have Showtime, otherwise we'd check it out. Rarely, if ever, does anything LS related actually seem real on TV shows though.

The show is supposed to be a reality show, but I don't think it is very real or representative of real polyamory. I'm just looking for other opinions.

Have not seen the show you mention but am interested to learn more.

HAs anyone watched the Showtime show Polyamory?

has anyone listen to the podcast "normaliziing nonmonogamy?"

funly - "OK, can two couples that play regularly be considered poly at all. maybe they all have feelings for each other"

If I look up the meaning of polymory I get -

"The practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved."

If that definition is acceptable and there is that romantic component, I'd say Yes.

OK, can two couples that play regularly be considered poly at all. maybe they all have feelings for each other

Nope, I wouldn't consider that polyamorous because couplehood has primacy. To me, polyamory has the self as the center.

if you have regular playmates that you consider friends and you enjoy repeated play with them. Would you consider them polyamorous?

OHW - Some people seem to be happiest when they are miserable. There is a simple solution. You KNOW nothing good will come from them, so why not just block them?

I already think you're an asshole who has no respect for others' sexual orientation. Fuck off.

@ESP.I am beginning to think you have major mental issues.Seek help immediately.

Hey Esper if the site and the people on here are that bad why don't you just leave. The constant negativity that spews from you is ridiculous.

The person being bi-phobic doesn't get to decide what being bi-phobic means, or whether they are.

You all just keep proving what I have been saying all along about the misogynistic, phobic hypocrites all over this site. Keep it up.

LOL

Bisexuality is not a choice. It is not a toggle switch. It is not "half gay, half straight." It is not a role to be played. People who are questioning their sexual orientation can say exactly that -- that they are questioning. And this site should have that as an option. Bi-curious is NOT the same as bisexual, and I am tired of the two being glommed together, as should anybody who is either questioning or actually bi. Your fetishes are a different matter all together and should not be listed under a sexual orientation. Ultimately, all connection is about communicating and CONSENT.