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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Are you ready? Are you ready? Of course I'm ready. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth. I was was already, but I need to gargle. I'm the host with the most coal. I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and no more underboob sweat, Miss Amanda. Hey. You need to say that more sexy. We're talking about your underboob. Anyways. You wouldn't touch it, so leave me alone. Because it was gross. It was fresh underboob. Underboob is under boob. You're talking about sweat. I know, but sweat's not like glaze. It's not like a glaze. Ooh, it's hot and warm. Sweat is not like, oh yeah. It doesn't make it. Never mind. I would think you'd want to touch my body anywhere you could. Not when it's all sweaty and nasty. I've had 29 years to get to do that, and I enjoy touching it when it's clean. Just saying. Or if I've been drinking a lot, it doesn't have to be as clean. I mean, there's different types of dirty that I like with it, but just because you've been laying outside sweltering, ooh. Seriously, the next time, I'm going to mow right before I pick you up tomorrow, and then I'm going to see if you'll fucking toggle my one nut. No, I wouldn't. Ooh, touch under my one nut. Lift up the flab and see what it feels like. Ooh. Soupy. Nom. Anyways, this is a... Big difference. My boobs aren't close to my ass. Well, with one ball and neither is my ball. It sits up high. It's not hanging as low anymore so shut up i give up yeah salty like taffy is that caramel i taste is that a chunk of apple why no no it's not you're so gross that's so gross anyways uh so this is for those of you following along at home, we don't even know why, but we're sure glad you still give a fuck. After last week, I was listening to my guy on, oh, last week was a disaster. Yeah, it was horrible. So this is season four, episode 155. I say that like it means something. It really doesn't just us. It's one more than 154. That's how many flipping episodes. That's a lot. It is. We are actually one of the few that are still going, that are out there, that are doing this every single week. Whether you want to hear it or not, we just keep fucking talking. Just saying. If you don't want to, just scroll on by. Just scroll back. We'll live. So anyway, so real quick, let do a shout-out to our paid sponsors, shall we? We shall. Awesome. Awesome. First, altplayground.net. Hey, you know what? We talk about it. What's the best way to get laid? You need to meet people. How do you meet people? You need to greet people. Where should you go, dude? I know. How about a meet and greet? That's right. If you sign up, you can find out where they're hosting meet and greets all over through the month of may uh it's like may day that never ends uh welcome to the merry merry month of may i was thinking the same thing i wasn't even gonna do it so sign up today we're on their alt playground.net check them out there are some cool meet and greets all over the place some are good friends like kinky freemind host some in atlantic or in oklahoma city there's some in detroit there's some in uh new jersey there's there they're everywhere so all playground.net and we're super excited to have our new sponsor smoking meats barbecue treats that's right now here's the thing smoking treats barbecue smoking meats barbecue treats so cody and amanda uh they were nice if not only here's the value of being a sponsor
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So there you go. Do that, obviously. So, yeah. Whew. Whew. magazine.com ramos won't care i check him out today so uh there you go do that obviously uh so yeah whoo whoo he's gonna look at me who would like me so okay this show before we get to anything serious i gotta tell you what hi leah hey shannon hey mike uh for those of you who don't know where the fuck have you been we record this in, secret. No, live, live, secret, secret. I'm stoned. We record this in front of our secret Facebook crowd group, Kazba Inc. Shh, don't tell the others. So you'll hear us interacting and they will be interjecting and we'll be interacting with them. Okay. But a couple of great things. So it sucks because there's only two of us and we can only go so many places. And last night in our area, there was like seven different things going on. So, we were only able to get to one, obviously, but we had a great time. And I got to tell you, I'm 48, almost 49 years old. No, I'm kidding. I'm sorry. We'll let everything, the dust settle from the almost half century mark here.
Speaker2:
Slowly settle the dust down from her old last lungs.
Speaker1:
Anywho, we went partying with some folks, a birthday celebration and whatnot.
Speaker4:
And I learned some shit.
Speaker2:
I learned some shit.
Speaker1:
I learned something that is so important that I learned it. I'm already telling you'm naming the episode of this show and i had to share it and it has nothing to do with anything else the title of this the episode is going to be called blowing in a chicken's ass that is what it's called because now here's what's so cool so get this so one of the folks we're hanging out with, many, many moons ago, cockfighting was legal in Nebraska and a lot of places. She just came on. Yeah. Her dad was like big. This is totally when it was totally legal, okay, was big into this. And so what i learned was what they did to piss the chickens off or the the cocks off they would grab them spread their legs and literally blow in their ass oh i must have been gone at that you were and i told everybody to keep quiet because i didn't want you to know so they would literally blow in a chicken's ass and to piss them off and the the thing that makes this so great is i go i even said i'm like well that would fucking piss me off too someone like all of a sudden somebody was holding my legs and started blowing in my ass it's like that would piss me off so oh my god so and and i i i verify because i'm like sure they're not pulling but yeah that's it's a way they would piss chicken they would pick piss cocks off is you know they would blow in their blow in their ass so so there you go look the truth isn't always just about swinging truth but now all i can think of is this hey do you know if you i'm just putting this out there's a poll i think that if you were with a guy or a girl and you just randomly blew in their ass that it would probably piss you off too i mean what an effective i don't know what it piss you off i would be caught off guard well caught off guard i'd be like what in the fuck are you doing you're blowing in a you're blowing yeah so there you go that that is so um i just i'm just i had to share that and you know what and i guarantee when i put that as the name of the show people will want to listen because they'll be like what the fuck what the fuck now uh yeah so blowing in a chicken's ass we learned a lot of things last we did i also heard the greatest line and this is this is. We were partying with some fucking funny fuckers. And one guy talked about how he used to, he had a co-worker. And they're like, what are you doing? And he's like, oh, I was out tuning pussy. And the guy's like, what? And it's like, so you go, you're blowing on a girl's pussy and a girl's pussy. You're stretching the pussy lips until it hits the right tone, tuning pussy. So there you go. I promised I would say tuning pussy on here too. So this show is all, that's probably what the title will be. Blowing in a Chicken's Ass and Tuning Pussy. That's going to be episode 155, Tuning Pussy and Blowing in a Chicken's Ass. There you go. Yeah, so.
Speaker3:
All right.
Speaker1:
Who needs a pitchfork?
Speaker2:
Ding.
Speaker1:
Oh, my God. I got to tell you, you're just never too old to keep learning. That's what I learned from blowing in a chicken's ass. you know the best part of that is seriously okay and think about this this actually ties in with sex think about most of the sex things that that people do nowadays somebody had to be the very first person to do that. So think about this. Somebody was like, my chicken's not pissed.
Speaker3:
How did they experiment to make him pissed?
Speaker1:
Yeah, exactly. The thing is, that's the thing is, is that somebody went, what can I do to get my chicken pissed?
Speaker3:
Blow on his ass.
Speaker1:
Let's see what happens if you blow on his ass. There you go, winner, winner. And it's the same thing. I mean, seriously, somebody at one point in time was the first chick or guy whatever to ever suck a dick or to ever eat a pussy or to ever eat ass or to ever do you know who somebody was like what if i put electricity on my genitals let's see what that does think think how new this is when did edison invent the light bulb i don't get you realize just how new that fucking shit is okay so you think about all think about all this shit at some point in time all the weird shit that you've ever heard but vibrators were what was it for it was to get the crazy out no well yeah there was that but was that But it was like It was like a cactus with bees in it Hollowed out with bees in it That was like the Egyptians, yeah That's what I read, wasn't it? Yeah, and then like in the old west time Doctors thought that it would get When women were being bitchy and crazy That they'd give Well, yeah, bitchy because it's like a dick. And it didn't work. The crazy's still there. The crazy's strong with this one. But still, seriously, somebody had to think of that. So did you enjoy the comedian that we had? Because Ginny reminded us that it was 120 pussy jokes. I did think it was funny because... She wouldn't have kept going if Lisa didn't cheer her her on right yeah no no shit it's when she said when she said she goes you know i like doing college kids but you don't know where it's gonna go but i feel like with you guys i have a better chance of going home with you she didn't know we're in the lifestyle we're like little do you know you have no fucking idea and she was cute enough i'd have fucked her yeah but she was there like her kid because her kid had earphones on which that had been awkward does your son have to come in can he just wait in the car anyway so yeah no but i mean it was uh we had a great time so a great time i learned stuff and and now i have things to think about at the pussy jokes i didn't really most of them were kind of lame but but they were kind of funny but they you know the thing is is i know shit is I know shit to think about at three in the morning. For those of you that work with me or anything like that, you know that you'll get emails from me at weird times because I think weird and keep weird hours. Wait, you do? So things like who thought of, you know, blowing on a chicken's ass, that's jeopardy right up my fucking alley. I wouldn't have put my mouth close to it.
Speaker2:
Well, I don't know. That's just it. I didn't ask if it was like a balloon thing where you had to be like really close or what. So, I don't know. Oh, yeah. The other thing. So, before we actually go on a question, for those of you watching our YouTube channel, which hopefully is all of you, you're all tuned in to our YouTube channel. No, I did not cut my hair. I just took a shower.
Speaker1:
So, that's why it's still wet. That's why it's all poofy bad so uh lord yes that one i like that okay all right are we ready to get on with the show i know i was i was the one spewing all these fucking no but it's part of the show yeah to cure hysteria if it only worked hot flash shove something in your cooter boy i could have did that i could have been a have a hot flash or shove something in your cooter shove something in my cooter did you have a hot flash too no that means the next hot flash you can't touch yourself no i'd love i've been a great doctor back in the day you were sleeping i was tired i'd been a great doctor back in the day she's batshit crazy here bang her with this Thank you. been a great doctor back in the day you were sleeping i was tired i'd been a great doctor back in the day she's batshit crazy here bang her with this they don't feel good here have something suck on them like here's a root i don't know whatever get some butter and duct tape who knows okay okay and this is why our show is so highly rated and rank right here. Hey, we were just talking about our night out. No shit. And I didn't even leave drunk. I did have cocktails. I did enjoy them. And I appreciate it. I had all my drinks bought for me, and I appreciate that. Lush. My liver does not, but I do. And that's all that matters. Fuck my liver, little bastard. Okay. So say something intelligent while I read this real quick. I'm not intelligent, though. That doesn't help me read when I'm giggling, damn it. Oh, such a smart comment I could make. Believe it. Nothing. Go on. No, please share. No, because I was about to say no giggling with dicks in your mouth, but I'm like, well, I'd kind of be wrong. It was your saying. It really didn't fit. Someone's getting hysterical. No, I've been told how much I'm forgetting everything that's being told to me that's all right don't worry you won't remember the conversation tomorrow it'll be fine it's okay pumpkin i've got friends for me hi i'm cool um it's just a sign of age anyways if anybody's a divorce attorney please send me a message okay. Okay. All right. So I got a question. And this question is from... I was told to make up my own name. Okay. Cole. No, because people think I wrote it in my own name. Okay. This message is from... This isn't a message. This question is from Clyde. And Clyde's from Portland. For those who are basketball fans will know that reference. Okay, Clyde. Guys, I wanted to ask this question because I want to remain completely anonymous. Clyde, you're in good hands. Anyways, uh, I'm fairly well versed in experiencing the lifestyle. We've had lots of fun experiences and not much shocks us or makes us uncomfortable. Now, I preface this question by saying that I am not a major catch or anything special. I would say I'm pretty average if that, laugh out loud. So, what are some good strategies for a guy to deflect advances from a lady he's not interested in playing with? Women completely get a pass as far as aggressiveness. It seems like women assume that because you're a man, you'll put your dick in anything that moves which is untrue at least for me and unfair i genuinely like all of my lady lifestyle friends because they're nice people and i like hanging around with them but that does not mean i want all of them to stick their tongue in my mouth bite my lip or put their hands down my pants it's much easier for my wife because she's a woman and in in their world no means no she can be rude about it if she has to be and everybody completely supports her uh had an example of him standing up to his ground and the woman took it horribly wrong and got all got uh been out of shape and cried and he became the dick of the situation nice okay uh so now because of that because of that situation my wife and i just played the protection game where she knows who is a no for me and will interject when i need it any other practical ideas okay and yes dan that's exactly right clyde drexler from the trailblazers good job uh that is a great question okay so i've reached out to clyde and and here's the thing we're gonna i want to talk about obviously answer his question specifically but i think it's a good thing to talk about it's a bigger question it's the only question i chose for tonight because i think there's a bigger topic here to talk about you know how we changed formats last week and so now i'm changing it again hey look at me go roll the dice daddy needs a new pair of shoes um okay so first of all yes and shannon just said it the double standard does suck in lifestyle and and we've talked about this before because i've lived this i have lived this and and the example i always like to use is is if you go to a strip club and i haven't been a bouncer years ago at a bar i've seen this firsthand you go to a strip club pretty much every guy knows keep your fucking hands to yourself you don the girls. You don't talk shit. You don't try to grab them. You don't any of that shit. If you're getting a lap dance, your hands are down on your side. I mean, any more of a girl wants you to touch them at a strip club, they usually have to tell a guy two or three times, yeah, it's okay, because it's just ingrained in us. Now, why do they have bouncers at strip clubs? Because guys get drunk and they forget to do do something stupid and they get their asses thrown right the fuck out the door right the comedian last night made comments about this yeah going to a strip club and how she was pulled up on stage and with her by a hot girl and she pulled her legs open and she was able to fucking touch the girl and it's all okay and when you go to a lot of strip clubs it's not as much as it used to be women go and they can touch the girls they can do about whatever they want and if you do an all-male fucking review if you've ever been security or have the chance to see this women there are no fucking rules let's let's back up a little bit though because i went to an all-male review you did and the guy besides the fact that he jumped up on my chair the chair arms that i was sitting in and stepped on my fingers and pissed me off from the get-go he took the five dollar bill i had in my hand for my own personal lab dance because felt sorry for the guy because he didn't have anybody wanting to do it. He proceeded to take my hand and shove it down his sweaty pants. Yes. Yes. Or G-string, whatever. I was not appalled, but... But you... Okay, but you're the rare exception to that rule. Okay. They threw me into public. Nice reference. But you're exception to the rule because you don't get off on a bunch of just seeing swinging dicks a lot of chicks don't but they get in these situations and you have seen women that you saw other women there grabbing them i mean they would have taken back and fucked them those those strippers can those male strippers can get laid at will if they want to. Multiple times a night. Probably. Because, and I've seen women, everything from like 19 was the age they were allowed to come in to 70. Fucking going absolutely apeshit crazy. And the thing is, is if a group of guys did this. Can you picture your mom doing that? Oh my God. That's just what I want to see. Come here. the thing is if you had a bunch of guys if you had one guy start groping a fucking chick like that i'm telling you stick your fucking fingers just rub your finger on a girl's cooter at a strip club and watch how fast that bouncer breaks your fucking hand very true now understandably so i'm not. I'm not, you know, I'm just saying. So there is a double standard, and that sucks. And that's something that it absolutely fucking blows in the lifestyle overall. Shannon just put, I was kicked out of a meet and greet several years ago for politely saying no because I was being mean. Here is the fundamental fucking problem. And this is a huge problem in the lifestyle it's i i there's a couple places i put the blame for this but we continuously allow shit like double standards like this to happen we allow situations to happen where a woman can turn on the tears or can throw a big scene or whatever and the guy is the asshole let me preface this whole thing or let me say this with that If a guy touches a woman And she says no She should do whatever she needs to do to make sure that attention is drawn absolutely and everybody every other guy should support that woman in that and every other woman should support that woman that whoever says no everybody else should support them the problem with this is is not that someone gets emotional gets pissed off because they didn't get their way it's that everybody else in the crowd automatically assumes no only means no if a woman says it that's bullshit i agree it's it's but it's a bigger problem it's a problem with society overall what is the first thing everybody does if there's a fight breaks out people instead of trying to get help or if a situation of fire breaks out instead of trying to get help they got video phones out they want to record it this is the same thing so the deal is this i'm sorry that their fault falls number one I don't know. to get help they got video phones out they want to record it this is the same thing so the deal is this i'm sorry that their fault falls number one and everybody else around them okay one guys just like women you should be careful where you're at you should know where you're at at all the reasons anytime you're with somebody or wherever you are in a in a lifestyle event as a woman you need to know where you're at who's around you do you have people around you are you safe so you're not being cornered spouses you need to look out for each other friends look out for each other guys it's the same fucking thing i'm going to tell you the best thing you can do if you're getting touched unwindedly by a female is to get back to the group, get to, so there's other people around. So there is not a you and a he said, she said situation. Get to a fucking group and then say no and then say no. But I want to point and say to people in the crowd, you have a responsibility with this. need to step up and go hey you know what knock it off he said no you don't have a right to touch him get just as fucking pissed off i mean do you think as a woman it's okay do you think as a woman could you could you say you know what quit your fucking crying he said no you're wrong could you say that you know what? Quit your fucking crying. He said, no, you're wrong. Could you say that to another woman? Telling her to pretty much keep her hands off? If it wasn't me. It's not your husband. It's another guy. Well, yeah, I would in a heartbeat. He said, no, leave him alone. Yeah, and that, and that, and the... I've done that. You have done that done that yeah you have done that the the problem is here here's where it becomes a uh it's not it doesn't just become a problem with just a guy look these are the same fucking women that also will latch on to another woman because they think it's okay whether the girls bi or bi-curious or not will latch on to another woman they'll do the exact same thing we've seen it a million times it look it sucks because as a guy okay we all watch the sexual harassment tapes when did we start the show by the way fuck it just now 26 minutes ago i know it sucked when you watch when you at your job and you watch sexual harassment videos they show scenarios where guys are getting harassed okay they have statistics guys are abused by females in real life guys are sexually i know what that sound is that's the sound of morse code send help no they have they it's proven fact but it's not reported it's not reported or when it is there is no one takes it serious no one believes it no one fucking believes it at all am i going gosh i think i've touched a guy on the outside of his pants walking everybody was in the lifestyle but it doesn't make it right but you send me dick pics you know i might tease you a little bit well and the thing is is if you if a guy has said don't you had a guy say don't touch my nipples yes and you and i went oh no okay exactly and that's and that's the difference is that it's you it falls number one the people around make all the difference because you are the ones that have to stay and go, hey, wait a minute, that's not okay. He said don't. Ladies, you are the ones that have to step the fuck up in this. I like how he has his wife come and intervene. their, what do you call it, what they say, they call it the protection game. The sad thing is you shouldn't have to have a protection game. I mean, granted, yes, you should as a couple.
Speaker3:
No, but you do because you have some people that just don't understand what no means.
Speaker2:
Yes.
Speaker3:
Or they think it's okay. And whether it be someone that you're friends with and you don't have the heart to tell them no.
Speaker1:
Which we're going to get into that. We'll be right back. means yes or they think it's okay and whether it be someone that you're friends with and you don't have the heart to tell them no which we're going to get into that we're going to that's going to be part of what i want to cover because sometimes that does happen but you still have to so instead of hurting their feelings or whatever you have to intervene yeah exactly now shannon just put something uh where was it right there it is it's due to that fact and a couple other circumstances that i'm apprehensive to approach a lady ladies you want to know why guys are are nervous about it because these types of things happen all the time because if you come up not because it touching not because they're apprehensive because of it in a he said she said situation even with people watching it you're playing a dangerous game as a as a guy a little bit you have to be you and everybody should have to be smart and be careful and be conscientious just because we're in a lifestyle we're not pieces of meat but still this is i there are some things that i think women we allow in the lifestyle to continues to happen and this is a big one and women need to be called out for it because a woman they've done studies on this if you are the defense attorney and your client's accused of rape a defense attorney is going to try to get as many women on the jury as they can because they've done studies to show that women are less apt to believe other women okay so they've done studies they've i mean is a science they've got this shit figured out right so but for some reason in a lifestyle situation like this when something like that happens it's like all of a sudden women can't believe that a guy could have said no i mean granted we understand it's the same general where we generalize and say all single males are fucking dicks that it's time we have to stop that shit you know and i'm sorry women you have a responsibility when you see it going on as another woman you have a responsibility to say something because i can step in as a guy and go he said no that's not gonna do shit but you step in and two other women step in and say hey not get the fuck off he said no i wouldn't say it like that if i go to a the hope party host and say i'm getting groped i want this to stop they will blow me off not all of us some of i will throw a woman out of my event just as fast as i'll throw any guy out fyi but if a woman goes up and goes i'm being groped totally different ball game women you need to go up and tell people when this is happening you need to go find the party host because guess what if she won't stop molesting the dude if she's by or thinks she's by and you better want to get groped because your ass could be next so you you have to stand you have to do something about it it's so it's frustrating as hell i mean you're just sitting there looking at me. Look, here's the thing. Your mouth goes 90 miles an hour, especially when you get on a tangent, and I'm not going to interrupt you. I'm going to let you keep talking. Shut the fuck up. I am reading your shirt and not talking, so shut up. No, you have to jump in, because that just sounds like me on a rant. I'm going to get bad going that i'm just like woman bashing i'm not no but there was one time you did do we did a show like when you're not ruptured we did a show on it and you got made fun of by other guys going gosh i don't know what kind of parties you go to that people are groping you all the time yeah yeah and the joke of being oh what oh you don't want to be touched yeah and it says guys no it broke my fucking nut open it's weird but yeah and there's the problem other guys then go what are you a pussy come on you want to be touched yeah it's all fun and games till it's you yeah and i'm not one to to grope guys usually no well here's the thing give me enough that well no even if it's somebody i don't if i know them really well i'll rub the outside of their pants i will not grab i won't tug i won't yeah i can pull the thing is is and you have to tell me the thing is is that yeah you're past it most people are are am i really yeah fuck most people are really really good about it but it's just something we all have to make a difference look we're getting ready to throw crazy summer nights clothing optional if you think of it this way if you'd walk up and just do it to somebody if you wouldn't do it to them when they're just naked you probably shouldn't do it to them when they have clothes on just saying okay so hold on we're gonna take a quick break real quick uh hey don't forget about crazy summer nights we are all sold out of everything but tent spaces so if you have a tent you can still come out this is going to be a party and half check it out crazy there's hotels close by uh there is and again also don't forget to check out forbiddenomaha.com they're one of our sponsors for crazy summer nights we're so excited to have them they're going to be out there and they are there you can find links to their website uh and you want to check them out it's a lot of fun we're also going to be having the milf we're going to be naming the first annual uh crazy cats milf who's going to be competing in hedo for you should get a free trip to hedo chance, a chance to compete for Miss International MILF Champions. International? Or National Champion, World MILF by Connect Travel. So you want to make sure you check them out or check that out as well. And also, don't forget to, you know, you listen to the shows, you read the mag, come on, go buy some swag at fullswapshop.com. There we go. Okay, so we're going to move back on. So I'm all over in this, man. I'm like, you know, that's right. And Mike has a great point. Consent is consent. Gender should not matter. That's exactly it. Agreed. Consent is consent. And it's becoming more and more important. But here's my downfall on playing the wife role is we'd get done with the party and go, oh my God, I had like five women just grab my crotch. And I'm like, I didn't even see it. So I wasn't paying attention to what was happening to you. But that ultimately falls on me because here's the other reality of this i love this question because it took balls to write it okay because i've been just as much part of the problem because i'm willing to just go i just basically power through it i just powerly i power through it because i don't want to create an issue and i'll tell you about it later or i'll you know when i when we smoked i I'm like, okay, fucking when you see X, Y, Z, they will not quit fucking groping me. And that's just as look i get i all the time i say that you have to let people know if shit's happening and and it's the same way and that that's we all have to make a conscious effort to combat it which means you know fuck being afraid of other guys hassling us girls standing up and saying something i mean it's it's all of us it's not we're all just as guilty because it is mike said it best consent is consent that's the bottom line and that's the the problem is that we put a gray area where there is no gray area yes it's okay or no it's not yes i have permission or no i don't so i want to talk about i want to carry that the other part of this is this kind of tags or or i guess put it out there and and brought to my attention a little bit because this is something we deal with a lot and have and i i think every couple does if you're in the lifestyle long enough and i just spit all over the microphone you have rub it in harder baby oh the thing is is that how do you how do you convey we we're people that don't want to hurt people's feelings so you get offers all the time people want to hook up with with not just with a couple you see a couple you really want to hook up with them and so you let them know that you have a desire to hook up with them and it's it's hard because you don't want to hurt people's feelings but in the lifestyle we all say that this is a lot like everybody uses condoms 100 of the time by the way there's stds uh but not everybody really does so everybody goes oh no you know we're honest and we just tell people we're not interested bullshit that's a huge fucking lie because we're all afraid of the very scenario of someone getting all bent out of shape and talking shit and all hurt and ruining friendships and everything else when we are not interested and so the question becomes how do you actually do that I mean that this is I'm the wrong person to ask on that one well this is I guess I wanted to be for us we try to help people when we try to answer questions but it just shows that nobody has all the answers for one but yes in a perfect world being honest is the easiest is the right way to do it but is it
Speaker3:
notice the silence i'm like going you know there's times where okay at one point i'm not interested in somebody but that doesn't mean that the next party i'll go let's go
Speaker1:
Thank you. Well, I'm like going, you know, there's times where, okay, at one point I'm not interested in somebody, but that doesn't mean that at the next party I'll go, eh, let's go. Well, yeah, exactly. Because I've done that. Exactly. Yeah, no, and that you're exactly right. So I don't, I don't know. I'm just one of those that doesn't like to hurt feelings. Okay, so Jean has a really good point. Seems like people get more relaxed in the lifestyle and forget the rules everyone needs reminders that's very true with the consent absolutely and i i think i think this is this whole question overall and all parts of it we all need this reminder too just because we're not interested today doesn't mean we won't be interested tomorrow it doesn't there you know to me the lifestyle there's a degree of spontaneity very much so in the microphone that time congratulations so i mean okay so we're different i know a lot of people really need a really big comfort level and whatever i still subscribe to the sport fucking concept sport fucking means hey you know what some days i feel like a pickup game of fucking some days i don't so it doesn't mean that i won't feel like a pickup game tomorrow right so i don't for me i've had personally had more issues performance issues with shit that's set up i don't actually think i'm trying to think if there's ever been one literally that was like on the fly everything's going good fucking you know what hey let's go fuck let's go hook up then my shit didn't work i don't think there's been one there was once there was um at one of the bonfires okay there was what but that but there was one there was one yeah there was that but later that night then another time it worked and it worked yeah okay now i'm not saying that's right okay i'm not but for me that's the way that is so when people want to know if you want to try to pre-set up stuff with us I'm not, but for me, that's the way that is. So when people want to know, if you want to try to pre-set up stuff with us, I'm going to be really hesitant on that. In fact, most likely, I won't. Plately. When we first got into it, well, no, we were still really spotting. Even when we first got into it, because it, for me personally, it gives me time to be, then all of a sudden I go, well, fuck, what if my work and what yeah so then i have a chance to fuck or i get too excited i'm so excited there's somebody who can atone to this who came out special to an event because we'd set up for me to have thought about it for two weeks leading up to it and then not work you know because i got to jojo Monkey. Now, that's just me. I bring that up because people have to understand just because I like it on the fly, so to speak, doesn't mean that for other people, some people doing it on the fly like that can have the opposite effect. Mike put the opposite can be true. The more you get to know someone, the less interested you are. That can be it. Or for some people, if they don't know someone well enough, they're not comfortable, the attraction's not there. They need to know them deeper. So everybody's different. And it kind of goes you know don't yuck my yum sort of thing type thing but understand if somebody if you approach somebody and we go and we're kind of like vague one we don't want to hurt your feelings two i don't want to shut the door on what could be a possibility just because it's we haven't said yes right now doesn't mean it won't be in the future yeah here's the deal if you try to set something with me i would say well you know i don't know no no but if we're the same party and you know what we're talking and having a great time and all of a sudden you go you know would you be interested in hooking up i'm gonna be like fuck yeah let's go it's nothing personal but you have to you we have to be willing to understand each other a little bit more than i think we do and i think that's the problem with the lifestyle right now or anything in life is that we we get in our own little world right and we don't really actually think we we say or we try to believe that we're thinking about other people but we're really not okay going back to the original question most women that get overly aggressive and touch when they're not supposed to if in a normal situation if you replayed that situation to them involving somebody else you you had two actors acting it out they would be like that is horrible that shouldn't be happening they just don't they're not seeing it from that same perspective in their minds they're flirting they're having fun i'm not saying all the time i think to a large degree it's the same way sometimes with guys they think they're touching a butt in their mind they're flirting but if you could actually show it to them you know watching actors they'd be like well wait a minute no you shouldn't do that no but you also have to understand that that certain people see things different yes in terms of if someone touches my butt, okay, I have a big ass, touch it. It's not something... certain people see things different in terms of if someone touches my butt, okay, I have a big ass, touch it. It's not something sexual to me. It just isn't. Yes, I have a big butt. People are like, ooh, I want to touch your butt. Okay, touch it. It's not a sexual thing to me. Right. Some people are like, ooh, can I touch your tits? Yeah, okay. But the key is right there is, can I? Right. If someone does it without asking, you know, do I find it sexual? No. But sometimes there can be a line. It depends on my mood. Sometimes I'm like, oh, my God, can you just believe he was just, like, totally grabbing my t depends on my mood sometimes I'm like oh my god can you just believe he was just like totally grabbing my tits other times I'm like eh yeah but what do I say to you all the time what see there's why I'm going to just pretend that she it's not that she doesn't listen she just doesn't remember it's the age thing no what did I tell you all the time I'm like you're two fucking nice people yeah you do now i can honestly say and now i'm gonna preface this this is not us being arrogant it just is the truth and whether you believe it or not i don't fucking care it is what it is there are times that we have let things fly with us because we have a show not that we think we're better it's the very fact that we don't think we're better than anybody but it's like well but we feel like the numbers have increased because of it we'll put it right and so you know yes when we walked through the crowd the woman bit my ass okay did i did i go to the party people and say what the fuck no it was your party no that wasn't my party oh no it wasn't was it did i do that no did i let it go a little bit because that we're casbah we we have we have a show we have sponsors sponsors. We put on events.
Speaker2:
Yes.
Speaker1:
In hindsight, looking back, is that something I would continue to do? No, it's not. Because the realization is you are perpetuating it. And when my nut got ruptured i should have fucking lowered the fucking boom like hardcore uh quite honestly i should have i i should have made the motherfucker facebook famous is what it should have happened because it was that wrong you look a nut it is they're gentle but they're not that gentle okay but we didn't in hindsight the reason why that's wrong is it did not take and help other people avoid that happening now the person that happened that happened to it found out oh really uh and has since cooled their jets substantially well quit drinking for one but it's one of those things this is where we all have that responsibility to try to make the lifestyle better you know there's going to be we're about to go there's some pool parties coming up big ones like we really want to go to oklahoma city to the their big their big pool party you know what i've seen the pictures holy fucking shit does it look fun hedo we're going to be at hedo we're going to be going to orlando for a couple big events and a lot of these we're going to be at Hedo. We're going to be going to Orlando for a couple of big events. And a lot of these, we're going to be going to these big events, and there's a lot of nakedness, and there's a lot of fun. And there's one constant theme, though, at all of them. It's a message that constantly is having to be re-preached. Consent. Because you hear the same issues over and over and over again and the thing is is we have to do something about it people have to do something about it you have to write people you have to you know what you shouldn't have to have your spouse play a protection game but if that's what you need to do then you need to do it but party host if you're putting on an event and that means like a house party that means like you're hosting a meet and greet that means anything somebody comes up to you and tells you there's something going on and it it is not the traditional gender roles that's creating the issue i.e it's not a guy touching a woman. It's the other way around. You have to do something about it.
Speaker3:
You have to. When you had a girlfriend and we were walking through a club, she kept getting her ass grabbed by another female.
Speaker1:
Yes, she did.
Speaker3:
And she went, oh, my God, someone keeps grabbing my ass. I'm like, well, who? You know, we'll stop it.
Speaker1:
But we didn't know who was doing it. We didn't know. was on high fucking alert because she figured out it was it was a girl because and it comes to find out she wasn't even part of the group no but my initial response was what what guy is touching your ass you know i'm ready to go on the fucking warpath right ironically enough it was a female it just it look it happens and and here's the other thing let's say you're at a party you have too much drink or whatever the case may be and you you don't use good judgment a mistake happens and you touch somebody and they turn and go you know they bitch at you as well they should what do you what do you do you fucking own it for one and go i am so sorry i apologize and then get yourself under control use it as an opportunity to learn that to of what you did i think that people go well you know i was just i was too drunk that night and so that's no no it's not just learning how to control your booze or your weed or anything else no that's not it it's learn how to control your fucking brains and keep your hands to yourself look with your goddamn eyes liquid courage gives them gives them the courage but doesn't give them a voice to ask and loose fingers i mean but the thing is it does happen look it can happen we can all we're dealing with sex so when you're dealing with sex it's easy to misread a sign okay if you're not sure i would much as a guy as a guy if we're talking about another male another male with you i would much rather have a guy say to you i really want to to blah, whatever it is. Hopefully he doesn't go blah. And you go, what's blah? And he goes, well, blah. No, but I really want to whatever. And then have you bitch at the car and go, all he had to do was just, I gave him all the signs. I'd much rather have to have the discussion with you saying, he's just making sure he's not misreading it. Just like I would much rather have a girl say to me I just really want to blah because I'll be like yeah you can blah me whatever you know I really I and have me go yeah that's really fun and have you have to when I go god all she do is reach out and grab my neck have you go later she just didn't want to misread the signs yeah i'd much rather have that happen because the worst thing that we get is well so we brought this new couple they were all excited and this you know this girl was not by and she just this chick wouldn't leave her alone and now they're never coming back we've seen that or you know what or like this guy well you know what or like shannon's talked about it you know what i'm not i'm not doing shit because you know what, or like this guy, well, you know what, or like Shannon's talked about it, you know what, I'm not doing shit because, you know. Look, ladies, you don't want every guy to be afraid to talk to you. No. And guys, we don't want every woman to be afraid to talk to you. We don't want to be 13 and all be on separate sides of the room. And this isn't a case of mother may I, but you know what, it's better to ask permission permission i think about going shopping and my mom would go put your hands in your pocket so you don't touch yeah no shit yeah no shit yeah and and mike puts okay mike and chairman may i blank basic rules of of consent exactly you know what and look here's the deal if someone gets pissed off and go well you know if you're not man enough just to do it or you you can't figure it out well then fuck you that you don't want to play with them anyways and even if you've played with them before doesn't give you an excuse to do it like there was one time i had played with a girl and it had been a couple of years since i had seen her and she followed me into the bathroom and proceeded she was extremely drunk and proceeded to pull my shirt down to suck on my nipples and i'm just like okay knowing that's as far as it was gonna go i let her and i didn't say anything but i'm just like okay yeah even talking to me okay good uh jenny put in that this is great i think it's sexy when a guy asks yeah it shows it shows you're interested. You know what? As a guy, it's sexy when a woman asks to. I mean, it really is. Look, and we all know there's fun and around things, and then if you couldn't do it at your job, or no, let's do it this way, okay, without me looking at Miss Amanda, if you did it at your job and got caught doing it and would be fired for it, then you shouldn't do it at a swinger event without permission. True. That's a real basic, simple rule of thumb. It's kind of like don't get a tattoo that you don't want on your body to be seen you know don't if you don't it's the same thing look just because it's a swinger event doesn't mean you can just grope at work you wouldn't walk up and just fucking put a big old fucking hand clamp on a dude's cock well i mean you wouldn't even with your boyfriend no i wouldn't no but i mean it's it's the it's the same thing. If you can't do it, if you did it at your work, and that would be sexual harassment, it's sexual harassment without permission. Now, granted, a lifestyle thing, if you walked up at work and went, hey, can I touch your junk? Someone might go, what the fuck? But at a lifestyle thing, you know what? They're probably going to go, well, sure, that's sweet. All right, fine. It takes two seconds to ask it does not make you it asking if asking kills the mood doesn't make it sexy well then you're fucked because how are you going to deal with the condom issue later how are you gonna i mean it it's just not it's not gonna okay so before it's time to like go good night sweetheart he said okay so give him ideas on how to handle it. So run him off since it was a big discussion. Tell party hosts. Yeah, tell party hosts. So what if you're at a bar? If you're at a placement of where you're at, always have someone, a wing person by you. Or go to a group of people. He said that earlier. Go to a group of people. Yep, go to a group of people. So if your wife can't be there, if you have another female friend that you can confide in that's going to be there to kind of be your backup, your backup wife, so to speak, do that. Be around people.
Speaker3:
But go around people so when they can hear you say no.
Speaker1:
Yep, be around people. Don't mislead. I need to put that in there, okay? Okay. As a guy or a girl people don't mislead i need to put that in there okay okay as a guy or a girl don't mislead look you can't sit there and you know rub on and and go out to the dance oh i was just dancing rubbing your crotch all over her ass and all this shit dancing dirty dancing and then come back be surprised when she's fucking turned on don't mislead. Have control of your own body and your own actions and think about how they will affect what other people will think. Control your booze. Make sure that you know how much you've drank at all times. I'm the world's worst at it.
Speaker5:
I get it.
Speaker1:
But seriously, know how much you drank.
Speaker2:
Okay?
Speaker1:
Because you've got to be... The rules change if you're drunk. Did you say it? Did you lead it on? Do you know for sure? Finally, if you have someone that consistently does this and it's going to be awkward, don't hang out with them. Yeah, avoid the situation. Life is too short. There's a lot of places and things we don't go and do because, well, we're like not everybody loves everybody right some people yeah you know things just you just don't quite get along avoid the situation it's a it's a real simple thing to do you know so if someone is always the problem then you need to let your wife know or your group of friends i'm like hey you know what i appreciate it but we're gonna skip why well i just don't feel comfortable when there was one single female that used to attach to your side every time she saw you if we knew she was going to be there we didn't go no yeah we would specifically avoid it and it's not that she groped you she ear raped you maybe oh yeah but it was more like no i don't want my whole entire evening to avoid creating a situation because here's the deal people could tell if i was agitated and i don't want to ruin other people's nights and here's the deal yeah we maybe missed some activities we wanted to but we went to a different activity instead we still had a good time versus all the way home you having to listen to me just go fucking wouldn't leave me the fuck alone goddamn fuck you know you didn't have to listen to that shit usually usually i was passed out anyways in the car just saying it's true where's cole he's puking on the side of the road again neat uh so those are some suggestions so i hope uh besides learning that you blow on a chicken's ass to piss them off and there's the other thing if there's a blow on their ass and see if they'll go away no don't do that um where are we at a show is it time yeah it's time to go really uh all right so let's give time to do all your i wanted to get one in it helps ratings hey don't forget to listen to us on fullswapradio.com. By the way, you can also download the app. That would be FS Radio for Android. There's one coming soon for that other thing. iPhone. Apples. Yeah, Apple-y. But yeah, don't forget to visit us and listen to us. It's a lot of fun. So shout out again to our sponsors. Again, Meet how do you do it you go to what a meet and greet there you go that's it good job punk we didn't practice that you go to the meet and greet uh all playground.net join today see where they're having meet and greets all over the country check them out uh they are a lot of fun you'll find us there's the big wall there's. There's a podcast corner. There's all kinds of cool shit. Cool shit. Yeah, so check them out, altplayground.net. And also, remember, I still got meat in my teeth because it was good eating. Good eating, because it really was. Smoking meat barbecue treats. That's right, because you know what what's the slogan it's better shared i love it uh so check them out on uh facebook go to smoke and meat barbecue treats today sign up get on their mailing list and shoot an email again uh the you've got lemon pepper is out orange mango habanero no orange mango habanero that pink hallelujah i'm like i'm like no pink himalayan look here's and and the the rub of the lifestyle pineapple paradise here's the thing i may not be able to say it but i like to fucking eat it and that's all that matters it's good eating uh check them out today. Good friends of ours, new company, support new lifestyle businesses. Smoking meats, barbecue treats. And remember, tits may sag, balls may drop, but a mind will last forever. Sort of, unless you do coke. Anyway, so smart swingers read. Check out asnlifestylemagazine.com today. Three million swingers can't be wrong. Be three million one, three million two, three million three. Ah, million three ah ah ah ah check them out today and finally check out crazy casbah.com our site uh visit us and don't forget to go get you've listened to the show you've read the mag go get some fucking swag at full shop full swap shop.com you can send us an email at crazy.casbah shut up bitch crazy.casbah gmail.com fucking hate you you pick on me i need an adult You're welcome. com you can send us an email at crazy.casba shut up bitch crazy.casba gmail.com you can pick on me i need an adult uh as well as you can find us on twitter at truth crazy you can find us on instagram we have listed places you can find us on youtube uh which would be the youtube.com backslash casba check us out send stuff talk to us all over the place wherever we should go yes that tired you drink a water with that being said we're doing it the only way we know how the only way we want to and the only way we ever motherfucking will blowing on chicken asses to keep people happy casbah style out
