Hallpass Couples UNITE

We certainly don't mind if couples want do separate play dates, but we would prefer to meet both initially and make sure that it's not a case of cheating.

Have we been fooled? Probably, but other than LS parties, we play with so few singles and have enough couples opportunities that it just isn't worth engaging with singles outside of a party other than an extremely rare (as in maybe once or twice a year) MFMM. We figure if we're going to do it, we'd prefer an MFMM or even an MFMMM over just an MFM.

Of course that raises the problem of finding guys that can perform around other guys AND that are interested in this sort of play. Many think it's super hot but we find when the rubber meets the road, a flat tire is likely ;-) A guy with a legit hall-pass is more likely to be able to pull this off than an actual SM.

This does allow us to build a stable of guys with tested performance, and that has value to us. A number of couples we know are interested in a party that allows the female half to play with multiple guys at once, and it's also something the Mrs enjoys and that I find hot too. Doing this allows us to accommodate that kind of fantasy for couples wishing to experience it, and we find it a lot of fun helping others fulfil their fantasies and we get to have fun in the process.

@AZ

Sorry to hear that.

As the male perspective, I am not out looking to hook up with someone that we do not know already. I am generally used more as the 'rent' a husband :) I am not trying to find SF to hookup with.

Our MO is to either find singles or couples. We either look for a MMF or MFM and then we can bail based on preferences. If it is a SF that is interested my wife will have a candid conversation and state, "If you want both of us, awesome, just him, awesome, just me, maybe." If it is a SM, I don't bother asking the guy, I ask my wife, "Do you want me there or not?"

This is how we solve it. I would never ever contact a couple and say, "Hi, I have a hall pass, let's fuck without my wife talking to either the husband or wife." Too much potential drama that way!

Every male we've ever interacted with on here who claimed to have a hall pass gave off the worst cheater vibes you can imagine. Not saying there are sone legitimate ones out there but none we've come across.

Just to clarify . . .

If we go to a party together, we do not leave separately, ever.

We are far from a same room couple. In fact, it has probably been twice in the last 6 years that we have been in the same room together, outside of MFM of MFF.

And as usual . . . what works for us may not work for others. It's ok. There is no right or wrong here, just what is right for you.

Works for you... but it's not for us.

We always go to a party and leave a party together. During the party we can each go our own way with or without the other.

Thread necromancy ftw!

We are a hallpass couple.

Our 'rules' are simple. At any time one of us can hook up with anyone we choose. We do not have to get permission or even let the other know. The only rule is that we have to let each other know after the fact. It is something that we use on occasion and prior to covid used it more often.

It started, well almost, a few years after we got in the lifestyle. We had a very good SF friend. The relationship was so tight that the SF was the only one ever who has met our child. We started in the early 90s! My wife and our child went on a huge road trip to visit my wife's family 1500 miles away. She called the SF and said it was OK to fuck me. She told me that it was ok to fuck the SF. The SF and I went to a local sex club. We didn't do anything at all. We were both unsure if my wife was joking, testing us, or serious. We erred on caution.

Fast forward to the mid 2010s . We have friends that put on parties about 200+ miles from us. We were going and a couple of days prior my wife gets a cold. I told her that I'd get in touch with the other couple and tell them that we will not make it. She said, "NO! You go without me." I tilted me head and looked at her oddly. I said, "Nah, it's ok." She argued back. I thought I was smart and said, "Ok, I'll go if the couple wants me." The couple throwing the party NEVER has single guys, EVER. The couple said, "No problem, send him on over." Damn, I got called out. I went. I got there Thursday night and was busy fucking Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday and then drove back. My wife would have fun and text me in the night and say, "Are you fucking someone? Who? Am I interrupting?" We would talk every night.

That opened the flood gates. There was single guy who lived three blocks from where she worked. I told her, if you want some afternoon delight, go ahead and have fun. She would see him once a month or so. There was another single guy that she liked that lived about 110 miles away. She scheduled an afternoon romp with him at a local hotel.

There is a SF that lives about 40 miles from here that I went to go see. There was a 24 year old that liked me that was local that used to come over to my office for some sex :)

There was a time a few years ago when she went to visit her parents in Florida. We used SLS to find a guy for her every night she was there. She got mad at me because I had to go to the bay area for a week and I didn't hook up with anyone. It is not because I couldn't, it was because I was friggin tired. I would get back at 9pm and then have to catch Bart at 5:20am. I just didn't have time.

So now, if either of us is going out of town solo, we are available. There are couples that like MFM's and they ask me over a lot. There are some couples who like MFF and she will go over on occasion.

It works for us. Neither of us thinks that we are going to leave each other for anyone else.

Great stories, RonKathy and profpres! Thank you.

Perhaps what I have is a one-way hallpass. I have a 6+ year semi-permanent FWB whom I see at least once a month, sometimes more. I am in CT and she lives in NYC. After her first marriage she had a history as a long time mistress (15-20 years) to a married man as well as dating and fucking others over 20 years ago (never in a threesome). I love hearing some of her sexy encounters. She has never had, nor is she interested now in threesomes or couple swap despite my desire and encouragement to see her playing with someone else - and eventually joining in. I have given her a hallpass and she has no use for it - not interested and says she is happy with just me at this point in her life. We have spoken of my desires for variety, and she has given me a hallpass to play, but with one rule - don't tell her if I use it! So while I would like to talk about my other experiences with her, she absolutely doesn't want to even know if I use the hallpass. It keeps her happy, and is a minor inconvenience for me as I would ordinarily share tales of other bedrooms with my partner and would love to hear hers (which are non-existent in the present, though fun and juicy in the past).

Humpy-Dumpty said to Alice. "Words mean exactly what I want them to mean - no more and no less." Given the general meaning of 'hallpass,' I may be stretching the definition, though Humpty would certainly approve.

We have been actively doing this well over 25 years with "select couples or singles" we trust. Example a well known single male friend with benefits in south Florida.. we have had 3sums and on many occasions such as a birthday or special time.. Kat goes out alone to play and then comes home where we love talking about her adventures and all while having more sex / love making.

In Georgia we have special friends with benefits.. we tell the other to get dressed and pack a bag.. we know that the other one has planned a special night with our select friend..dinner, dancing and drop off at a hotel to be driven home in the morning.. its exciting and it works for both of us!

Once again only the select special trusted FWB's.. get our over night sex adventures !

Trust, communication and no jealousy is the key for "us". Just fun sex times!

Calcan, that's what I did....lol

If anyone is still seeing something from N&N on this thread just block and move on.

Appreciate you, NcLookn. Thank you! :)

CalCan, just glad to offer some insight in how the LS works for us. No more, no less.

Yep. That's the one.

If it is N&N, I blocked him a while ago and no longer see his posts either.

I've blocked the troll. So I'll leave it to you all to report him if he continues the rampage since (thankfully) I can't see his posts anymore.

mayhem8 - that was a really thoughtful and well presented account. We all have very different circumstances of course. You've illustrated that very well. Thanks again.

To the short, round circle of a man that keeps trolling likely without his wife's knowledge. LOL.

I can see where scheduling issues could drive this, especially with kids. We pretty much didn't get into the LS until the kids were grown and gone. We had some kids boomerang, but they certainly didn't need babysitters at that point.

Schedule-wise, it's rare that one of us would be available and the other not, at times where people would typically be available to play. The Mrs works part time so could in theory do afternoon play, but said she's not really interested in doing that. I'm certainly not going to argue ;-) Besides, she still says that doing so would feel like cheating to her regardless of whether I'd be OK with it.

When we do have free play time , we are usually at a LS party if one is available or meeting with one or more couples if there are no parties. The fact that we can host in our home does make things easier for us.

Then there is that supposedly elusive 4-way connection thing. Honestly, it's rare that we don't find a 4-way connection with people we meet in person. Obviously a woman always has more opportunity than a man and there are a lot more men looking and less picky than women in general, but unless it's at a party and we know the other half is OK with the male half playing alone, we don't typically engage with SMs or MMs we don't know outside of parties.

All of this kind of boils down to us being in a situation where hall pass play opportunities really don't offer us much more than we have time for. Not ruling out that this could change at some point, but just not something we feel a need for at this point. It is nonetheless interesting to hear how hall pass folks got to that point.

Thank you for the response. It wasn't a being apart thing for us to move the needle in that direction. It had more to do with child care and opportunity. The first time was supposed to be a couple meet when we had child care, but then child care fell though and we felt bad and tried to reschedule for the next night. When child care fell through again, we agreed that Meg would just go it alone and I would take the kids to the Strawberry festival lol. Lots of mixed emotions drinking smoothies that day with the kids, but in the end it was surprisingly all good. Met a really cool couple we preferred shortly after and went from same room, to separate rooms, to playing alone pretty quickly. Pushing boundaries. For us, it was about finding the right people to push boundaries with to know we were comfortable with that dynamic. People we trust and share a mutual respect with. Now we simply talk about things (communication is the key) and as part of our lifestyle (not all of it) allow for each to find their own and do what feels right. We just find with having young kids and scheduling issues, separate hallpass offers much more opportunity so we gravitate towards those open to that option more than those who are not.

@calcan - You say it took you a while to get to this point. Just curious as to how long?

I can see this being more common in couples that spend time apart from each other. In our case, that doesn't happen, but if it did on any sort of regular basis, it may be something that we'd consider.

Neither of us would have a problem with it now, especially if it was with one of our close friends, but we do enjoy seeing/hearing each other having fun nearby.

I do realize that the largest sex organ sits between a person's ears though, so get why it would be hot sharing adventures. Sometime what you imagine happened is as or even more erotic as being there to actually see it. We have already noticed something like that when we are in nearby rooms playing and can hear, but not see, each other.

The anger and need for unnecessary conflict in some never ceases to amaze me. I'll just assume you have some real **** going on at home or at work. You have a good weekend as well.

Troll away then. That's apparently what you're here for. I'm here to talk about lifestyle stuff, are you? I'm sorry if the intro got you triggered. That wasn't the intent. Just trying to focus the discussion since so many threads on here seem to devolve from the original topic. Wasn't trying to be exclusive or anything like that. But I do agree it could have been worded better.

NcLookn - thank you for the reply. Very salient point about no secrets. Open communication and honesty are really key to making it happen. Teamwork makes the dream work!

Naughty. I said it was open to people considering hallpass, too. If you are neither, then why did you even click on this thread?

We both have hall passes with the couple we're currently seeing. We have been with them for 2 months. It is difficult to line up our schedules for play time, but it's very worth it when we do. I've (Mr) had solo playtime with my lady friend. Mrs has had solo playtime with her gentleman caller as well. We established hall passes after we got comfortable with them and each other.
Hall passes are only given with trust and after meeting initially in a neutral environment and the rules are laid out. I may wear the pants, but Mrs controls the zipper. We don't keep any secrets in our relationship, public or lifestyle.

Hopefully this helps....Mr Nc