Do you ever get jealous?

I don't get jealous because when she's done she is going to be coming home with me then I get to fuck her.

Jealous? If someone gets jealous then maybe they should re-evaluate their membership. Stick to being vanilla.

Ditto that Mary Jo

I get jealous reading about others having sloppy seconds and cream pies....Mary Jo

What about mimosas now?

honestly I don't get jealous, I am proud because at the end of the night that mamasota goes home with me.

Anyway, I'm more prone to envy than jealousy, and it's a lighthearted envy at that

I am used to people liking my wife more than I as she is hot and interesting.

As far as being jealous, yes, but it is not a valid emotion when swinging. Meaning that if you can not control it/eliminate it you should not be in lifestyle.

@One - Perhaps a St Andrew's cross, nipple clips and assortment of floggers? ;-)

Mmmmmmmmm A sex buffet. Now that would certainly be fun. What would be at the desert bar?

MNJFLA - We have run into parties where people are just there to party (i.e. get drunk, talk). If those are parties that allow SMs, you know they're going to be there to play. It can make for a lousy party vibe.

Over time, parties tend to develop "regulars", so you may be likely to see the same sort of thing at the same parties. It's one of the reasons we have our own parties. In our case, many of the women at ours not only want to play, they want multiple guys, so having SMs works out for everyone. Leaving one of our parties wanting for sex is like leaving a buffet hungry ;-)

Not really jealous but when we attend a party we expect people to play. The last house party we attended the men were all over my wife. The wives just sat there and got drunk never played. We attend parties as a couple and expect to at play with one or two couples there. I even tried to play with the lady of a couple, we had played with before, and invited them to our house once. The lady was so drunk she could not find her ass with both hands. He tried kissing my wife at the pool where we live and I sent them a note basically saying we were no longer interested and do not bother my wife either. We have not heard from or seen them since. We are not afraid to say no not interested, duck and run, whatever it takes. Sometimes we feel bad hurting peoples' feelings, but on the other hand we are not into " mercy fucking." We do not do "separate dates," "hall passes" etc. For some it is great for us it may work if we find a couple we really want to be with. Enjoy reading peoples' comments.

Goodness, no. We have a very secure, happy relationship and it's a privilege to be her husband and lover, I'm always excited to see the buzz she generates in a room full of other attractive folks, and I'm thrilled to share the fun. It's a real enhancement to take things to a higher level than vanilla folks ever experience.

Never jealous.My wife loves to fuckabd when I see her fucking I know she is enjoying herself and that makes us both happy.Since this virus it has made her sad lol

Onehorneywife......AGREE! The purpose of sexual freedom is ultimately happiness...whether it be your spouse's or yourself. Being completely open with each other is an incredible feeling...I love seeing her sucking on a huge cock, then fucking it, as long as she is enjoying herself.....I have her heart, and she has mine...

When we meet another couple that we are both into there really are not any no kissing rules or much of anything else. We both enjoy seeing each other having a pleasurable time with a partner whether it is her sucking a cock or getting fucked it is all about the enjoyment of having hot sex.

I get so excited watching her suck another man's cock.

I've told her as long as I'm there to enjoy it with her

That story I told happened long ago before we even knew about a no kissing rule. When we first started, the Mrs felt funny about kissing but quickly decided it was kind of silly.

Now, if dealing with newbies, we at least know to ask if it hasn't come up. Something like this experience is VERY rare. Way more often than not we have very positive experiences with the newbies that we actually meet and play with. In one case we thought we may have pushed a limit, but when I checked with the couple afterwards they said, "Are you kidding? We high-fived all the way home." ;-)

We know some people with the no kissing rule. I don't think it's due to jealousy, but more to keep romantic things to themselves and share just sex with others, where they put kissing in the romantic category. Not our thing, but don't fault them for it.

Mayhem,

Your story is the kind of thing that has shying away from meeting for a foursome. We still do (precovid), but we tend to really move slowly. We are especially leery of new couples and people looking for “friends”. We know that works for some folks, but we don’t play all that often, and the work required can be exhausting if the other couple isn’t quite sure about what they want.

People have their own rules and reasons for them. We may not understand or agree, but they do, and that’s all that matters. Provided you know upfront, you have all of the info you need to decide whether or not you want to join her/them in an adventure.

Personally, I don’t understand it, but I respect their right to have rules and preferences, and choose not to expend any energy railing against that.

BT

So, it's ok for your wife to put his cock in her mouth, or her pussy on his mouth, or even his wife's mouth....

But putting your lips or tongue on his wife's mouth is out of bounds? Geeze...

Makes me think of other ppl who bareback, cum in the Mrs mouth or even let a guy put a dick in his wife's ass, but get pissed over a kiss.

We had one case where a GF was jealous that the BF was paying too much attention to the Mrs. She basically passed out on the couch and woke to me and her BF doing an MFM with the Mrs. This was after we all swapped/played.

She didn't say anything but I could visibly tell she was upset, so went to try to comfort her. We wound up passionately kissing and then she seemed OK.

The next day I get a scathing email from the BF how I really "crossed the line" with the kissing. That was literally the first time we ran into a couple with a no kissing rule, and they never told us they had that rule.

To add insult to injury, I get an email from her saying she kissed me with the purpose of making him jealous. He actually showed up at the door one day by himself unannounced hoping to do an MFM. I never even let him in the door and told him it's not something we normally do with one half of a couple. He said he happened to be in the area and just wanted to say Hi. That was the last we saw of either of them.

Envious ,perhaps a little sometimes.
Jealous ,not at all. I am proud of her.