It's one thing to trust one another. How do you ensure your sexy fun partners are safe, whether the person in the hookup or the spouse? I have seen and heard too many horror stories about people who try to infiltrate or triangulate.
People say they would never let that happen but you don't have control over others' behaviors.
How do you "screen" for some semblance of stability and respect of boundaries and your marriage?
Mayhem: We use groups to link up with parties, folks with similar interests, and even individuals. For us they've been pretty useful. But you are right. Most groups have very little activity on here. We're still leaning and happy to learn from the "swingeratti" like you, RonnKathy, Molly, and many others. We actually implement your suggestions and advice and it is working for us.
We have no desire to turn the LS into a money-maker for us. Thus, we will probably not sponsor major parties or get-togethers. We do have an interest in smaller gatherings on the water and at our home for open, fun people who like the same things. With all that said, we actually have an on-prem LS club very close to us and may approach them for some sort of event in the future. We don't want to work the party, just enjoy it. We will keep y'all posted.
Yes, mayhem8. The Groups feature of this site is second only to the Sex Stories feature in terms of near criminal lack of design and execution. Groups on other sites is way better. Especially those that are active and post events.
Will be interested to hear if this pans out. I've not really heard of any groups that ever got traction towards a goal of actually bringing people together, which is likely why there are so many groups that have died on the vine.
The closest I've seen to success are groups that actively have parties and are mostly limited to a specific area. There are always people that join groups hundreds of miles away thinking more is better, but then rarely if ever go back and actually participate in them.
Well done, Fraunhubby. We'll join your group.
I would be a little concered giving my wife a hallpass to a complete stranger. However we have talked about it as long as we know the other person/persons. The other way is having her pick up a guy in bar and bring him home and I would be at least in the area for safety purposes.. Just my thoughs. FYI have given hallpasses before with people we know.
I (the wife) am a hot wife with an unlimited hall pass. I am free to play with whom I choose or who he chooses. I really enjoy sex with other woman and men and my husband encourages me to enjoy myself. He enjoys the videos I send him. I’m also a unicorn for ladies and couples and enjoy pleasing the woman. He is also granted hall passes.
Calcan, all: We took your advice. We started a hallpass group on SLS.
Go to.... Groups / search on "HALLPASS COUPLES NATIONWIDE"
We'd love you all to join. We'd love you all to share your wisdom.
We have no monetary interest in this of any kind. We may set up parties in the future, or just let y'all chat about sexy and fun things. Who knows where it will go?
You should start one in the Groups section here. I don't think there is one yet that completely fits the bill.
CALCAN: Sexy dynamic. Your arrangement is very erotic to us. We're thinking we should make some form of hallpass community on here to link up chill and fun people like us.
fraunhubby68 - I like how mayhem8 added to the discussion the comparison for reasons behind separate room, which is important. We'll just add that we started playing solo at times out of necessity and a need to create more opportunities as busy parents to young kids and job schedules. It was just difficult to schedule dates, let alone dates with couples where there was mutual attraction and similar interests. Over time we've come to really enjoy hallpass solo play beyond being just something convenient. That's why we prefer to meet people where that's at least a consideration, even if they've never done that and may never be open to it. At least they respect that element and are considering it. We do still really enjoy doing group activities. As you know, some things that are fun can only be done in groups of more than two. Plus we enjoy the social aspect of the more the merrier. Lastly, with regular hallpass friends we sometimes pair off as a couple with them and go to parties and make dates with others in that way, which we find as another naughty and fun twist.
fraunhubby68 - "This leads me to the life-changing mantra or realization, that great women ought to have extra cock or vagina in their lives as a natural part of life."
Even without hallpasses, everyone should have extra genitalia of their preference in their life. I can see one reason for hallpasses being the same as why we do separate room play. Some people just perform better without their other half being present, or in the case of singles, without the other half of the couple being present.
CALCAN: You are wise. Since we're all starting to complain a bit, let's flip the script!
What makes hallpass so dang fun for you? ---Please chime in swinger illuminati!---
When Frau uses her hallpass, I can see a change in her emotions and the way she carries herself around me. Afterward, at home with me, she is both more relaxed and more confident. She an accomplished woman so no worry about self-worth with her.
But she is more confident and joyful afterward. I can only chalk that up to the freedom and affection she just experienced without having to pay attention to me emotionally or physically in the experience. We both LOVE being there when the other plays. but it's also rewarding when one spouse gets attention and affection and sizzling sex on their own. This leads me to the life-changing mantra or realization, that great women ought to have extra cock or vagina in their lives as a natural part of life.
Hallpasses UNITE!
A couple years ago we tried to do our part and help with the common terms and definitions portion of this site and many of the terms we suggested that truly are common knowledge were rejected simply because it was outside of the comfort zone and wheelhouse of ownership here. So I agree with Mayhem8. Some people in the LS have their heels dug in and refuse to give voice to things they don't understand or agree with. Living in the past policing things like the swinger lifestyle is still front door keys in a bowl and naked Twister on the living room floor. Just the way it is.
Mayhem: It could bring down the entire system it's so fragile.
fraunhubby68 - "Or we could get really radical and ask SLS IT geniuses to create a hallpass category and icon to place on profile pages. Is that a bridge too far?"
I'm going to say, Yes it is.
Maybe one of us should start a hallpass group page so we can meet each other in real life. At least we'd know the folks who are on the same page as us when we travel or go to parties. Or we could get really radical and ask SLS IT geniuses to create a hallpass category and icon to place on profile pages. Is that a bridge too far?
We're an open couple i have a permanent hall pass . She does her I do me .
It has worked for 18 years . I can't imagine having a better relationship .
He loves when I fuck other men and woman and always encourages it. I enjoy it as well and also encourages him to fuck other women. Got to enjoy life
Agree with amazons. Atta @bluff. :)
@Bluff
I don't think I have ever typed this before! :)
You GO GIRL!
IMO, if what you are doing works for you guys, AWESOME, keep doing it.
SOC.. why you ask, they age like fine wine and love and enjoy great sex.. us old guys , we enjoy what we can when we can but really enjoy the hotwife then coming home and reclaiming one etc. talking about every detail!
Its a fantastic thing!
I (the wife) am a hot wife with an unlimited hall pass. I am free to date, stay overnights and even travel with my lovers. I really enjoy sex with other men and my husband encourages me to enjoy myself. He does like the stories and the pictures my lovers and I send him. I also go on trips from time to time with my lovers. I also am a unicorn for couples and enjoy pleasing the men and the woman. I am not bi-curious, i am bi sexual. We have been in the livestyle for 25 years and have figured out how to make this work.
rtcpl2012.
You make a fair point on equability between sexes of a couple equally having hallpasses. Not sure that issue will ever be solved, however. And that in part we believe is due to statistics and the general male stigma. Let's face it, there are far more couples profiles where the male half is running the show than the female half. There are far more profiles where the male half reaches out as having a hallpass than the female half doing the same. It's not a surprise that more suspicion and distrust is cast towards the male half of the equation than the female half, especially when odds are male halves claiming they have it and don't is the more common experience statistically. Furthermore, there's a chance that some people are just so excited to see the rare female hallpass that they tend to look the other way more than the other way around. Just our 2-cents, for whatever it's worth. - E&M
This thread hit close to home. We’re a professional couple in our 60’s with over 15 yrs LS experience. Both wife and I have permission and the required trust to play alone. Only one rule, it has to be a couple and not one on one. Occasionally I’ll get chastised for being a cheating husband. My standard reply is “let’s put wife on the phone and she’ll confirm my hall-pass and answer any questions you might have”. I think in the last few years only one couple has agreed to this offer while two other couples have agreed we’re all grown ups and trusted we’re who we say we are. Conversely, my wife gets invites weekly to play one on one or with a couple and nobody ever questions her marital status or hall-pass status. I’m not sure if this is a plea for all LS couples to unite and level the “hall-pass” playing field for both husbands and wives or I’m just venting - LOL. At any rate, happy Memorial Day weekend everyone.
